OK bit of a summarised thread subject
I met this girl last sunday, part of a double set, at a festival. Thought she was cute, so found her on facebook, added, and we started messaging a bit.
Feels like the messaging is going pretty good, I can tell she's having fun, putting time and effort in the replies she's sending. So I said she seemed like a cool person, and that we should meet up.
She replied that she felt like she needed to say she has a bf, but wasn't sure if I meant it (meeting up) that way.
So that's pretty much where we're at right now. I'd say there are a few options I have right now.
I could go for a 'yeah whatever' attitude and meet up anyways, I think she'd do that. I'd need to phrase it properly though, probably address the 'if I meant it that way'-thingy in a way, so any suggestions here would be welcome.
I could also play a bit more with her and use a bf destroyer thingy, stuff like this:
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if you talk about how awesome her BF is and exaggerate it to impossible proportions and talk about how they are destined to be together forever, this will cause her to re-evaluate her BF in YOUR TERMS... and be disappointed.
Fourth, if you talk about how horrible a BF YOU would be, and why she would never want to date you, she will start to relate that to HER experience with HER boyfriend. It's sometimes also effective if you do this ironically, telling her how WONDERFUL you would be and then describing all your horrible traits as if they were ideal.
Fifth, use future adventures projection to have her imagining the two of you together. Use this HEAVILY. I cannot stress this enough.
this might work better in real life though.Fourth, if you talk about how horrible a BF YOU would be, and why she would never want to date you, she will start to relate that to HER experience with HER boyfriend. It's sometimes also effective if you do this ironically, telling her how WONDERFUL you would be and then describing all your horrible traits as if they were ideal.
Fifth, use future adventures projection to have her imagining the two of you together. Use this HEAVILY. I cannot stress this enough.
Much appreciated
Gregg
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