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Author:  applesauceduo [ Sun Jul 03, 2011 8:03 am ]
Post subject:  Keep running into acquaintances and coworkers when sarging
I've just gotten into pickup and have gone out to bars at night three times to approach girls.

Each time I go out I ran into either friends-of-a-friend or a coworker. They always ask "Who are you here with?" and the truth is always that I'm there alone. I don't want to say I'm alone cruising for chicks, because they would think it is sad I'm alone on a Friday night. I've lied and said that my friend just left or I was meeting a friend. One time I could tell that they other person could tell that I was just there alone.

Yes, I could just say "I'm here alone" but I think I would suffer ridicule or be known as a creep. Previously some other people found out that I had a given a friend $20 to give back to me once I approached a girl, and felt like my social value had been lowered.

What should I do?

I live in a very large city and probably know far more acquaintances than the average person. I could start going to random parts of the city I've never been to before I wouldn't know where the good scenes are and I've heard that it's best to go to places where you're familiar. Instead of going alone I've tried to get some friends to go with me but don't have too many close friends and they don't like the idea.

Thanks!
Author:  pumpington [ Sun Jul 03, 2011 8:14 am ]
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just stop worrying about what other people think about you man, your awesome, next time this happens be like, I CAME HERE TO GET LAID LETS GO FORM A FUKN POSSEE!!
Author:  0uch [ Sun Jul 03, 2011 11:03 am ]
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Which city are you from? I was in the same situation. My friends didn't care much about pick up. So I start sarging with guys in community that I found through forum. Later on, we end up becoming friends.

BTW, when my co worker ask me when I run into them, what am I doing out, I just say picking up on girls. I even post it on my facebook :) that I am going out to pick up on girls. Is funny because most girls on my facebook I actually met through sarging and they see me posting that.

Point is, don't be shamed of picking up on girls. Be proud of it. It will sub communicated a lot of positive qualities in you when your sarging, rather then feeling like your doing something wrong. Really, your not doing anything wrong. Girls love to fuck, and your making it happen. Better that a guy like you sleep with them rather then some dumb chode.
Author:  Hallpass [ Sun Jul 03, 2011 11:28 pm ]
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I won't say it's a bad thing to go out by yourself, however if it does make you feel awkward in some situations, I think it might be better to go out with friends some time and just sarge girls when you are with them.

I know a lot of people to go out with, but not everyone is into picking up chicks when they go out. When going out with one of those people I usually just start sarging at the bar. Now you have someone to introduce as well and maybe you can even hook your friend up with a friend of your target! :) win/win

Also, when going going out alone, I wouldn't lie about what you are doing. I just wouldn't tell the full truth, just tell people you went out by yourself bc you figured you'd run into people you know anyways. Now you didn't actually lie about what you are doing, they just don't know your intentions. I run into co-workers all the time when going out by myself, I don't really care actually, heck, I'll even have a drink with them! Be social!
Author:  applesauceduo [ Fri Jul 08, 2011 3:52 am ]
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Thanks for all the advice!

0uch:
I live in Chicago.

Now that I think about it, a lot of guys would respect a guy who knows what he wants and acts to get it instead of just talking about the hot girl in the corner.

I agree that being proud of picking up girls instead of ashamed will lead to better positive qualities being subconsciously communicated.

Hallpass:
Yeah I think I need to work on just being super social when I go out with friends.

I've accepted the fact that I might as well approach random girls because even if I do somehow make a fool of myself, it doesn't matter because I'll never see them again. Having people I know around me watching me makes me more self conscious. I think if I make the habit of just talking randomly to people around me instead of trying to get up the courage to approach a group of girls and think of what my opener will be, I'll have better luck.

I need to get some more social friends since most I hang out with nowadays are people I know from work or college which tend to be computer science majors or engineers. In high school I was good friends with the guy who was voted "biggest flirt". It was so easy, we'd hang out with a group of girls, and I just did what he did. When he'd put his arm around the girl, I would, when he would tease her, I would too. And it worked.
Author:  Speedy Cat [ Fri Jul 08, 2011 4:32 am ]
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In my opinion you do need to worry about co-workers but not the other people.

You have the right idea about claiming to be meeting other friends. You can always act like your phone is going off and you are getting a message that your friends want to meet elsewhere so you need to bolt or just act really annoyed that they are late. People tend to shy away from confrontation so if you act aggravated they will probably back off.
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