Me and this girl have been texting lately and she said she went to a golf course so I asked her if it reminded her of me (I text her sometimes when I play). She said no not really and that she never thinks of me. I just replied yeah it would be pretty weird if you did think of me a lot.

The thing is though why would a girl say she never thinks about me. I find it kind of weird being honest. If anyone has done psychology or have had experiences with this before can they tell me if this is a signal a girl does in fact think about me a lot. I know she likes me that's the funny thing.

There could be a lot of reasons for a comment like that. Maybe she does think about you a lot and she's trying not to sound needy, who knows. It's more likely that she just wanted to see how you'd react to that kind of comment though, and in my opinion you failed hard... it's not weird if she thinks about you, why would you say that? You just made yourself look insecure.

Or maybe, just maybe she's not into you and she's being rude intentionally so you get the hint lol... whatever the situation is, it doesn't matter, you didn't handle it properly in any case. Stop worrying about what she might think, how she might react, and just say what you want. What you replied with, you weren't really thinking that... at least I hope not, cos in that case your attitude needs some serious work. Focus on going after what you want, keep a positive attitude and always assume the best in situations. You can't go wrong.

There could be a lot of reasons for a comment like that. Maybe she does think about you a lot and she's trying not to sound needy, who knows. It's more likely that she just wanted to see how you'd react to that kind of comment though, and in my opinion you failed hard... it's not weird if she thinks about you, why would you say that? You just made yourself look insecure.

Or maybe, just maybe she's not into you and she's being rude intentionally so you get the hint lol... whatever the situation is, it doesn't matter, you didn't handle it properly in any case. Stop worrying about what she might think, how she might react, and just say what you want. What you replied with, you weren't really thinking that... at least I hope not, cos in that case your attitude needs some serious work. Focus on going after what you want, keep a positive attitude and always assume the best in situations. You can't go wrong.

I'm just telling you what I think.

Girl says to you, "no not really, I don't really think about you"

And you reply with "Yeah it'd be pretty weird if you did think of me a lot".

You're too passive. By agreeing with her in this case, you sound insecure. Not saying you have to be really cocky and full of yourself or anything but you could've handled it better. The message you sent basically came across as "I'm not surprised, why would a girl be thinking about me?". That's no good!

If a girl sent that to me, I woulda turned it sexual... "not even in the shower? O_O". Or made her feel guilty and see if she'd apologise, ie. "you sure know how to make a man feel wanted ". A girl would do the same to you... it's playful though, remember that. That's why the winky face was invented.

On the other hand, I wouldn't be asking if she was thinking about me in the first place. I'm not interested, I just assume she likes me and if she doesn't then it'll be pretty clear within a few texts. How long have you been texting this girl by the way?

ps - i would call her back and say "nevermind, my time is too valuable for maybes, have a nice life".

lol

this whole situation is epic fail.

asking a girl if something "makes her think of you" is just needy in the first place.

it reeks of validation-seeking...

so, the girl likes to argue and just be a general bitch. sweet.

also, behind every "joke" about "does a golf course make you think of me" is an underlying meta-message of neediness. jus' sayin'.

ps - jokes are funny. so one doesn't have to announce "this is a joke". if one has to announce "this is a joke", then it's not a joke, or at least not a funny one.

something to think about.

seriously not trying to bust your balls.