PUA Forum :: Help with over-analyzing

I can't tell you how many times a woman has told me, "I know you're a deep thinker, but..." It disgusts me, really.

Well, this is one of my main detriments to myself.

It has been my whole life. Maybe because of the environment I grew up in, but I don't want to use that as an excuse.

I've landed quite a few good HB's throughout my years, but I seem to get to a point [either in a relationship, or through sports/work] that I start this process, and it's all down hill from there.

I can't tell you how many times a woman has told me, "I know you're a deep thinker, but..." It disgusts me, really.

I've taken steps to improving myself year in, and year out, and it has gotten better [to a degree], but it still seems to bear it's ugly head time, and time again.

I firmly believe in the power of the mind, and all I'm trying to do is learn more/improve myself.

I really need help with this.

I can relate to these feelings. You propably get some momentum, and then lose it due to over-analyzing, negative thought patterns, or whatever other type of negative behavior.

First and foremost, REMAIN POSITIVE! This doesn't mean just positive thinking, this means reframing your reality, training yourself to see the 'good' and staying motivated.

How do you achieve this!? By whatever means possible. Do some NLP exercises, look into CT therapy, and ditch the systematic and advanced approaches, and just get into FIELD.

Another tip that has helped me is searching for a 'higher being' to ask for assistance on my journey. This can be a form of prayer, meditation, reflection. However you want to look at it. It can level off the lows.

Good Luck, and don't think about it!

*kidding, anyone who says things like this may not relate or understand how your mind works in negative patterns. Understand that you've (or someone else) has programmed your mind, and it'll take work to program yourself in a different fashion. Don't take it personal, and keep on keepin' on.

I had/have the exact same problem.

Can't say I have it fully under control but it's still better than the old days when I used to analyze every word coming out of her mouth in a hundred different ways.

I don't know the exact solution to this. But, here's what worked for me.

Every time, I felt a need to analyze her words, I distracted myself.

Pick a book, log on to a website, go watch a movie, play some video game. And your mind will go off this topic.

Do ANYTHING except thinking of her and it will work.

Author:	TheeMikeyK [ Tue Jul 19, 2011 1:20 pm ]
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Well, this is one of my main detriments to myself. It has been my whole life. Maybe because of the environment I grew up in, but I don't want to use that as an excuse. I've landed quite a few good HB's throughout my years, but I seem to get to a point [either in a relationship, or through sports/work] that I start this process, and it's all down hill from there. I can't tell you how many times a woman has told me, "I know you're a deep thinker, but..." It disgusts me, really. I've taken steps to improving myself year in, and year out, and it has gotten better [to a degree], but it still seems to bear it's ugly head time, and time again. I firmly believe in the power of the mind, and all I'm trying to do is learn more/improve myself. I really need help with this.

Author:	pumpington [ Tue Jul 19, 2011 1:23 pm ]
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Quote: I can't tell you how many times a woman has told me, "I know you're a deep thinker, but..." It disgusts me, really. WTF, WHY THE HELL DO YOU CARE, WAKE UP MAN, WHO FUCKING CARES WHAT GIRLS THINK OF YOU, YOUR DOIN IT WRONG, ITS WHAT YOU THINK OF THEM

Author:	Soren K [ Tue Jul 19, 2011 1:51 pm ]
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I can relate to these feelings. You propably get some momentum, and then lose it due to over-analyzing, negative thought patterns, or whatever other type of negative behavior. First and foremost, REMAIN POSITIVE! This doesn't mean just positive thinking, this means reframing your reality, training yourself to see the 'good' and staying motivated. How do you achieve this!? By whatever means possible. Do some NLP exercises, look into CT therapy, and ditch the systematic and advanced approaches, and just get into FIELD. Another tip that has helped me is searching for a 'higher being' to ask for assistance on my journey. This can be a form of prayer, meditation, reflection. However you want to look at it. It can level off the lows. Good Luck, and don't think about it! *kidding, anyone who says things like this may not relate or understand how your mind works in negative patterns. Understand that you've (or someone else) has programmed your mind, and it'll take work to program yourself in a different fashion. Don't take it personal, and keep on keepin' on.

