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| Author: | tedwood [ Sun Jun 19, 2011 5:14 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Feel Guilty Wanting To Do DayGame? |
Okay so it's been about two weeks since i've last done day game. The reason being that i've got a solid number close which i'm feeling will land a strong date. I know you guys will think i'm dumb for thinking this, but because this girl is so nice I feel really guilty about wanting to do day game and thus haven't done it. You guys will probably also say 'What if she flakes, then you'll have wasted two good weeks texting a girl when you could have been collecting numbers'. It's just I'll feel so un-genuine asking a girl for directions then saying she's cute because I've done it so many times and the girls think it's unique to them every time. Can someone tell me why i'm thinking this way and if it's normal? |
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| Author: | Influx [ Sun Jun 19, 2011 5:36 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Feel Guilty Wanting To Do DayGame? |
Quote: I know you guys will think i'm dumb for thinking this, but because this girl is so nice I feel really guilty about wanting to do day game and thus haven't done it.
No we won't! We can't force you to do anything so if you want a brake take it! You can always get back to picking up girls if it doesn't work out between you!
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| Author: | tedwood [ Mon Jun 20, 2011 12:21 am ] |
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Thanks for the input. It's just one part of me is thinking I better play it safe and keep getting numbers and the other half is feeling guilt because she's a nice girl. I think i'm going to risk it and see where it goes with this girl ... |
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| Author: | Ryan Black SashaPUA [ Mon Jun 20, 2011 9:22 am ] |
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On the one hand, it's totally cool for you to recognise that a girl is cool and you're honestly really into her. There's nothing wrong with being the kind of guy that likes to have long term, stable, monogamous relationships. I'm not gonna tell you that seeing lots of girls casually or being polyamorous is necessarily better or anything like that. However, since you only just met this girl and you don't really know her that well, I would caution you from investing too much emotionally at the start. If you do telegraph that you're really into her and actually changing around your life and not doing things you'd normally be doing, because of her, then this can SEEM like you don't have a lot going on, and this can come off as neediness and not attractive to her. It's generally better, at least at the start of a relationship, to have lots of options and generally have the abundance mentality that comes from knowing that if one date doesn't work, you can have another the next day (or even that night!) if you want. You will come off more like a challenge to her, which will make her more attracted to you, and you will be able to express yourself more authentically because you will have a more outcome-independent mindset, rather than worrying too much about "what if" something goes wrong. Even if monogamy is what you're looking for, I think it's better to be getting numbers and setting up dates, and then after you've had sex with a girl 3 or 4 times and you do really like her, then cut the rest out and be exclusive with her, if that's what you want to do. |
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