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Author:  april6e [ Fri Jun 24, 2011 11:08 pm ]
Post subject:  Lack of results has left me feeling like giving up
A few months ago, I decided that I was going to learn this stuff, even if it killed me. I was going to go outside my comfort zone and break all my misconceptions; reach goals that I just dreamed about til now. That a virgin at 21 is not the life I want, that I can be so much more.

The serious issues right now are, I'm not approaching enough women (serious approach anxiety, I think I only approach 9 unique women last month) and lack of women to practice with (no approaches, no numbers, no practice dealing with my real weakness, Day 2s).

I'm really discouraged right now, I want to give up, I want to just go back to having nothing at all. But then I think of a life where I just have to settle with whatever woman happens to have a fetish for coquettish virgins and it gives me just enough strength to crawl forward.

I guess I want advice, encouragement?
Author:  Kupid [ Sat Jun 25, 2011 12:40 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Lack of results has left me feeling like giving up
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A few months ago, I decided that I was going to learn this stuff, even if it killed me.
Well you still sound pretty alive. There is no excuse for giving up, you choose to get better with girls, so do it, if you started something you at least finish it properly and then you can sleep in peace at night, knowing, that you gave your best shot to it, cause from what I'm reading you haven't.
I think that your main problem is not going out enough on the field and accually trying this stuff out (9 approaches a month is nothing, it's like a drop into a see), that's the similar problem that I had for months, reading but not field-gaming, an hour in the field'll give you more experiences than 50 pages of any other book, script or video... If you wanna see results you gotta work for it, even if you're failing, that's better than not doing it at all. Just keep your head up bro.

People have limitless potencial so remember ˇˇˇˇ [read two rows down] :D
Author:  baconlube [ Sat Jun 25, 2011 5:15 am ]
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Well obviously your not doing something right.

Look into your game, identify weak points, practice, improve, then try again.
Also, it may help to read some books on this, instead of wandering around forums all day.

It may also be ur personal hygiene, or the fact that you lack style. Personally, i usually dress my best, wear a gold watch (cliche, i know), and a cheap, disposable pendant (i use it in some of my pickup routines) that i have 10 more of stuffed in my pocket, and i have my hair done so that it looks casual, yet not sloppy. I also put on cologne that has a soft scent, so that it can take full effect when i lean in close.
Author:  twisted pigeon [ Sat Jun 25, 2011 10:53 am ]
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Hi.

I've been into this for about a year now. I had a real problem with AA until I figured out that my state of mind was usually wrong. I have to be in a talkative state of mind otherwise everything just feels wrong.

SO: I have a really easy opener which will always get me into the right state of mind, and which will open any girl/group of girls.

I approach one girl and tell her that my girlfriends' birthday is next week and I love her shirt/handbag/shoes (anything I like on her) and ask her where she bought it from.

This sounds really dumb, but it works. Every (quiet) bar I go to I always do this first. It just gets me into this talkative state, aswell and making me look to other girls as if I'm socially Ok. I sometimes say that I'm buying for "my girlfriend" or "a girlfriend of mine".

After this, I can approach a different set of girls and push things a little with a different opener.

Just an idea for you.. hope it helps.

T.P
Author:  Lodewijkp [ Sat Jun 25, 2011 12:28 pm ]
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if it doesn't work .. change your game and try again ...

do you think i was smooth the first 2 months ? no dude .. the first month i had 3 bad nights every week - nights where you get destroyed rejected and AMOGGED....

don't approach hot woman only ... approach 7s and 5s talk to guys as well. Cultivate a wide variety of social skills.

when you are learning how to fly you cannot directly fly a boeing 747 .. you need to get experience and learn.

get the right role models and teachers .. this will speed up the process.

and for the record .. 9 approaches in a month is nothing ... i did at least 10 approaches every night.

what you will see is that you will find someone who is interested in you... you only need that one out of twenty - she could turn you to be your new girlfriend....
Author:  baracuda [ Sat Jun 25, 2011 12:37 pm ]
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congrats on the 9 approaches i see some guys in clubs who are bar boys for the night dont dance just are barboys. even if you got rejected by them 9 girls imagine if that next one the 10th one could of been sucking your balls at the end of the night.

rejection aint shit an belive me i use to think rejection was a bad thing youve been rejected by 9 you might aswell try get rejected by 999. Theres your goal get rejected by 999 girls i bet 10% of them girls you approach wont reject you.

an to lodewenski ( sorry if i got ur name wrong ) like the part about the boeing 747 makes sense
Author:  phangan [ Sat Jun 25, 2011 1:54 pm ]
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OK Here is a new one I just invented now for you.

Go online and open a blog about something... alcohol, bars in your city, a travel guide, a blog about how people use their Facebook account... something!

Then go into a bar and approach women for "research" about the topic. You should have no AA because it would be real. Even give them the URL of the blog, tell them they can read about what you were talking about in a few days, once you put it online.

I'm not kidding... do this... it will give you a reason to start to talk to anybody.

Hell, maybe I'll do it myself.
Author:  Lodewijkp [ Sat Jun 25, 2011 4:40 pm ]
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barra and phangan make sense .. anyway it's all about intention , if your goal is to pickup a hot blonde girl you will be attached to the outcome. you will give your power away because you are trying to get something external , another person.

my best nights were /are nights when i go out to have fun..it's ironic that on nights where i didn't go out to pickup chicks i ended up with many solid numbers and new girlfriends.

just go out to have fun ... every intention other than trying to seek approval or trying to get woman will work. guys get inside of their head too much...

also try to congratulate yourself on every approach you do because like barracuda said most guys don't approach woman at all.. some guys don't even do 1 approach in several months.
Author:  anthonypham [ Sat Jun 25, 2011 8:27 pm ]
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Quote:
barra and phangan make sense .. anyway it's all about intention , if your goal is to pickup a hot blonde girl you will be attached to the outcome. you will give your power away because you are trying to get something external , another person.

my best nights were /are nights when i go out to have fun..it's ironic that on nights where i didn't go out to pickup chicks i ended up with many solid numbers and new girlfriends.

just go out to have fun ... every intention other than trying to seek approval or trying to get woman will work. guys get inside of their head too much...

also try to congratulate yourself on every approach you do because like barracuda said most guys don't approach woman at all.. some guys don't even do 1 approach in several months.
LodewijkP, mijn beste kerel!

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