Trying a new friendzone, friendzone, mirror them trick. If they put me in the friendzone, I put them in the friendzone according to how I would like to have them as just a friend. Just started doing this getting startling results, and little hints of surrender from the girl. But she is the type that wants me to hang around allot, like live at her house all the time.
And she is a lesbian, with some bisexual habits.
I am not posting this for advice, just for everyone else's study, and judgement.
I recently decided, I cannot hang around this girl all the damm time.
She wants my friendship all to herself, and she does want me around way to much, even makes subtle hints I am more then welcome to stay at her house for weeks, months at a time. I need space, and I think for some men out there, you need to tell women that PUT YOU IN THE FRIENDZONE, you need space sometimes. Get away from that FZ position.
I don't mind being friends with this girl, but she has to realize, and I think some men need to know this, is the only woman that I will consider my best friend, is the woman I am dating, and she needs to take a number with the rest of the girls I have as friends, that I will occasionally pit stop in their lives, and say hello.
This female, like other females that put men into the FZ, is selfish, and will lay load on the willing horse. I have always understood this, back off, don't get that close to 1 female where your feelings effect you. She says friends, sure, just not that close, ease out of how close you have become with her, and live your own life. She might change her mind, but be independent of her
NOW, that said, I am backing off this female, and she is starting to go crazy finding other ways to get that closeness back.
Sometimes, because this girl is a lesbian, OR IS SHE? I find it fun to just tell her NO, I am not coming over, I am busy, I need space, or I want to hang by myself.
And, she goes crazy finding reasons why I should come over, and hang out with her all damm day.
Men, its ok to have a girl as a friend, just have allot of friends for escape.
See the friendzone is your fault, you fell in love, cause you got to close, now you got to have it, but there is still a chance, if you back off respect yourself, and your motto should be, the only woman that will ever be your closest friend will be the one your dating.
I am not after this female, I have known her for a while, and if she actually turned strait, dated, married me. I do it cause I care.
But, she calls me best friend, I call her a good friend, one of many, take a number, wait your turn, know your role, type thing.
This is actually a recent event, I will fill you in as I go.
Aug 1 2011- she is going crazy cause I told her I am not coming to her house till 3 pm this afternoon, -Mark time.
But, this girl really wants me to hang around her waay to much.
And, the way I see it, WHY? Sure if me, and her where in a steady strait loving relationship, I do care about her.
She could have me all the time, I move in to be around her. Well No, she have to marry my ass first, but she get more of my time.
But, if I am her FRIEND, cool, friends understand I cannot be their solitary friend ALL THE DAMM TIME! I got other friends.
Don't be a doormat, have more then one female friend, and find reasons to give yourself some space, tell her you need some space right now, when she constantly wants you to be there for her selfish ass. You need time as well.
What I tell this girl all the time, "I just don't feel like hanging out today, NO I am not coming over". Nuff said, now if she is finding reasons to keep you in her life, its working, your value is increasing.
Let her make it worth your wild.
Mirror them, if your in their friendzone, put them in what you would define a woman as a friend position, be just as selfish as she is, demanding your own time, I mean she is a friend, she will understand.
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It's true, you're just being a friend and you're doing things up to your own terms. I really like and respect your posts because this is what a lot of guys need to learn. When the girl labelled you as a friend, pursuing her and trying to seduce her won't change a thing because it is really obvious to the girl that you're playing games and she will not even respond to your advances. By treating her like a friend, basically giving her what she asked, she'll think, "wait a minute, why is he not interested anymore? What is going on here?" I like how you work, keep us posted. 
This is like a romance novel for guys. haha