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Author:  dantonious [ Wed Jun 22, 2011 7:53 am ]
Post subject:  drastic oneitis cure?
i know almost every pua in the field has experienced oneitis at least once during their careers.
my question is, how do you guys deal w/ this bullshit?

the forums, friends and common sense advice just fucking or getting w/ 10 other women to display virtually all universal values that all women share
however, id like to tweak it a bit, and actually tell the girl in her face, that
im not playing games anymore and im not gonna kiss her or do anything
sexually relevant unless she stops fuc*ing around

despite this, i feel like some of this is fueled by the potential satisfaction of me smiting her, and making her feel mildly miserable before her trip in a few days

-cheers
Author:  calimoxo [ Wed Jun 22, 2011 9:56 am ]
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Maaaan chill! You can't get all flustered and angry just because you've got strong oneitis feelings for the girl!!

It's not her fault if you've overinvested and saying she is 'fucking around' is just...terrible. Classic AFC behaviour

We all feel a sense of overattachment at times to things (not just women) but wanting to make her feel miserable beacuse YOU'VE not been able to progress is a weakness you NEED to address.

What are you gaining from making her feel bad? Seriously, your time would be better invested getting to the root of what causes this reaction in yourself and improving it.
Author:  Lodewijkp [ Wed Jun 22, 2011 10:34 am ]
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the above post makes sense ...

if i have one-itis i do not contact the girl and i try to tune/fix my inner game.... it's just a symptom of something not being right.

if im experiencing one-itis on a surface level i just try certain things to get certain thoughts out of my head.... it's all disrupting neuro associations.

swimming/dipping in cold water.... a good way to disrupt a pattern is to dive in cold water no matter if it's winter or autumn.
what you want to do is to invade your senses to interrupt the pattern ... travel is also a good one.

everything that gets you outside your comfort zone gets you out of social conditioning.
Author:  Mercurial [ Wed Jun 22, 2011 1:45 pm ]
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I currently have oneitis, or maybe im on the verge of just getting over it, dunno

But I looked at it in a different way. I looked at why I was feeling the way I was.

For me it took a few months to seduce the girl HB 8/9, I was overseas at the time and all I could do was SPAM her and FB chat and It was 3 maybe 4 months until I was back in australia and I could see her. Long story short, I invested a fair amount of time seducing her but in the end I only slept with her once, She had a bf at the time which made things even worse.

What I got from this, I think, is that I feel I didnt get a good enough return for all the hours I put in. Therfore I feel the need to get more from the girl (sex i guess) to satisfy my return on investment. Because of this I kept thinking about ways to get more from her etc etc until she was all I was thinking about, thats how I developed my Oneitis.

Now that I got the answers to why I feel like i can move on.


So until you find out why you need her, how you ended up feeling the way you do and how you can let go of her, you will be stuck with her on your mind everyday

Hope this helps anyway, it got me back on the right track
Author:  dantonious [ Wed Jun 22, 2011 2:35 pm ]
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ah i guess you guys are right
completely afc behavior on my part, thanks for the posts, i need to address the problem within myself first
and i can do this by doing virtually anything that relaxes my mind

much love, thanks
Author:  Cont [ Wed Jun 22, 2011 2:55 pm ]
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:|

to me there's virtually no other way but to flirt and fool around with other 2 or 3
if I just move my interaction to 1 girl, she has a good chance of becoming the oneitis in that time.

Surprises me that those of you that can actually get oneitis can actually remove it by ...cold water
Author:  Teknine [ Wed Jun 22, 2011 3:34 pm ]
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My drastic oneitis cure has been to cut off all contact. Not recommended in all situations of course, but in my cases, where I was fucking up at work and in life in general, it was the right thing to do.
Author:  calimoxo [ Wed Jun 22, 2011 3:55 pm ]
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Quote:
ah i guess you guys are right
completely afc behavior on my part, thanks for the posts, i need to address the problem within myself first
and i can do this by doing virtually anything that relaxes my mind

much love, thanks
No worries man, if anything you'll feel better generally once you get a handle on it. We ALL get wobbles and moves toward AFC behaviour, years of social conditioning for you! Trick is managing it so it happens less and less.

Nice one sir. :D
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