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PostPosted: Sun Jun 30, 2013 5:37 am 
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hello guyz i dont know if others have this but its something that comes from my unconscious mind.
i will explain .

when i see a girl that i like i dont think anything i dont think fear i dont think im ugly or i dont care if i get rejected or not
i dont think any of that.Now my problem is to go and speak with her.. i say to my self "lets go shes looking at you" but when i start moving something stops me from going to her and have fun. i cant explain it
its something unconscious that i cant control..

im stucked at this. i feel so disapointed becouse i have missed sooo many chances...
girls looking at me and i dont do shit becouse something hold me back...
also my friends doesnt help at all they suck with girls i told to them
"lets go to speak with this group" and they said no.. and i think that negative energy they project
its a problem too.But i dont care about my friends if they want to meet girls or not
I want to go solo but i cant becouse of this unconscious anxiety that i dont know how to beat

i know its very funny to meet new girls even if you take a number or not that feeling you got after you met a new girl its the best
im trying to think that emotion every time but it doesnt help :(

i have done some aproaches not many but... i want to get what i want .. i want to get every girl i like or at least do my best and have fun...
I think im so close to change my life and that thing holds me back

if someone can give me some tips about it how to beat that shit i will apriciate it.


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PostPosted: Sat Jul 13, 2013 12:53 pm 
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You can look up posts on AA or approach anxiety. It's a problem almost all of us have, so it's been well documented and there's a million ways to look at it.

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hello guyz i dont know if others have this but its something that comes from my unconscious mind.
i will explain .

when i see a girl that i like i dont think anything i dont think fear i dont think im ugly or i dont care if i get rejected or not
i dont think any of that.Now my problem is to go and speak with her.. i say to my self "lets go shes looking at you" but when i start moving something stops me from going to her and have fun. i cant explain it
its something unconscious that i cant control..

im stucked at this. i feel so disapointed becouse i have missed sooo many chances...
girls looking at me and i dont do shit becouse something hold me back...
also my friends doesnt help at all they suck with girls i told to them
"lets go to speak with this group" and they said no.. and i think that negative energy they project
its a problem too.But i dont care about my friends if they want to meet girls or not
I want to go solo but i cant becouse of this unconscious anxiety that i dont know how to beat

i know its very funny to meet new girls even if you take a number or not that feeling you got after you met a new girl its the best
im trying to think that emotion every time but it doesnt help :(

i have done some aproaches not many but... i want to get what i want .. i want to get every girl i like or at least do my best and have fun...
I think im so close to change my life and that thing holds me back

if someone can give me some tips about it how to beat that shit i will apriciate it.
Hey man!

I can completely relate to your situation because I'd gone through exactly the same
kind of shit for years until two years ago when I had an aha moment and realized that
going out to just bold approach and pick up random women was something that I forced
myself into and never really enjoyed.

That said, what I'm going to discuss next are why picking up women is also most likely
not something that you truly enjoy and why you should never try to beat your approach
anxiety because your approach anxiety is actually your best friend saving you from
getting into troubles and protecting your overall mental health.

First things first. There're two important steps that you should take in order
to start getting your life back to the right path of reaching your true happiness
and your inner peace not only around meeting women but also in your whole life:

1. You need to immediately stop doing what makes you feel under pressure or
feel forced into doing it, because chances are that what you've been doing
so far are not the things that you truly love and enjoy. If you did truly love it
and enjoy it, you'd feel so much at ease that you'd do it as effortlessly as 1-2-3.

If you don't stop forcing yourself into doing what you don't truly enjoy and what
constantly makes you feel anxious and under pressure, you'll most likely get stuck
in an addiction. I'll tell you more about how I ended up being a sexual addict with
the symptoms of two most common and dangerous personality disorders among
men who're busy boldly approaching random women just to pick them up and have
sex with them later in this post.

2. You need to invest some time and effort in pinpointing your true passions in
life, because without living your true passions you will definitely stay being extremely
unhappy and anxious.