Author:	Don Draper [ Tue Jul 19, 2011 2:22 pm ]
Post subject:	Re: Help with over-analyzing
Quote: Well, this is one of my main detriments to myself. It has been my whole life. Maybe because of the environment I grew up in, but I don't want to use that as an excuse. I've landed quite a few good HB's throughout my years, but I seem to get to a point [either in a relationship, or through sports/work] that I start this process, and it's all down hill from there. I can't tell you how many times a woman has told me, "I know you're a deep thinker, but..." It disgusts me, really. I've taken steps to improving myself year in, and year out, and it has gotten better [to a degree], but it still seems to bear it's ugly head time, and time again. I firmly believe in the power of the mind, and all I'm trying to do is learn more/improve myself. I really need help with this. I had/have the exact same problem. Can't say I have it fully under control but it's still better than the old days when I used to analyze every word coming out of her mouth in a hundred different ways. I don't know the exact solution to this. But, here's what worked for me. Every time, I felt a need to analyze her words, I distracted myself. Pick a book, log on to a website, go watch a movie, play some video game. And your mind will go off this topic. Do ANYTHING except thinking of her and it will work.

Author:	anthonypham [ Tue Jul 19, 2011 2:27 pm ]
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what is the problem ? Do you know what I really hate? I have a mate, who never thinks of the consequences. He just does! This makes him very anti-social, hurting lots of people, annoyed lots of people.

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Author:	TheeMikeyK [ Wed Jul 20, 2011 3:06 pm ]
Post subject:	Re: Help with over-analyzing
Quote: I can relate to these feelings. You propably get some momentum, and then lose it due to over-analyzing, negative thought patterns, or whatever other type of negative behavior. First and foremost, REMAIN POSITIVE! This doesn't mean just positive thinking, this means reframing your reality, training yourself to see the 'good' and staying motivated. How do you achieve this!? By whatever means possible. Do some NLP exercises, look into CT therapy, and ditch the systematic and advanced approaches, and just get into FIELD. Another tip that has helped me is searching for a 'higher being' to ask for assistance on my journey. This can be a form of prayer, meditation, reflection. However you want to look at it. It can level off the lows. Good Luck, and don't think about it! kidding, anyone who says things like this may not relate or understand how your mind works in negative patterns. Understand that you've (or someone else) has programmed your mind, and it'll take work to program yourself in a different fashion. Don't take it personal, and keep on keepin' on. Quote:* I had/have the exact same problem. Can't say I have it fully under control but it's still better than the old days when I used to analyze every word coming out of her mouth in a hundred different ways. I don't know the exact solution to this. But, here's what worked for me. Every time, I felt a need to analyze her words, I distracted myself. Pick a book, log on to a website, go watch a movie, play some video game. And your mind will go off this topic. Do ANYTHING except thinking of her and it will work. These both helped a great deal. Thanks.

Author:	zappo [ Wed Jul 20, 2011 4:03 pm ]
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Alot of people wont agree with me on this one because its a short term soultion which eventually catches up with you but then you run through the process again for a while and reap its benefits before it catches up with you again . Introducing your new favourite term's Fxck it! Im not assed ( not botherd) Everytime you get yourself into a situation for example " Does she like me ? , Did i do something wrong ? , I wonder if she feels the same way about me" ( classic examples of over analysing which usually spirals off into a spiderdiagram of other scenarios) You respond with Im not assed You keep telling yourself your not botherd and eventually you will become not botherd about the situation which will stop yourself from inhibitng any further progress in your game ..... seriously give it a shot. Agin for the "fxck it response" every time you feel like doing something and your unsure. Run that phrase through your head , feel like their could be a bad outcome "Not assed" It essentially makes anything possible to do with very limited thinking.

Author:	Lodewijkp [ Wed Jul 20, 2011 4:26 pm ]
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unable to communicate deeply on a emotional level ... i had the same problem .. maybe this post can help you experiencing-emotions-vt96363.html?highlight=

Author:	mpuapua [ Wed Jul 20, 2011 6:44 pm ]
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over analyzing is when you use logic. you wanna be using intuition and creativity! to develop this, look for an improv group or start your own where you can play improv acting games with people. this will help lots!

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