Masturbation's effects on Social Shyness



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PostPosted: Thu Sep 25, 2008 2:57 am 
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ive watched plenty of porn, almost every kind there is. (ive even seen a cumshot from the inside of a vagina meaning the camera was inside facing out).

Today i was walking behind a girl wearing a very light yellow dress, it was soft material and when the wind blew it carresed and hugged her curves. I could smell her from 20 feet away, she smelled like coco butter with a hint of vanilla. I noticed also that everytime the wind blew you could see her underwear hugging her ass. I got a boner and was filled with desire. Nothing comes close to the real thing, porn cant compare.


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My goal is to illiminate it completely.

As murdoc masturbation has always had a negative connotation for me and when i do it i feel pathetic.

it reminds me of turtle from entourage who consistently has trouble getting laid and is addicted to weed. Do vince or e talk about masturbation? No, because they get LAID.

For me its an addiction and something i no longer want to do. if I need to get off let me meet up with a female friend. If I can't get it immediately let me take the oppurtunity to harness my sex drive and not indulge.

The idea of instant gratification that masturbation brings causes me to be more needy in my interactions. I feel as though i should be able to get sex quickly and this can cause the comfort stage to be prematurely moved from.


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I used to "flog" daily or before dates because of the aforementioned reasons. I thought itd make me feel more relaxed and not put so much mental pressure on me to "do the deed". What ive realized as of late is that it makes me feel socially awkward as though im branded and people can see that ive had to resort to that because i couldnt get it from a woman. Makes me feel as though its a failure that is somehow projected from me that people can see. Not sure if this is just me or directly related but im almost positive that if i set a weekly schedule it will help me to overcome this fear and project more confidence out in public with women.


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I stand by what I said earlier but it looks like the placebo effect from not doing it is really helping you guys...so i'll keep my peace.


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Masterbation makes you in a way, anti-social. One of the main reasons we go outside and interact with people is to increase our chances of finding someone to replicate with. When you masterbate it tricks your brain into thinking that you're replicating enough at home. The other main factor the keeps us at home is survival. you are much safer at home then u are outside. so ur brain in a way says, if ur getting laid at home, why do you even need to go out anymore?
ie. if everyday of ur life a different model were to come to your house and fuck you, would u feel the need to go outside to socialize? nope.

When i masterbate i feel like shit and stuff and when im at the point that i really want to masterbate, it shows me that i really do need to sarge harder


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siiiigh....im sorry...just...no. Don't use 'science" to prove your point...masturbation does not "trick" your brain, do you really think we didn't masturbate while evolving? In fact, orgasm produces oxytocin, which is good for being social. Go look it up.


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My theory on this is the less you masturbate the more focused and sometimes confident you can be. Not sure whether thats to do with the increase in testosterone you have.

But I also noticed that if your not cummin regularly enough (via sex, masturbation or other means) after a while your sex drive decreases as your body adapts to not ejaculating often.

Ejaculating as often as 5-7 times a week can be sufficient though.

Now talking from my own experience, I stopped masterbating for a couple of months and noticed I became more confident, more focused and less sociably shy. I havent seen any scientific evidence about this but in regards to your question about masterbation effecting social shyness I say the less you do it the more sociable confident you can be (judging by my own experience).


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when im depressed i normally masturbate. a lot. ive done it 12 times a day once. recently ive been depressed and havent masturbated often. now i feellike complete shit. i have no confidence, dont feel good about anything and feel even worse with women than ive ever been. i dont want to go out sarging cos its really not me. im not a technical pick up artist. hellim not even a pickup artist. i tried loads of the techniques and none of them worked because basically a lot of it is bullshit. like the games and stuff youplay with em. what a load of social shite. anywas, anyone have any ideas to help me with girls? pm me


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I think masterbation has caused my dick to not work right anymore. I used to masterbate all the time. I'm always thinking about women so i would go home and masterbate. Even when I had a GF I would still rather masterbate. Now, my dick is not as hard and it won't stay up. It's like half mast. It makes me not even want to have sex because it's annoying how it won't stay up. I'm going to try the not masterbating for a week or however long it takes.

Does anyone know of any other reasons why it all of a sudden doesn't work now?

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Well I'd say that you beat your meat when the urge strikes. Especially before you go out sarging.
Hasn't anybody seen There's Something About Mary?
If not, let me give a little transcript:

Ted: I don't know Dom. I don't feel good. I feel nervous. I really feel nervous
Dom: Oh come on relax. You been to the cash machine?
Ted: Yeah
Dom: Car clean?
Ted: Uh huh
Dom: Plenty of gas?
Ted: Uh huh
Dom: Um breath how's your breath?
Ted: It's fine I had some altoids.
Dom: Alright I think you're all set. So just go clean the pipes and lets go.
Ted: Huh?
Dom: You know clean the pipes.
Ted: What do you mean clean the pipes?
Dom: You choke the chicken before any big date don't you? Tell me you spank the monkey before any big date. Oh my God he doesn't flog the dolphin before a big date. Are you crazy? That's like going out there with a loaded gun! Of course that's why you're nervous.
Dom: Look, after you've had sex with a girl and you're lying in bed with her, are you nervous?
Ted: No
Dom: No no you're not. Why?
Ted: Because I'm tired.
Dom: Wrong! It's cause you ain't got the baby batter in the brain anymore. That stuff will fuck your head up! Look, the most honest moment in a mans life are the few minutes after he's blown his load. Now that is a medical fact. And the reason for it is that you're no longer trying to get laid you're actually thinking like a girl and girls love that.
Ted: Holy shit! I've been going out with a loaded gun.
Dom: People get hurt that way.


