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Author:  bobbytjones [ Fri Aug 26, 2011 5:04 pm ]
Post subject:  Is She Interested? I May Need To Be Smacked!
Here's a long rundown of this girl I've been interested in. Is she interested?

First things first. I am in a position as her superior as to where I am 'allowed' to date her but doing so would be frowned upon and would put me in a position of dislike with other people that are in her position. I have decided it is worth the risk but I'm still trying to be 100% sure she is interested in case she isn't and I make a move, then she may start telling some people.

So I'm now an AFC. I use to be alright, then I was in a 5 year relationship including marriage for 2 years. Since getting out of it I'm struggling.

So here's the back story. I've known this girl vaguely for 2 years but was married then. Sometime in the late spring she found out I was divorced and then the first time I randomly saw her out in the early summer she gave me a huge hug and proceeded to tell me I was her most trusted superior, blah blah.

Same night a friend of mine tells her she should get with me (i had no knowledge of this).

I text her the next night and from then on we text on a regular basis with her initiating probably 60-70% of the time. With her often just telling me random stuff, like she just had to tell somebody and she chose me.

A couple days later we spend all day at a rafting festival with her and 2 other guys but we end up off alone talking for a good portion of it.

Then there are a few occasions where she starts a FB chat with me even though she is well know to always have her chat turned off and never uses it.

A couple days later she offers for me to take a day trip with her to a place 4 hours away and after acting not super interested and having her convince me I agree and go with her.

Then on my birthday a week later she manages to make it out, get really drunk and stay out til 2 am even though she has to work at 6 am the next morning.

Now down to the nitty gritty.

Whenever we are out at the bars we always end up sitting by each other and just talking. Often times somehow conversations get very 'serious' and we're both like wow, this is to serious and change the subject. But we get into deep details about our lives that I know she doesn't tell anybody else. Usually there are other guys/friends coming up and chatting with us but the attention always flows back to me and we have constant eye contact. And when other people say stupid shit to her while out she always just looks back to me with a long stare of eye contact.

One night when we were out she asked me, "'you wouldnt go for that, would you?" in reference to the hot ass bartender with the huge rack. (shit test?)

She has a boyfriend. But all she ever says about him is that it's over, there is no way it's going to work and she is trying to find a way to break up with him (he just moved away and will be gone for the next 5 months). She even shows me his lame texts of jealousy sometimes or shows me how her/her friends are making fun of him on facebook. She laughs about these incidences and doesn't even respond to him to try and keep him happy.

Also we were working at a beer cart last week and I made a joke about her giving out to much head (foam) and she laughed really hard and said 'yea, I'm such a whore'

Now the other night she had me over because I made some special dessert that she really wanted. She had brought up that she wanted it 3 times in the previous 4 days. I figured I didn't wanna be her bitch and bring it over so the first night she asked me over I said no. Then the 2nd night I went over but told her I needed something in return and has another idea for us to hang out in mind. I went over there around 10:30 at night and stayed til 1:30. While over there we sat outside and ate the dessert and just talked for 2 hours. We made lots of eye contact, she was messing with her hair a bit, and then her necklaces. I was giving her some kino (grabbed her necklace to ask about it, touched her hair like there was something in it) she seems to be totally comfortable with my touching but doesn't reciprocate. Her body was also pointed more straight than toward me.

Afterwards we went back inside and just talked more. And then she started showing me some of her favorite music on her computer and went I sat beside her I made sure our legs were touching. Again, she didn't move away, but also didn't kino back at all. A bit later she grabbed her candle while she was sitting on her bed (she has a studio apartment so we were in her room the whole time) and she blew it out and started dipping her fingers in it. So I followed suit and dipped mine and then rubbed the wax all over her leg. Then the wax got on her bed and she said it looked all nasty (almost sure she was implying it was cum) and we both had a good laugh about it. At this point we were both sitting on her bed Then that was about it and I ended up leaving like a little bitch with an awkward hug.

I thought I was fucked but then yesterday she started texting me again.

Other points of interest: A week ago she said she needed to go out because she had another prospect (she didn't end up going out). Was this some sort of test on me?

Some people around have questioned what's going on with us and we both deny anything to those people and together brought up that we aren't gonna be like the others in our positions that got together. (I think she may be testing me with saying she's not gonna in order to gauge what I say).

Now the thing is she hasn't been hanging out with any other guys alone like she has me, she almost always texts me and asks me what I'm doing when she wants to go out, I'm the only one she sits with constantly and makes tons of eye contact with while out.

But on the other hand she said no to a decent number of chances for us to hang out alone as well. And when I was over the other night she hadn't showered and was rather dirty from a hike (not making herself fuckable?)

Now this girl has been known to have alot of guys after her and she keeps alot of them as friends, ones that she isn't interested in. Basically she's a heart breaker. But as far as I know I haven't seen her do the eye contact thing with them, or have them over late at night, or text them with the regularity she does me.

I'm sure I missed lots of stuff but let me know what you all think. Im pretty sure I'm not in the 'friendzone' but i feel if I don't do something quick ill be fucked for good.
Author:  highflyin [ Sun Aug 28, 2011 6:52 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Is She Interested? I May Need To Be Smacked!
first off i'm not sure what your exact profession is but why complicate the office?

second, how long ago were you divorced? without considering a ton of other factors, if you just got divorced women are gonna perceive you as emotionally fragile. it is definitely not a "bad thing" but in terms of a real relationship (as opposed to just sex) it usually makes them cautious because you are perceived as coming with baggage
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