PUA Forum
https://www.pick-up-artist-forum.com/

Met a girl, added her on FB, deletes me the next day
https://www.pick-up-artist-forum.com/viewtopic.php?f=6&t=98623		 Page 1 of 1
Author:  GoldDust [ Fri Aug 12, 2011 1:39 pm ]
Post subject:  Met a girl, added her on FB, deletes me the next day
No idea what is going, bad luck just seems to follow me. I met a girl outside of a club waiting for a cab and go talking, got really close where our faces were almost touching and it felt like it was on. But then she said she has a boyfriend but didn't move or anything. She did like me, I think.

Anyway i got her name and said I'll add her on facebook so I do that the next day. I send her a cheeky message about something we talked about the other night. 2 hours later I find she didn't respond to my message and deleted me as a friend, question is, why?

It all seemed to be going well :?

Did she see me as a threat to her relationship or something else? I am 99% sure she was into me the other night, we had long intimate eye contact and all of that mumbo jumbo. If anyone has an explanation for this happening please tell me.

Also would it be a good idea to ask her why she deleted me?
Author:  Tasty [ Fri Aug 12, 2011 1:54 pm ]
Post subject: 
First of all, she probably wasn't attrated to you. It's tough, but thats just the way it goes sometimes. One girl blows you out, the next blows your ****

Buying temperature... she was in state, pumped up, and had some level of attraction towards you. Either that or she was just being nice. But you say there was sexual chemistry. Then she sees your message the next day and is like "wow this guy is trying too hard, i didnt even really like him" *DELETE*

I've had plenty of girls delete me from facebook, even ones I see in my classes at university and talk to from time to time. There's been several times where I said the wrong thing, coming on a little too strong, and I get the delete. No big deal, there are thousands of other attractive females I can go meet.

A huge part of pick up is developing a thick skin, where rejections dont phase you at all. You're just seeing how cool she is, and if she doesn't like you, move on
Author:  EddieFews [ Fri Aug 12, 2011 3:07 pm ]
Post subject: 
So what

Get over it and get on with your life

Move on
Author:  GoldDust [ Fri Aug 12, 2011 3:09 pm ]
Post subject: 
This is about learning pal. I wanna know what I did wrong, if anything so it doesn't happen again. That's kinda the point of this forum.
Author:  PokerSlot [ Fri Aug 12, 2011 4:31 pm ]
Post subject: 
Two things that come to mind:

1) She's dedicated to her boyfriend. Flirting is "okay" but anything past that she may view as "cheating."

2) Your profile tells a lot about you. It may be that your profile is not DHV to the level that she needs to continue having interest, or she just may not have a genuine interest in you after reading your bio.
Author:  Dark_Flame [ Fri Aug 12, 2011 4:42 pm ]
Post subject: 
The boyfriend line is a common one, I'm assuming you felt the mood was right and went in for a kiss?

She wakes up the next morning, no longer drunk, knows nothing about you and you probably got sidelined as the last minute guy who tried to get in my pants. *May not be true but it's very easy for women to categorize guys*

If you didn't have the rapport building over that evening it's difficult to continue online, though your follow up was good it sounds like you barely got out of the opening her stage leaving yourself up to the *Oh god I was so drunk I almost snogged that guy who I don't even know*

Unless you had been at an extremely high level of desirability *where she wants to get into your pants regardless of anything* the safest option for her would be to just go "ugh" Chalk it up to a drunk mistake and ditch you.

I avoid adding girls I meet on a night out on facebook like the plague unless I have a great amount of rapport going so I know I can immediately strike up a conversation as to be perfectly honest bumping into them again on a night out has a much higher chance of you picking up where you left off. Even then facebook still damages your chances, you might as well tell them all about your life and friends/family on the spot.

Go for the phone number next time.
Author:  Don Draper [ Fri Aug 12, 2011 4:55 pm ]
Post subject: 
Two words.

Buyer's remorse.
Author:  ProfessorX [ Fri Aug 12, 2011 5:03 pm ]
Post subject: 
There could be a thousand reasons that aren't your fault. Maybe her boyfriend saw the message first and deleted you.
Author:  0uch [ Fri Aug 12, 2011 6:29 pm ]
Post subject: 
how is your facebook profile? Do you have tons of girls on it?
Author:  GoldDust [ Fri Aug 12, 2011 7:08 pm ]
Post subject: 
At the time of adding her it was my birthday so I have tons of people wishing me happy birthday. That should give me plenty of social proof and that i'm a popular guy so I don't think my profile is the problem.
Author:  OG_Kdub [ Fri Aug 12, 2011 11:10 pm ]
Post subject: 
Like some guys mentioned get a thick skin and move on, its not so much you did something wrong. The girl just had a change of heart and she had a bf you dont need the drama...
Author:  Dream Hunter [ Sat Aug 13, 2011 4:25 am ]
Post subject: 
Quote:
First of all, she probably wasn't attrated to you. It's tough, but thats just the way it goes sometimes. One girl blows you out, the next blows your ****

Buying temperature... she was in state, pumped up, and had some level of attraction towards you. Either that or she was just being nice. But you say there was sexual chemistry. Then she sees your message the next day and is like "wow this guy is trying too hard, i didnt even really like him" *DELETE*

I've had plenty of girls delete me from facebook, even ones I see in my classes at university and talk to from time to time. There's been several times where I said the wrong thing, coming on a little too strong, and I get the delete. No big deal, there are thousands of other attractive females I can go meet.

A huge part of pick up is developing a thick skin, where rejections dont phase you at all. You're just seeing how cool she is, and if she doesn't like you, move on





I had this girl named christine she was really attractive (personalitywise) she was an 8 in the scale of looks though. I picked her up in my college campus everything was fine we exchanged #s and through texts i also added her on FB we been talking for a while and everything was good but I never got to chill with her and when I tried then boom. DELETE -___- LMFAO.

Story #2:

I added a random hot girl through mutual friends and told her to check out my music youtube channel page with hot beats I make

Allen KV MUSIC

she said, "no thanks"
I was like why not those beats are hot you got nothing to loose

BOOM - - - > DELETE -____- WTF IS WRONG WITH HER?

The point is, it depends on the girl. Some girls delete plenty of people because they are emotionally unstable or scared of you being a potential stalker or other 100000 reasons. some girls just are paranoid about being picked up even if they like you so they reject or delete you to feel safe and feel good about themselves. if you know what the term "fear of success" means you'll know what i'm talking about.
Author:  Dream Hunter [ Sat Aug 13, 2011 4:31 am ]
Post subject: 
Quote:
Two words.

Buyer's remorse.
all my previous comment worth nothing now cuz i forgot that u can put all the shit i wrote above with those two words
Author:  RiskTrump [ Sun Aug 14, 2011 10:51 pm ]
Post subject: 
If the girl you were going to kiss didnt resist or move at all you should have prpb said something like "how long had you had that problem for (her boyfriend)" while still going in for the kiss with a serious face.
Author:  GoldDust [ Sun Aug 14, 2011 11:05 pm ]
Post subject: 
I don't understand how buyers remorse could affect this. I didn't kiss her or make any sexual advances but there was a lot of sexual tension.
Page 1 of 1 All times are UTC
Powered by phpBB® Forum Software © phpBB Group
http://www.phpbb.com/