As for identifying your true passions, I'd warmly recommend that you read the bestselling
book "The Passion Test: The Effortless Path To Discovering Your Life Purpose"
(by Chris and Janet Attwood) that hugely enlightened me to the experience of my own
breakthrough on the same matter.

When it comes to knowing what you need to change and why you need to change it in
order to stop being stuck in your anxiety and constantly feeling under pressure with
regards to both improving your relationships with women and reaching your overall true
happiness in your every day life, I'm now going to try to inspire you to start thinking in
the right direction of getting there as soon as possible.

A good way for me to inspire you to start thinking in the right direction is to share with you
one of my favorite Bruce Lee's quotes that says:

"We do not become, we simply are."

Chances are that what initially pushed you into that frustrating anxiety around approaching
and picking up random women are most likely the following two things:

a) trying very hard to become somebody who you are not while desperately trying to
adopt and live by the model of behavior that doesn't really suit your true personality, and

b) getting seduced into believing that picking up an endless number of women just to have
sex with them is really something that you could call part of your true happiness or passion,
while in fact, this very activity is nothing but part of a pure obsession that you don't truly
enjoy and that in the first place you've subconsciously got forced to believe that you should
enjoy no matter what, because somebody taught you that this is the way of how you become
that ideal alpha man.

What I'm trying to point out to you here is that like many other guys including myself who ended up
in the pickup arts community mainly because our self esteem got badly hurt sometime during our early
age and all we're now trying to do is just lift it up or fix it through gaining a kind of sexual gratification
based on sleeping with as many women as possible in our lifetime, you seem to be stuck in exactly
the same kind of situation.

Before I go on telling you a little bit of my story, let me ask you a simple question.

Have you ever asked yourself that important "Do I really enjoy it?" question
when trying to attract and pick up women?

Asking myself this question was a huge light bulb moment in my life, because it helped me realize
that everything I was doing in the area of attracting and picking up women for years was purely
the result of just acting under the pressure - the unnecessary pressure of constantly forcing myself
into doing what I didn't really love and enjoy at all.

What made me keep forcing myself to boldly approach random women just to pick them up as my
sexual objects was both my initial belief that doing it was part of my true passion and also my
adopted pickup arts conditioning that was constantly pushing me into my sexual advances with
random women just for the sake of not feeling guilty of missing out on any pickup opportunities
when I get back home later.

Guess what. I was wrong when trying to identify my true passion.

All my sexual advances that I was constantly forcing myself into were a pure obsession that
I now like to call my false passion.

My pickup and sex obsession started mainly as the outcome of dating related peer pressure
from my childhood.

I got stuck in this obsession for two reasons:

a) I initially didn't fit in the social circles of my peers because I didn't really like most of
their behaviors, and

b) my inner resistance toward the peer pressure grew so much that I gradually got myself
into thinking of creating my own international playboy lifestyle surrounded by the most
beautiful women that I'd have lots of fun and sex with for the rest of my life.

As a result, my pickup and sex obsession got me stuck in a long-term sexual addiction with
the symptoms of the two most common men's mental disorders known as borderline personality
disorder and narcissistic personality disorder.

Now here's an important thing that I'd really like you to understand.

The situation where you feel anxious and reserved about approaching random women is actually
not a bad thing. Let me explain.

Your approach anxiety is like your guardian angel protecting you from getting stuck in the kind
of obsession I told you about a minute ago. It's there to protect you from getting in the bad habit
of constantly feeling under pressure of having to necessarily approach and pick up random women
wherever you go. It's also there to protect you from being fed up with and feeling guilty of missing
out on the opportunities to approach and pick up women.

Here're two reasons why your approach anxiety is your best friend and why you should not try
to beat it or overcome it in any way:

1) Again, your approach anxiety is there to save you from getting trapped in the situation that
you wouldn't naturally feel comfortable with and wouldn't really enjoy it in a long run. By the way,
I'm saying "in a long run" because most of us when we get stuck in chasing an obsession,
we're seduced to believe that what we're doing is really something that we fully love and enjoy
doing.

