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Author:  Century100 [ Thu Aug 25, 2011 4:35 am ]
Post subject:  Does she want me?
My gut feeling tells me she is, because I noticed her checking me out at a party I met her at one week ago.
So I introduced myself, we spoke and laughed a bit, but I was too intimidated to kino properly. I only kino'ed twice upon introduction (once around the arm, once around the waist).

Then she was calling me "Cute", so I lost all confidence and stopped gaming her. I'm quite young looking, so I've been called cute many times throughout my life. From experience it's never a good thing, especially because it was in a "Aww, you're a cutie" kind of way.

But then she added me on facebook and invited me out to her gig on the weekend.
I said "I might come, depending if I'm free. I'll let you know". I assumed she just wanted me there to have more support for her band....but then the following happened.
We spoke for a bit, then a few days later I asked how much entry was.
She said 10 dollars, but shes happy to pay for my entry.
She also was making an effort to continue conversation by asking "So how have you been anyway?" sort of questions.

I know im over analysing this. What are your thoughts? Is she interested?
Or does she see me as a "cute" gay friend? Nothing makes me give up quicker than when a girl calls me "cute" in that sort of way haha.

let me know! thanks :D
Author:  Forcan [ Thu Aug 25, 2011 4:40 am ]
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I would say she is genuinely interested in you. And i tend to think that lot of people will agree with me that the words cute/cutie are compliments. Take them:). Next time try to kino a bit better if you feel that you didn't do a good job last time.

Be confident, i think she likes you.
Author:  DaveUrkel (BlackWhitePU) [ Thu Aug 25, 2011 6:45 am ]
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Yeah, you will have a lot more success if you take that as a compliment (which it very well may be). If you keep thinking "Oh she just thinks I'm cute like a little kid" then you will miss out on the girls who actually were into you. Take it as a compliment, assume she's into you and keep pushing it forward. Thats the only way to know for sure whether or not she likes you.
Author:  Century100 [ Thu Aug 25, 2011 7:11 am ]
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Alright very cool, thankyou.
What should I do to make a better move at her band's performance? Speak to her before hand? Afterwards?
Author:  DaveUrkel (BlackWhitePU) [ Thu Aug 25, 2011 7:17 am ]
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If I were you I might not even go to the performance because she might not get a good chance to talk to you if she has to get ready to go on stage and then afterwards, there might be a lot of other people she has to talk to.
So, I personally would skip the performance, and then call or text her and be like

"Sorry I missed your performance! But I'll make it up to you. Lets go out sometime this week." And then set up a date with her for a specific day.
Author:  Century100 [ Thu Aug 25, 2011 7:24 am ]
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Yeah that makes sense...but what If that makes her think I'm not interested enough?
Author:  Bear56 [ Thu Aug 25, 2011 7:26 am ]
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Two points to make here. The first, learned from experience the hard way, is that no matter how she intended the "cute" comment, if you own it with confidence (even if it's fake confidence!) it plays in you're favour. One of the strongest PUAs I know looks 18. Confidence sells!

In relation to seeing her before the concert. I would keep your distance. Wait to see if any other IOIs come out via chatting, facebook etc. At the show itself she'll probably be pretty busy. As such, any attention she gives you is a massive IOI. I think it's here that you will get a more solid idea of her interest, although it sounds like she is interested!

In relation to skipping it, maybe you should go with a few mates. That way you are there for yourselves, she's not the focus?
Author:  Century100 [ Thu Aug 25, 2011 7:31 am ]
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Excellent idea! Ill invite some friends.
That's perfect, cheers
Author:  Bear56 [ Thu Aug 25, 2011 7:35 am ]
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No worries mate!
Author:  Don Draper [ Thu Aug 25, 2011 2:51 pm ]
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Don't over think. Don't over analyze.

Go there. Listen to some good music(hopefully), enjoy the scene and have a good time with her. Keep the frame light and fun.

She IS interested in you. That's a given.

Now, what you do with that, depends on you. Just be the guy you are now, because that's who she is into.

Good luck.
Author:  Century100 [ Sun Aug 28, 2011 11:29 am ]
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alright guys, good news is that she was interested and I was able to k-close.
We also were together for most of the night, holding each other etc, so I'm feeling like this could possibly be something more.

When should I contact her next? It's nearly been one day since last nights success.
And should I call her? Send an interesting text?

I'd like to set up day 2.
Author:  Don Draper [ Sun Aug 28, 2011 12:33 pm ]
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Look, let me tell you a secret.

If you have had success with a girl, keep in touch with her. No waiting bullshit. Text her, call her whatever. Make her start feeling more and more comfortable and familiar with your presence in her life.

Got it?
Author:  Century100 [ Sun Aug 28, 2011 1:43 pm ]
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Sounds good.
What if that comes across as needy?
Author:  Don Draper [ Sun Aug 28, 2011 4:01 pm ]
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Needy is a state of mind.

Don't overdo with the calling and texting.

Keep them to a level less than what is generally accepted in the society.
Author:  Lodewijkp [ Sun Aug 28, 2011 4:21 pm ]
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Quote:
Look, let me tell you a secret.

If you have had success with a girl, keep in touch with her. No waiting bullshit. Text her, call her whatever. Make her start feeling more and more comfortable and familiar with your presence in her life.

Got it?
don't wait for one week .. just call her or text her every 3 days.... needy is where you say something in order to impress or to seek a reaction like approval.

if you meet a girl you aren't attracted to .. you don't want anything from her you can call her everyday BECAUSE you won't be needy...

if you like someone you will be needy to a certain degree... you have to open up a bit in order to have a interaction going.
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