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| Author: | HellRaiser [ Sat Oct 20, 2007 4:26 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Need advice on how to deal with xGF |
Just broke up with my girlfriend after 1.5months. She lost interesst in me. Im in love (typical of me). Midst in this relationship I discovered something called PUA. So yes Im completely new to this. I did alot of wrong tings in this relationship. Was needy, contact sick (phone/sms/visit and physical contact). Babytalk (I know, had 3 relationships with that shit, so im damaged. Trying to controll it but is slips now and then). Also said a lot of shit about her negative sides. Also have a problem that she think I said rude things, and she thought I was judgmental - maybe I was, but never intentionally. Wrote a long sentimental goodbye which I now regret. I have now broken all contact with her. So ... Im metal head, and frequent metal clubs. This girl like metal men, and doesn't have any problem getting them(someone would say she is slutty, the facebook wall is basically a fuck list i discovered hehe). She likes real men she told me. More badass he is, the better. Only serious relationship she had was with a man for 2y, she was beaten regularly, he was constantly cheating, manipulating her etc - and I discovered that she probably still have feelings for this guy - 1y after. The standard answear given here seems to be - forget about this girl. Hard to do in my position since I got a ton of feelings for here. But I agree. I will try. Now the thing is... Hopefully I get over her, and find someone else. But there isn't many metal girls around. As I discovered with this girl, it was actually nice for once to have a girl that shares your interessts. I do think I need a period where I need to fix myself. Reframe, isn't it what you call it? Get a life etc. Find out how to not beeing need and shit. The thing is - if the opportunity to get a second chance arise with this girl, I would probably take it. She is a very nice girl after all. So how should I behave, or treat her, if I meet her again?? How to treat her so I get time to fix myself, so im more prepared if a second chance comes up? How to build attraction over time?? Its easy to become the guy that sits in the corner looking at her 100% of the time and behave like a looser - I don't want that. Another question: She does have feelings for me I know - just not strong enough, and after all my shit she is probably reluctant like hell. But there is a chance that she will try to get me into bed again, maybe tonight for all I know - how to deal with that? Can't avoid the club that long. There is clubs and concert we might bump into eachother. What about body language? PS: Im new to this PUA stuff. Im reading as much as possible, but needed a few advices on this matter fast. |
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| Author: | HellRaiser [ Sun Oct 21, 2007 3:26 am ] |
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OK - the weekend is over. I did see my xGF tonight. My friend gave me an advice. Don't go over to her, don't look at her, don't contact her, just total ignore her. And I did so... All the evening I put on a big fucking smile all the time, was just happy, standing tall and had a good time. I went over to alot of ppl and started to talk to them, tried to tell some fun stories, espesially grps with girls and just talk, have some fun you know. Can't remember last time I talked to that many girls hehe Can't say I was THAT successful with the girls around in terms of creating attraction and stuff (didn't care either, wasn't that interested to get a laid if you know). I just tried to be social. Some girls came back to talk more to me. I felt they thought of me as a nice guy if you know - was fun. My xGF tried to get contact with several guys i saw, but mostly she looked really sad, frustraded etc - I felt really sry for her, you know, kinda wanted to go over and comfort her ... but I didn't. I know she looked at me from my eye-corner. But I was all the time talking to other ppl and girls. Never gave her any attention whatsoever. Not sure where she went or what happend to her ... maybe she found a another guy, maybe she went home .. whatever ... not sure if i care SPAM. As I said earlier. Im in love with my xGF, so naturally Im in a state of wanting to get back to her. Trying to forget her is hard, but I try. She is a nice girl after all... My point is - Maybe I find another girl and get happy that way. What I don't want is to burn the bridge to her. I don't want her tonight, tomorrow or next week, next month. If I did, I would prolly do the same mistakes and screw myself double up. What I say is that ... I need to do something with myself ... if/when/what I have done that I might be ready to try a second chance if ... and i say if ... ...chees I sound pathetic... Anyhow .. any thoughts? |
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