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Author:  Swagneto [ Mon Jul 04, 2011 12:59 pm ]
Post subject:  Lifestyle Change? I'm at a lost..
well to start things off i turned 21 in may and i'm still a virgin =/. I tend to just sit on the computer most of the time, or playing video games with friends (not online though, in person if that matters) and i'm in school. But it bothers me that this is all i do. I have pretty much no females in my life. Since i play that game it's of course generates mostly dudes, the college i'm in there's hardly any women. To top it off i don't work or have a car(i have a license though), and i live in a dorm a guy whos wayyy more afc than me.

All of my life i've been pretty mediocre with women imo, i've never really attracted anyone i was attracted to. Usually when i attract girls i don't feel mutual enough to pursue it. If i did i always friend zoned myself.

In my opinion i think i still have some inner game issues to work on (i'm insecure about being a virgin/ having no game/ not going out enough/ being broke)

but my confidence has definitely risen this year, it's still not where i want it to be.

I'm partly posting this to vent because i feel like i can't approach anyone about this.

But i am concerned as to how to bring women into my life in my situation?, i really want to have game

and i wanna break out of this cycle of being bored with my life

at the same time i feel like i make up excuses for myself not to succeed, scared to leave my comfort zone i guess

i figured the first step i'll take is to try looking for a job

and to get rid of my AA by saying hello asking people random questions

but any help on how i should start changing my lifestyle is greatly appreciated.

some random facts about me im black, i'm 6'0, i live in the bay area.
Author:  Recast [ Mon Jul 04, 2011 2:18 pm ]
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Instead of playing video games, spend that time being social. Join intramural or a sport of some sort, this will help you be more social and make new friends. These new friends do not have to be girls, the point in making these new friends is to prove to yourself that you can be social. From here you can start going to clubs with your friends or by yourself, and you can practice all pickup has to offer.
Author:  Mr_Amazing [ Mon Jul 04, 2011 7:36 pm ]
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I think your first move should be to look for a job. Dont settle for just hourly...look for a comission job like sales or telemarketing. Or if you have any skills, print up business cards and self promote. This will kill two birds with one stone. 1. You get paid. 2. You will gain confidence as your skills improve. Also, put down the controller and develop some hobbies that don`t require staring at a screen.
Author:  anthonypham [ Mon Jul 04, 2011 9:55 pm ]
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- cut backplaying videogames.
- Join a gym (new setting, plenty of girls)
- study the PUA theories
- set goals (small goals every day)
- Find a job (good for self-confidence)
- change your mindset
Author:  Swagneto [ Mon Jul 04, 2011 11:55 pm ]
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thanks again for the advice guys

yea i been applying, to just random stores, fast food and whatnot

hopefully i can get some money to buy a car

i'm usually on the computer way more than i am playing the video games tho

either way like you said i'm always looking at a screen

i think for now i might join something sports or music oriented.

as for now i been working out more and just finding ways to get out of the house more.

also are there any ways to improve my game while i'm changing these things as well?
Author:  Mr_Amazing [ Tue Jul 05, 2011 1:30 am ]
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Sales. Commission based sales. Apply for a telemarketing job. Sell newspapers door to door. Work at a cell phone kiosk at the mall...Trust me, bruh. Get a sales job. You will learn so much that will be directly applicable to not just dealing with women, but just handling business (inner game and outer game) in general.
Author:  antic [ Tue Jul 05, 2011 2:15 pm ]
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If you like games play some Duke Nukem Forever. You may learn something about pickup from Duke, I know he's only fictional but he gets the girls ;)
Author:  ClixT [ Tue Jul 05, 2011 4:22 pm ]
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Quote:
If you like games play some Duke Nukem Forever. You may learn something about pickup from Duke, I know he's only fictional but he gets the girls ;)
LOL! OR Johny Bravo haha

Joking aside, here's a quote for you:

“You must love yourself before you love another."

Do what anthonypham said, but IMHO, look for a job first.

I am on the same boat as you are, a 21 year old virgin that never had a GF in my entire life, and I know how it feels. My only advantage is that I have a job and car, I've been going to the gym for 2 years now, and I pretty much conquered my AA. Ever since I joined this forums, I've been working on my inner game for the most part, til now as we speak. You're not alone, and hey at least you're not the 45 year old virgin like Fred from the Pick-up Artist season 1, so cheer up.
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