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| Author: | bartm [ Fri Jul 29, 2011 4:10 am ] |
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hi guys I am a new member here. I was discussing my problem with a friend and then I was told to read the Game and some how I ended up on this forum. I am a 26 yr old male with little experience with females. Let me first say that the following is 100% true. I really AM this stupid. This summer I took a class at a college and in my class was the most beautiful girl I have ever seen. The first few days of class, through casual conversation, I asked her where she is from, and I found that she is from a Spanish speaking country. So I started talking Spanish to her to make her feel closer to me. I am not a native speaker but I know the language a little. I thought she would be impressed. So every day, I said something random in Spanish. Like "are you from Germany?" "do you go to the doctor when you are sick?" The purpose of this was only to show off my Spanish skills. but I noticed that she is avoiding me more and more. every time I asked her anything, she would either answer in one word or answer by shaking her head and not saying anything. she basically did not seem to want to have anything to do with me. So this is until today. Today was the last day of class and I found her alone in the hallway. I wanted to tell her something casual but looking at her face, looking at those eyes, I got nervous again and started saying crazy things. these are my exact words to her: "you know, the reason I mess with you is because... [long pause] I like you. I don't want you to think that I am weird or creepy" (and then in my mind I go "did I just say that? please god, turn back time by one minute so I can take that back") and then she goes "no, I don't think of you that way" and I go "because some people in the past have told me I creep them out" and she goes "ok, you have a GREAT day." basically she was trying to get rid of me and did not want to have anything to do with me. obviously, my question is NOT how to get her. I know I have ruined it. my questions: 1. dammit she was the hottest girl I have ever seen. her nose, her lips, her facial expressions, she didnt even need make-up, she was naturally pretty. I can't eat. I can't sleep without having a dream about her. I can't do my job. I am basically crippled. All I can do is think about her. How can I get over her? 2. I am trying to figure out what is wrong with me so I avoid making the same mistakes. based on the information that I have given you, what is wrong with me? low self esteem? low self confidence? insecurity? 3. how can I better myself? |
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| Author: | AttractionKings [ Fri Jul 29, 2011 4:35 am ] |
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1. You can get over this by moving on and finding new girl or girls. To be honest you didn't even get your heart broken because you didn't even know this girl. You just was in lust cuz her looks. 2. Yes, yes, yes. you just don't have much experience with girls and need to learn. My link below has 2 free guides you can check out. Also check out the Inner Game section in the forums. 3. Learn the basics and practice, practice, practice. You will fail alot, but you will learn a lot. Good luck, hope this helps! Feel free to PM me if you have any questions. |
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| Author: | charblad [ Fri Jul 29, 2011 4:56 am ] |
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1. Attraction got it, nothing to add here 2. He's right here too, but that all can be fixed soo easily. Trust me THE GAME ISN'T THAT HARD. If you focus you can become AWESOME. and its not your fault, im sure at least 75% of guys are in the same boat as you... (and probly 90% of the guys here started there) 3. Stay on this forum, ask questions, ask dumb questions, give your specific's, can be as simple as "how do i do kino?" or "so i was with a girl doing kino today, i got up to overt kino with her legs...." ect. PM me or make a post with any problems or questions (being specific helps a lot of times) |
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| Author: | bartm [ Fri Jul 29, 2011 5:11 am ] |
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basically, if I am not attracted to a girl, I am totally normal and cool. but when I like a girl, 99% of the time I am too intimidated and I don't say anything...I try to hide from her and make her think I dont exist. (so I feel a little better now because at least I tried) the other 1% of the time, I act weird around her. I say things that are weird, or I say things nervously, or I say things that are supposed to impress her but she sees right through me and that drives her away. how do I practice? I am not a bar or club person. I am not looking for a one night stand with some drunk girl who might have AIDS. I don't think there will be another girl like her anyway. |
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| Author: | charblad [ Fri Jul 29, 2011 5:22 am ] |
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Quote: basically, if I am not attracted to a girl, I am totally normal and cool.
Thats why we're here, give us the situation and we'll tell you how to do it, but actually pay attention to WHY. Because PUA forum's not gunna hold your hand your entire life.but when I like a girl, 99% of the time I am too intimidated and I don't say anything...I try to hide from her and make her think I dont exist. (so I feel a little better now because at least I tried) the other 1% of the time, I act weird around her. I say things that are weird, or I say things nervously, or I say things that are supposed to impress her but she sees right through me and that drives her away. how do I practice? I am not a bar or club person. I am not looking for a one night stand with some drunk girl who might have AIDS. I don't think there will be another girl like her anyway. The 99% and 1% statement is the best thing you've said, you realize you want change and hopefully are going to devote time to it. Most guys realize this and shut down in the basement. I'm the same with bars, oneitis and things like that. I can help instruct you through the beginning but your gunna have to find practice, you dont have to go to the bar and invite girls home, maybe you just use them to practice getting over your nervousness. Finally there are girls better than that (omg ikr...). You can trust me (I'm helpin on the forum, as you said you dont go out and game much (no offense)) but YOU have to ASK FOR IT. PM me any problems you got or any situations you need help w/ |
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| Author: | AttractionKings [ Fri Jul 29, 2011 5:38 am ] |
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Agreed with everything above. I think you lack a lot of confidence at the moment and you need to understand that as long as you practice and learn the skills you can get any girl that you want. Just cuz you got shut down isn't the end of the world, i've been shut down tons of times, but i've also f*ck closed a ton of times as well. If you have hard time opening, the online approach is what helped me. It's a lot easier in terms of being nervous and stuff because you actually have time to plan out what you're going to write and can get the number close. Phone game, and meeting up is all the same though. We've all been where you are man. Feel free to PM me as well. Good luck ! |
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