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Author:  ALSK1001 [ Tue Jun 14, 2011 2:34 pm ]
Post subject:  Who do you blame for the rejection?
Style says: always blame yourself, not the girl. At the same, he tells us to always assume attraction, so it's a little confusing. Most of the time I blame myself when things go wrong, having an imaginary role model in my head who always says and does the perfect things and picks up every girl(I know, horrible for the inner game), which needless to say hurts my game. I remember David D saying that 7 out of 10 girls are either unavailable, crazy, unattractive, etc. so going for 100% success rate is absurd. Who do you guys blame when a girl rejects you? I think it depends, although it's crucial to know that that you're the prize and the girl is worse off after rejecting you, sometimes you just fuck up and it's important to realize that and analyze and learn from your mistakes.
Author:  Txacoli [ Tue Jun 14, 2011 2:58 pm ]
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Well, it's hard to be really objective when it comes to this, but I try to be. Often when I look in retrospective, I can pinpoint things I did wrong and make a mental note. On the other hand, there are girls that are just not ready for you at the moment, or they just don't plain like you. Nothing you can do about that, so don't beat yourself up.
Author:  Lodewijkp [ Tue Jun 14, 2011 3:39 pm ]
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the woman will forget the thing an hour later ... who cares ... why feel bad when nobody cares ... i've picked up chicks who rejected me weeks ago .. i even got rejected my chicks who i pickedup ....

the next day she doesn't remember... why should you blame anyone.
Author:  Kupid [ Tue Jun 14, 2011 4:12 pm ]
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the woman will forget the thing an hour later ... who cares ... why feel bad when nobody cares ... i've picked up chicks who rejected me weeks ago .. i even got rejected my chicks who i pickedup ....

the next day she doesn't remember... why should you blame anyone.
That's true she'll forget, but it's good to make a mental note on every interaction so you see where have you suceeded/fucked up.

Personaly if I fuck up I blame myself (you know those days that your game sucks), there is no one else to blame but myself BUT if the girl is having a bad day (which you can see from the beginning) or she's really bitchy with no reason, well then I blame it on her, cause the next set I can run with exactly the same shit I did it in the pervious one and the second one hooks :D

Now I'm not saying that blaming myself/girl is a bad/good thing, but you can see what went wrong and you improve that :D

Just remember guys for every interaction someone is responsible ;)
(Unless there is an earthquake and the celing drops on your head, but luckly that didn't happened to me ;) )
Author:  Melodical [ Tue Jun 14, 2011 4:21 pm ]
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You just used the wrong approach/method/technique. The girl is not a mindreader to know that you are indeed the prize. Assume attraction yes it generates the subtle body language cues to create the attraction frame. If you make a mistake and rejection ensues it the method she is not attracted to not you. There are 3 billion women on this planet and every one different. It's impossible to get it right all the time so what do you expect lol....? It's par for the course. A PUA who complains about rejection is like a sailor who complains about the sea!
Author:  Lava [ Tue Jun 14, 2011 7:48 pm ]
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You will know when to blame yourself, its that obvious. Otherwise, its the girl's situation, we approach they have every right to reject. thats how it goes! you cant blame girls for rejection, they look for certain things in a guy! if u end up blaming urself every time its very bad for ur confidence and will affect ur game. its nothing personal! its life
Author:  ALSK1001 [ Tue Jun 14, 2011 8:24 pm ]
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Thank you all for the replies.
Author:  Chris2k10 [ Tue Jun 14, 2011 10:16 pm ]
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It's all mental masturbation. The only time when you should blame rejection on yourself is when you're not being honest/being cocky to get the girl or when you're seeking her affection at first. Other than that, it's all bullshit. You tell a girl you like her body and she might call you a pervert. Another girl may be turned on by it. It's all a big joke.

The best way to deal with rejection is to NOT REACT
Author:  DJ_Z [ Wed Jun 15, 2011 2:52 am ]
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I don't blame anybody, rejections happen and blame doesn't help matters. You just move on to the next one.
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