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| Author: | youngsweetjones [ Mon Jul 18, 2011 1:06 pm ] |
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hey everyone, prior to acquiring any PUA knowledge, i was a relatively romantic guy & i'd still like to keep that as part of my game & identity in general. however, my ideas of romance have changed throughout the years. therefore, i'd like to foster a discussion on the topic of romance & get your opinions/feedback/insight. here are some questions: i) what is your definition of romance? ii) what do the women you meet/date consider romantic? iii) do you use it as part of your pick-up or game? iv) if so, @ what stage do you use/show romance? v) is romance a sign of weakness? vi) does being romantic make you lose your strong frame? vii) does being romantic make you a "nice guy" (in a bad way)? viii) what is your overall take on romance? |
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| Author: | TheFreshPrince [ Mon Jul 18, 2011 3:47 pm ] |
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I think romance is the part of the relationship that the girl most wants. It's what turns her on, whereas for guys, it's cheesy. That being said, romance can be a very good tool for seducing women, as it directly turns them on. BUT! It also stimulates the "relationship" side of a woman's brain, so she may read into your actions too much on a sub-conscious level. I would only use romance in the common use of the word for a LTR. With anyone else it would just be dangerous. |
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| Author: | youngsweetjones [ Mon Jul 18, 2011 5:08 pm ] |
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interesting. i agree that romance can/does stimulate the relationship side of a woman's brain, but i wouldn't completely associate it w/ LTR. is it not possible to be romantic or show romance w/ someone you're casually dating? perhaps as a way of rewarding her or keeping her interested, even if you've made it clear LTR is not what you want. |
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| Author: | TheFreshPrince [ Mon Jul 18, 2011 5:20 pm ] |
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Sure. It just depends what you're referring to as romance, though. Can you elaborate on that? |
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| Author: | youngsweetjones [ Mon Jul 18, 2011 5:34 pm ] |
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idk why, but i keep thinking of romance as being an afc thing. to me, romantic gestures such as cooking a candlelight dinner, having a picnic, giving gifts w/ sentimental value (i'm not a big fan of elaborate/expensive gifts), etc. seem kind of afc? what do you think? |
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| Author: | JuanAntonioB [ Mon Jul 18, 2011 5:46 pm ] |
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i) A feeling of excitement and mystery associated with love ii) anything that makes her feel desired/special iii) most certainly iv) the more romantic you are the quicker you will get into her pants. that being said I will wait until she is invested before being "romantic" v) no vi) no vii) no viii) to me a successful male lover must be romantic. if you are going to have sex with a girl, you are going to need to romanticize her. Its another word for seduce, but women dont wanna say "ohhh hes such a good seducer". . no, they wanna say "ohh hes so romantic" |
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| Author: | TheFreshPrince [ Mon Jul 18, 2011 5:49 pm ] |
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Picnics? Awesome cheap date. Sentimental gifts? Creates good connection. Candlelight dinner? This I would save for an LTR, as it's cheesy otherwise. "Romantic" by your definition of things, like a sentimental gift, are great ways to build connection, solidify your tie to a girl, and reward her for miscellaneous reasons. But there's a line to be drawn between what's appropriate and what's inappropriate. There's no rule to point to, it's just sort of a in this situation, x is okay, but y isn't". I think the AFC idea comes from AFCs using these techniques at inappropriate times to try and "trick" the girl's mind into turning her on. They will have a candlelight dinner on the first date, because they think that's what will get them into bed with the girl. Very AFC. But ignoring what a girl wants when it IS appropriate, well that's also very AFC. |
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| Author: | youngsweetjones [ Mon Jul 18, 2011 5:58 pm ] |
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@JuanAntonioB well said man, well said. @TheFreshPrince i agree w/ having no rule to point to. perhaps it's just an intuition thing, where you have to gauge your relationship w/ the hb before you can start being romantic. i've always had great success these kinds of things & i just wanted to incorporate them in my game w/out them hindering it. thanks guys, you really put some of these things into perspective. |
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