So, yes... do it. Gets rid of the jitters, and frees your mind. It'll help you focus on your game, the routines, and your confidence.
If at any moment of the day I feel most confident, it's right after pounding the pud.

MY POST CONTAINS THERE'S SOMETHING ABOUT MARY SPOILERS!



Dom was also trying to ruin Ted's chances with Mary because she was his Ex if I remember correctly. I don't know if Dom knew Mary was Ted's date at that point in the movie though so he might not have had a reason to be deceptive.


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so thats what they meant by that ....... i am such a dumbass .. i always thought the guy meant to go pee ... to relieve tension ...


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Well I'd say that you beat your meat when the urge strikes. Especially before you go out sarging.
Hasn't anybody seen There's Something About Mary?
If not, let me give a little transcript:

Ted: I don't know Dom. I don't feel good. I feel nervous. I really feel nervous
Dom: Oh come on relax. You been to the cash machine?
Ted: Yeah
Dom: Car clean?
Ted: Uh huh
Dom: Plenty of gas?
Ted: Uh huh
Dom: Um breath how's your breath?
Ted: It's fine I had some altoids.
Dom: Alright I think you're all set. So just go clean the pipes and lets go.
Ted: Huh?
Dom: You know clean the pipes.
Ted: What do you mean clean the pipes?
Dom: You choke the chicken before any big date don't you? Tell me you spank the monkey before any big date. Oh my God he doesn't flog the dolphin before a big date. Are you crazy? That's like going out there with a loaded gun! Of course that's why you're nervous.
Dom: Look, after you've had sex with a girl and you're lying in bed with her, are you nervous?
Ted: No
Dom: No no you're not. Why?
Ted: Because I'm tired.
Dom: Wrong! It's cause you ain't got the baby batter in the brain anymore. That stuff will fuck your head up! Look, the most honest moment in a mans life are the few minutes after he's blown his load. Now that is a medical fact. And the reason for it is that you're no longer trying to get laid you're actually thinking like a girl and girls love that.
Ted: Holy shit! I've been going out with a loaded gun.
Dom: People get hurt that way.


So, yes... do it. Gets rid of the jitters, and frees your mind. It'll help you focus on your game, the routines, and your confidence.
If at any moment of the day I feel most confident, it's right after pounding the pud.

MY POST CONTAINS THERE'S SOMETHING ABOUT MARY SPOILERS!



Dom was also trying to ruin Ted's chances with Mary because she was his Ex if I remember correctly. I don't know if Dom knew Mary was Ted's date at that point in the movie though so he might not have had a reason to be deceptive.
Have you people forgotten that it is MOVIES AND PARENTS THAT TURN US INTO AFC'S?!?

i will bet money that if you watch one of those sappy love movies and do the shit that the guy does in it to "get the girl" you'll get hit with LJBF quicker than you can even think about number closing. Girls arent interested in guys that think like they do cause if your not some what sexually aggressive how are you gonna have sex with her? Shes going to "accidently" fall on your dick when the both of you get back to your place?

Beating it is the worse thing you can do before a date. why? cause you hand can stimulate the nerves in your dick better than her pussy can. you can freely adjust how tight and fast you want with your hand which is why it'll be harder to "get off" if you have sex with her esp since most likely you'll be using a condom where you cant feel as much. Also it wont matter much to you if you go home and fuck this chick CAUSE YOU ALREADY RELIEVED YOUR SEXUAL FRUSTRATION.

IMO going out to get laid while low on semen is like going out to war while low on ammo. your pretty much fighting a losing battle :?

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IMO going out to get laid while low on semen is like going out to war while low on ammo. your pretty much fighting a losing battle
MITHOS is on point. agree 100%


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I went without jackin' it for thirty days at one point. Here's what I learned.

You WILL start to get unusually horny after a few days, which is good. But it doesn't get better. After that, you just get crabby and less horny. I don't know what the scientific explanation is, but there's a "sweet spot" that you can hit, and then after that you might as well just beat it again.

Human beings are supposed to masturbate. It's normal. All animals do it. Just figure out how long you should go without smackin' it so you can get the effect you want, and wait THAT long before you go out.

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I went without jackin' it for thirty days at one point. Here's what I learned.

You WILL start to get unusually horny after a few days, which is good. But it doesn't get better. After that, you just get crabby and less horny. I don't know what the scientific explanation is, but there's a "sweet spot" that you can hit, and then after that you might as well just beat it again.

Human beings are supposed to masturbate. It's normal. All animals do it. Just figure out how long you should go without smackin' it so you can get the effect you want, and wait THAT long before you go out.
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you went for a month? that's crazy, I can make it 8 days. That's my record


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