What is a player? Not so much of a question but an Observation based oon my current and past experiences.
Heres the deal. I am currently going out with 4 girls... VERY time consuming. (I found that 3 is best for me) I can barely find time for them or even go sarge. However, Im happy, I care for each one of them in a different way and all four have different purposes.
Heres who they are:
girl A. Lives in a different state but buys me plane tickes so we can be together! I of course repay her by studying female orgasms, female body anatomy and with the best orgasms of her life. Dont care who you are sex can always be better for her and yourself READ UP!!! She also completly trusts me which works perfectly for awesome sex.
girl B. I call her my MAIN girl. Always there for me as a friend and fuck buddy. We actually go on dates and always split the bill, or I pay for a movie and she pays for dinner. She also sleeps w other guys but gives me proority over everything as do I. Also very compliant in the bedroom
girl C. Strictly for sex. She calls me, text, FB me mostly when she wants sex only, and I do the same. We flirt every other day over the phone and not too happy about me seeing other girls but, she is always there if I need a ride or something.
girl D. Super shy, about to get dumped if she doesnt step up her game. Super spoiled and the fact that I never give in to her shit test and her request just turns her on. (cheerleader girl w a huge ego and used to guys chasing her) I of course make her chase me and only comply w her demands if she does something for me... kinda tiresome but she gets the least of my attention.
I attend to their feelings and personal needs. I am their friend and all of them know of the existance of other girls in my life. I never lie to them, if they need me Im there. They all know to text/call before showing up at my place cause I might be busy. When they are with me they feel special, Im not a jerk or an ass, I am a very nice guy, in fact 2 out of 4 know that I do the whole PUA thing and discuss if certain routines or techniques would work on her.
The 2 that know i do the PUA thing love letting me test stuff on them beofre I go sarge or have sex with other girls, they tend to feel special becauseI have'nt done something with someone else and that they r the first.
The "problem" is everyone around me see's me as a player, someone who is with a different girl everyother night and if Im alone Im picking up girls. All my friends think Im playing with them when I dont think its true. Like I said earlier I never lie to them and they know the deal from the beggining.
My conclusion. I guess if someone makes them feel special, not just a sex item; cared for and not there only when I need something; like a woman, meaning good in bed or at least willing to try new things... like I said read up!! They love it.