Thanks man
How did you get back into it??
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| Author: | Century100 [ Sun Aug 21, 2011 2:51 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Slowly, ive become AFC once again...what do I need to do? |
I stopped sarging for ages due to being stressed about lot of things. I kissed a few girls some weeks, but mostly nothing. NOW IM BACK IN THE GAME! With a twist... I'm completely back at square one. Well, not completely. But close to it. You see, I am socially engaging, and getting half a dozen to a dozen facebook invites after every night out (most from girls)...except I doubt myself. SO much, that I don't think I would be able to get any of those girls I met. "They just like me as a friend." And the truth is, that's probably accurate. Because I'm not as flirty, I don't kino due to feeling awkward and just focus on being either meaningful and connecting, or just funny, depending on the person I'm talking to and their mood. Which sucks, because I don't think I'm being viewed as sexually attractive, more just as "That guys cool! I want to be FRIENDS with him". It all boils down to lower confidence. I know I'm good at making friends, and less good at seducing women. Therefore, when going out I'm trying to just make friends because I'm in my comfort zone doing that. The flip side is, I don't actually NEED anymore "friends", I just need babes. Far out. How do I "repair" myself? I already go gym and make sure I dress properly, so I think any confidence boosting stuff will need to be more internalized than how I look...I think. man, it was the worst last night. I was talking to a girl who said I remind her of "Chuck Bass". I noticed she was looking at me, and all these other IOI's. But, due to a lack of sexual escalation (I think), I noticed her attention on me wearing off. She opened up to me and told me about her problems, and then apologised for telling me what she did, and then said I'm really sweet and cute. That is terrible. You have no idea, ive copped that line for years because I look young and am 5'7. And I really liked her too, but I ju st sucked too much to pounce when I had the chance. |
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| Author: | punisher707 [ Sun Aug 21, 2011 2:57 pm ] |
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This happened to me to, I stopped for a while and then I started again. The second time is always the best though, because you get more into it. Don't worry though if you were good once, it's all going to come back to you. |
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| Author: | Century100 [ Mon Aug 22, 2011 7:52 am ] |
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Thanks man How did you get back into it??
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| Author: | Paetar [ Mon Aug 22, 2011 9:52 am ] |
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Look, you already know (partially) what to do. Go out there and do it. Do the thing you were good at before and do it again. You've matured in the meantime, use it to your benefit. Gym = great Clothes = great start "sarging," talking to women - get comfortable HITTING ON WOMEN again. Flirt etc. |
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| Author: | punisher707 [ Mon Aug 22, 2011 1:59 pm ] |
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I got back into game when I started college. During high school I didn't use game that much because I knew most people in my social circle so I didn't have as much passion. During college though I have to game everyday and that makes me passionate about it. I really like to explain my game to people as well. |
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| Author: | Chris101 [ Mon Aug 22, 2011 2:38 pm ] |
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Two words: Social momentum RSD are very big on this concept, and for good reason. You build it up over weeks, days, during the same night... doesn't matter how long it takes, as long as you're consistently going out and taking action, you'll start getting back into a more consistently good state. The kind of state where you're unstifled, having more fun, taking more risks and escalating harder. Have faith in the process! |
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| Author: | vicparkguy83 [ Mon Aug 22, 2011 3:19 pm ] |
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Yea I get this slipping back into AFC thing. I think it's a combination of mindset, losing touch with some of the finer points of outer game, and like the last guy said momentum. Earlier this year I went on this massive 3 month rollercoaster of successes, F-closing almost seemed easy, I think I F-closed 4 girls in May alone. I thought "friggen hell I'm a PUA already!" But then I lost my job and that screwed with my head, and then the snowball effect started, not long after I was out of money, got a bit down, had a couple of dud day 2's and all of sudden I'm back in an AFC mindset. So my mindset went out the window, and then I lost momentum. Can't really give you much feedback on how to recover because I'm trying to do it myself. Basically my plan is to more of everything... more sarging, more direct, more exercising, more risks. |
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| Author: | Don Draper [ Mon Aug 22, 2011 3:23 pm ] |
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Well, there's no switch which can be flicked on/off here and you'll get game accordingly. Don't let it affect you to the extent that you declare yourself to be a lost cause. We have all been there, there are times when you don't get anything and there are times when the whole world is at your feet. Think about the latter when you're at the former and vice-versa. Will keep your grounded and you will never get complacent. Remember who you were, and that should motivate you to succeed again. |
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| Author: | Century100 [ Tue Aug 23, 2011 7:37 am ] |
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Awesome, It's assuring to know I'm not the only one this has happened to! Thanks |
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