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| Author: | Xsander [ Sat Aug 13, 2011 2:30 am ] |
| Post subject: | Approach Anxiety Resurfaced |
Does or has anyone had a resurface of approach anxiety? How do you deal with it? Does it get less with time and practice? I've been doing a ton of approaches. I was opening hot chicks on the spot no problem. approach anxiety was abolished, or so I thought. I opened 13 girls the Wednesday before last it went amazing. I was confident with my opener, stories, my ability. Then the next day, I tried to open again and I was nervous as fuck! My facial muscles were tense and twitchy. I managed to open two slightly older women as practice. They were both very unimpressed that I talked to them, my demenor was sketchy and they were suspicious of my intentions towards them. My confidence was bruised. How could I do so well the day before and the next day was utter shit. What's more, after that, I was nervous simply in the presence of my friends...WTF? I decided it would be a good I dea if we all went to a strip club. I wanted to talk to women even if I had to PAY in order to get over whatever paranoia and anxiety turned on. So that's what I did, I chatted up some strippers. It managed to do the trick to an extent. I've had a cold for a little more than a week, I was messed up mentally, I did get some approaches in most days anyway to keep it up, some went okay. I decided to take three days off, til I was fully over my cold. I went out again today, and approach anxiety was high. many many chicken outs! I am okay with opening clerks, or employees. I even chatted up two 8s in a shoe store today, (got pretty nervous a while into the convo though) but my ability to open random women walking arond the mall or grocery store was weak today. I opened one woman leaving the grocery store and immediatly she looked at me like "What the fuck does this guy want" I bailed the interaction real fast. My FEAR is getting that LOOK from these women... you know the one where they look at you real suspicious, like your a skeez bag. My other fear is that in feild game will turn out as lousy as net game like POF. I've got a lot of stuff going on in my mind that's psyching me out. I've been doing "Rules of the Game" and hit a snag at day 10 (add a disqualifyer), now I just keep approaching over and over, trying to get over this one area of pick up. What's the best way to handal this? |
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| Author: | TheFreshPrince [ Sat Aug 13, 2011 5:12 am ] |
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To some degree, it's inner game. You just have to realize that you're going to do what you're going to do, and that no one should care too much, thus you don't particularly care what they think. But on the other hand, there's a part of AA that will never really go away. It just gets less and less so you hardly notice it. But it's still there, and once in a while, at strange times, it will just flare up. Don't worry about it too much, just as you don't worry about what these people think, and you're fine. |
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