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Author:  Danzella [ Thu Aug 18, 2011 11:30 am ]
Post subject:  Does this girl like me or is she just friendly?
I know, another one of these threads, but it's not the same as all the others. Well, maybe it is a little, but I'll really appreciate your input and opinions anyway :lol:

I've know this HB9 for about a year now, whenever she sees me, she always runs up to me and gives me a hug, however its not your ordinary hug, we hold each other for quite a while, and her lower body is pressed against mine, which suggests its not your typical friend hug.

The other night I was with a few friends and quite drunk, we walked through this park and she was there with a couple of her friends, so we went over and talked for a while, during that time, she said that she finds me quite hot, was constantly poking me, blowing small amounts of air into my face and letting me put my arm around her and hug her. We were generally just being playful and teasing each other.

She does have a boyfriend, however (I have a girlfriend, but things are rocky, and I'm wondering if this HB9 could be a potential option) the other night, we were talking, teasing and being playful etc.. and I asked her if she loved her boyfriend, I have no idea why, I just did, she said that she did. I then asked "so you're IN love with him?" and she replied "I love my boyfriend, yes" so, perhaps a slight deflection on that question? It was hard to read her, being drunk.

What do you guys think about it? Obviously I have no intention going for her whilst I have a girlfriend, but say I did break up with her because we keep arguing and stuff, could she be an option?
Author:  GoldDust [ Thu Aug 18, 2011 1:53 pm ]
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You say you've known her for about a year. You are comfortable hugging, teasing, poking. You sound like her gay best friend. Have you ever tried to escalate with her while all this touching is going on?

When your faces are close, slow down your speech, look into her eyes then down at her lips and back to her eyes again. If she does the same, it's on and BAM!

If she isn't into you, she would feel uncomfortable at this stage and break eye contact and try to move away. You probably didn't escalate enough when you first met her to SHOW you were interested in here. Sounds like you're in the deep end of the friend zone. And she has a boyfriend too so there you go.
Author:  Don Draper [ Thu Aug 18, 2011 2:45 pm ]
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She said it twice. She loves her boyfriend. Especially, if she was drunk then it just adds more weight to that.

I'd suggest you to work on your relationship or just find someone else to be attracted to. This girl seems happy with her guy and she's just being affectionate with you.

Don't read too much into things. It always isn't so.
Author:  ProfessorX [ Thu Aug 18, 2011 5:55 pm ]
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Sounds like this chick was doing everything short of buying a billboard saying she's into you.
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.. and I asked her if she loved her boyfriend, I have no idea why, I just did, she said that she did. I then asked "so you're IN love with him?" and she replied "I love my boyfriend, yes" so, perhaps a slight deflection on that question? It was hard to read her, being drunk.
This was a mistake! You forced her to defend her feelings about her boyfriend to you.
Author:  Danzella [ Sat Aug 20, 2011 9:29 am ]
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.. and I asked her if she loved her boyfriend, I have no idea why, I just did, she said that she did. I then asked "so you're IN love with him?" and she replied "I love my boyfriend, yes" so, perhaps a slight deflection on that question? It was hard to read her, being drunk.
This was a mistake! You forced her to defend her feelings about her boyfriend to you.[/quote]

Yeah looking back, I realize it wasn't the best thing I could have said, but I was pretty drunk so at the time, I didn't notice. Still, I doubt it's made much of a huge difference, I actually bumped into her and her boyfriend the next day, she hugged me and said playfully "oh, sobar this time then?" but, she was far less flirty, obviously with her boyfriend being there.

Thanks guys
Author:  KayB [ Sat Aug 20, 2011 9:59 am ]
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Forget about her for now. When(if) you are both single on 1/2-1year and you run into her again is another story.
Author:  EddieFews [ Sat Aug 20, 2011 11:21 am ]
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Interpret her signals however you want. She's obviously attracted to you. You should never question a womens attraction to you. Always assume attraction, otherwise your frame will be all off.

Think about it if you were 100 percent sure she wanted you, how much different would you behave around her? This would raise your confidence to a level that makes you even more attractive. Making her want you more. Now if you convinced yourself that she wants you really bad she will begin to pick up on your vibe and if it's strong enough she has no choice but to believe it aswell. It's called transferring states; look it up.

Interpret every signal a girl gives off as a sign that she wants you. Even if she rolls her eyes say to yourself " she only did that because she wants to bang me" etc.

Never doubt yourself, always have the attitude that she wants you and act accordingly.
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