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Author:  calimoxo [ Mon May 30, 2011 4:03 pm ]
Post subject:  thoughts on how i handled..(day 2 jealousy shit test)
So going well, triangular gazing, lots of kino, starting topics and letting her run with them. We both seeing other people. She gets a text from the other dude,texts him back. I'm cool, smiling away talk to barmaid. Happens again, she mentions that she calls this guy 'doll' cos he dont like it. i say 'shit what's his name, Ken? with a laugh. Gets another text. I sit stroking her arn askibg about travels for 15mins then say in a,low voice with a smile, 'gotta jet, got some things to take care of; you seem distracted' then kiss on lips, get up, and go.

Thinking did i show too much by saying seem distracted, but wanted to alpha a bit. I literally had things to do, and wasn't gonna to stick around with text tennis!

Advuse, thoughts Por favor?
Author:  skills360 [ Mon May 30, 2011 5:29 pm ]
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I think you handle it perfect!!!!!!!!
Author:  JuanAntonioB [ Mon May 30, 2011 5:47 pm ]
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yea maybe that distracted comment you made was a little reactive. but other than that, it was fine.

remember girls need to know that you are a desired male. my girl tells me that all kinds of doods want her. she tells me this cuz shes a girl, and girls enjoy the feeling of being desired.

but i dont give a shit about any fags who want her. of course they want her, shes hot. but im not gonna be all like "oh who? who are these guys? " No. i laugh it off, barely acknowledge her comments, and talk about other shit that interests ME. cuz i truly, do not care. because im a desired male. she knows this. i can go and get any pussy I want. she knows this.

this is the vibe you need. when she knows you are desired by other women, she will choose you over other AFCs and even other cool doods, provided you have played your cards right up to this point.
Author:  calimoxo [ Tue May 31, 2011 9:58 am ]
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Thanks guys :) To be honest I'm a newbie to this stuff - time was I woulda gone total AFC, but I've come to a real understanding that all is not as it seems. I used to apply cold logic to things that would happen; how wrong I was!
And I still need to work on things - I really didnt need to drop the 'distracted' comment in - though she did use that exact same word when she text me later :)

This girl is a little bit of a headfuck - I know most are hahaha, but she is continually trying to frame herself as 'messed up', 'dominant', 'men think they have power, they don't'

I've been laughing it off and changing topics when she starts this threads but to be honest she was boring me a bit.
I'm not too into the girl so I thought I'd field test some extremely high risk stuff - if I bailed, so what - I've got a few more girls hahaha

Heres how it went:

Me: I don't think you're a girl for me. You're cute funny smart and a bit odd (in a good way) and sex would be mindblowing I'm sure :) but...x

HB: I'm not a girl for you Mr x

Me: Thats cool with me , It's been fun!...don't change for any fucker

HB: Haha I wouldnt dare :-) Am a lot to put up with but...x

(She's going there again - My aim was to alpha up in the following, didnt wanna be a pussy preener)

Me: Honestly? You're not. I've seen experienced far far worse! x (dismissive, I've seen it before and worse)

HB: S'pose...Like I said tho the facade hides multiple issues! Ha! x (agreeable?)

(She continually bangs the drum about having a nice facade that hides all this naughty shit hahah)

Me: nah. I don't buy it! You know what you want honey, just go get it x (dismissive, issue command)

HB: That's it tho I don;t really. And am unfortunately becoming guarded again...Yeah, wasn't me being TOO guarded this pm but...(seems to be trying to mirror my use of but...)

Me: . Let's cut the bs. Logic wont work cos women are emotion driven. What does your heart/instinct tell you? STFU, listen and do whatever it says :) xx (overtly commanding, as she 'doesn't know' so I'll tell her, not use logic though, go for emotional hook, STFU, soften it slightly with a wink)

HB: Heart tells me to stop. head is a devil though :-) (she answers my commanded question, but still leaves a trace of how she is a headfuck)

Me: Stop what? everything?? BTW I wasn't referring to me I was talking generally haha x (kinda nonsensical question as I know thats not the case, dropped the btw to not make me focus...)

HB: I know. Just stop umm just yeah, won't expand, pretty stupid really :-) and not everything! that's muy imposible x (flustered response, perhaps trying to get me to bite)

Me: I said you were (sexy fucked up) trouble! I'm not gonna get u to expand, but u need to tell someone else. You're a grown woman and need to tidy that shit away x (And this is where I go uber high risk ahahah)

HB: Ah it's nothing big it's just messing with my head a little. And I need to get over myself x (Ha. I got a reply, expected nothing - she has now reduced her 'fucked up-ness' to 'nothing big' and qualified on I need to get over myself)

Me: A little bit yeah! It HAS been fun tho...Take it easy xx (yes, she does need to get over herself a bit)

HB: You're a delight Mr :D x (BIG smiley and compliment - I disengage)


So. Thoughts? Improvements? Should I have even gone this way?

And what next - I'm gonna cool off for a couple of days I reckon.

Your time & assistance is appreciated!
Author:  JuanAntonioB [ Tue May 31, 2011 5:04 pm ]
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women are messed up. period. she may say that she doesnt think men have power, but thats just her way of saying "i want to find a powerful man, cuz so far no one seems to stand up to the plate"

so you can listen to her shit, even agree, go along with it, but the underlying frame is that you are the shit, you have control, you have power, you lead, you dominate.

the instant she feels that she is dominating, she will lose attraction.

as for your texting, it doesnt really matter what you say. stop being so particular and specific about it, because it will invariably fuck you up.

just keep the above mentioned mindset in place, and you will be fine
Author:  calimoxo [ Wed Jun 01, 2011 9:29 am ]
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the instant she feels that she is dominating, she will lose attraction.

as for your texting, it doesnt really matter what you say. stop being so particular and specific about it, because it will invariably fuck you up.
You the man Juan. I'm learning not to overthink this shit - and your advice is top drawer, as you say, I never met a lady that wasnt a bit fucked up - but I now know to stop applying logic to emotion driven occurences.

Also economy of conversation as you say, is key. And I'm now not getting as invested in this chick as I have a few more on the spin...works wonders hahah.

I'm giving her a little mini-freeze, taking away the attention for a little bit. I truly do have a lot on at the mo too, which is great. She's been ALL OVER my Facebook since. Haha. You gotta love this shit!
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