2) Trying to beat your approach anxiety by getting in the habit of boldly approaching
as many random women in a day as possible is not only a form of validation seeking but
also something that will push you into an endless out-of-control, self destructive and
compulsive sexual behaviors that are characteristic of the behaviors of guys who suffer
from borderline and narcissistic personality disorders.

By the way, I'm neither a psychiatrist nor a psychologist but just a guy like you who got
involved in the pickup community just to learn the game while never thinking of any mental
health dangers as the result of doing it.

Today I'm proud to say that I have a solid knowledge about the two most common men's
mental heath disorders that come purely as the outcome of practising the pua game: borderline
personality disorder and narcissistic personality disorder.

As you can guess, I got into the trouble of learning about these mental disorders because my
severe approach anxiety (that I'd never ever experienced before) was getting worse and worse
and making me feel so distressed even at the times I was about to just take a short trip to my
local supermarket to buy something that I really felt I was not only losing my mental health but
also losing my whole self at such a fast speed that was out of my control.

In short, my one year long mental health educational journey got me to learn the 3 main
causes of all my pains and struggles linked with being involved in the game:

a) the first thing that got me in the habit of constantly pushing myself to boldly approach random
women in different social situations was my approach anxiety, because my approach anxiety
subconsciously became my main motivational trigger that was making me boldly approach
random women especially in high-risk social situations.

The more approach anxiety I felt, the more encouraged and motivated I was to approach a
random woman no matter what kind of situation she was in and who she was potentially with
at the time.

b) the second thing that got me in the same unhealthy habit of constantly forcing myself to
boldly approach any random woman that I was sexually attracted to was an abnormal sense
of entitlement. I later realized that I'd absorbed this sense of entitlement and got it to become
part of my personality through the process of learning the game since most pua trainers often
teach guys to feel entitled to freely approach any woman they like.

As the result of my mental health research, I learned that one of the main behavioral traits
of the guys who suffer from narcissistic personality disorder is exactly the same kind of
unhealthy sense of entitlement when boldly approaching random women anywhere they go.

c) the self-destructive habit of constantly forcing myself to boldly approach random women
in dangerous, high-risk situations is one of the main behavioral traits of sociopaths and the
guys who suffer from borderline personality disorder.

In short, the most common symptom of the men suffering from borderline personality disorder
is boldly engaging in dangerous life situations. In terms of dating and picking up women, this
refers to any kind of out-of-control, compulsive sexual behavior where a man often stupidly
exposes himself to an unnecessary risk or danger of getting harmed in one way or another,
because he starts to feel guilty if he doesn't take the challenge of getting himself involved
in such situation.

By the way, what I've just shared with you are also the symptoms of sexual addiction.

So, this is exactly how my initial pickup and sex obsession turned into a long-term sexual
addiction with the symptoms of borderline and narcissistic personality disorders.

And, here's the conclusion I got to after I finally got myself out of this whole trouble.

I got stuck in the vicious circle of anxiety-driven, out-of-control, compulsive sexual behaviors
around meeting women for years purely because of my childhood's hurt self-esteem that I
desperately wanted to lift up by sleeping with as many women in my entire lifetime as possible
just to be able to defiantly show off to my peers how sexually powerful and successful with
women I was.


The bottom line is this: You're very likely to end up both being constantly unhappy with yourself
and getting addicted to doing various unnecessary things that you don't really love and enjoy when
you don't follow and live your true passions which are the things that you actually love and enjoy.
Once you start living closely aligned with your true passions, you'll end up waking up every morning
super excited and fulfilled while having both that important clarity of what your next steps are and
a clear vision of your dream success. As a result, your desired inner peace will naturally fall into
place.

Hope you find this post enlightening and helpful.

Bruno

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FREE Report: "From False Passion For Picking Up Women Through Sexual Addiction To Redemption"


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