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I've seen this girl twice so far same age (25) . Both dates gone well ,
Both times I've got in her pants , boobs . w.e . Just no sex .
The issue is something about sleeping over , or being in the same bed together, She has an issue with .
She say's she's old fashion and doesn't sleep over or let a guy sleep with her on the first date so I said I respected that and agreed .
Second date same thing everything but sex . Still resistance on her being comfortable to go sleep together . She says in time she will feel more comfortable.
I respect the first date okay , Second date ugh . But Drives me nutty when women say there old fashion or keep playing the respect card for too long .
I've followed all these rules
1. You can't know a girl is "gf material" until you REALLY KNOW her. Like, after WEEKS or even MONTHS. If you start trying to reel her in, or get worried about losing her, you WILL, because you'll start acting needy.
2. Escalating on a girl is COMPLIMENT. Showing a girl that she turns you on will turn HER on. Do not EVER worry about escalating too quickly. She may well tell you to slow down or stop. Either way, just say ok, and then try again later. Make as much of a big deal out of it as if she'd asked you to turn the heating down a few degrees.
3. Play push-pull. That means get her in a mood to escalate, then do so for a BIT, then back off, leaving her wanting more. Then re-engage, escalate further, then back off. If you back off first, she'll WANT you to keep going. If she's always the one telling you to slow down, then it looks like you're pushing and pushing and want the sex much more than her.
I dunno what else to try , I could be mr nice guy and keep going on dates with her only getting to pet the pussy and boobs . but that's lame after awhile lol I told her maybe she's just to old fashion and nice for me . I ignored her and she got all clingy and mushy asking my why i gotta be like that begging me to give her more time .
What do you guys think ?
Those rules look a lot like something I would say Both times I've got in her pants , boobs . w.e . Just no sex .
The issue is something about sleeping over , or being in the same bed together, She has an issue with .
She say's she's old fashion and doesn't sleep over or let a guy sleep with her on the first date so I said I respected that and agreed .
Second date same thing everything but sex . Still resistance on her being comfortable to go sleep together . She says in time she will feel more comfortable.
I respect the first date okay , Second date ugh . But Drives me nutty when women say there old fashion or keep playing the respect card for too long .
I've followed all these rules
1. You can't know a girl is "gf material" until you REALLY KNOW her. Like, after WEEKS or even MONTHS. If you start trying to reel her in, or get worried about losing her, you WILL, because you'll start acting needy.
2. Escalating on a girl is COMPLIMENT. Showing a girl that she turns you on will turn HER on. Do not EVER worry about escalating too quickly. She may well tell you to slow down or stop. Either way, just say ok, and then try again later. Make as much of a big deal out of it as if she'd asked you to turn the heating down a few degrees.
3. Play push-pull. That means get her in a mood to escalate, then do so for a BIT, then back off, leaving her wanting more. Then re-engage, escalate further, then back off. If you back off first, she'll WANT you to keep going. If she's always the one telling you to slow down, then it looks like you're pushing and pushing and want the sex much more than her.
I dunno what else to try , I could be mr nice guy and keep going on dates with her only getting to pet the pussy and boobs . but that's lame after awhile lol I told her maybe she's just to old fashion and nice for me . I ignored her and she got all clingy and mushy asking my why i gotta be like that begging me to give her more time .
What do you guys think ?
You're doing ok - if I actually want to see a girl again, I won't even try to have sex on the first date with her any more. I can't be bothered to push through LMR when I can just wait until the 2nd or 3rd.
As long as you're not being pushy or needy, which doesn't seem to be the case, she's probably just a little shy and needs a bit more time.
Just make sure on the next date you turn the conversation sexual towards the end and get her horny before you even start making a move. When you're dirty talking to her, whispering in her ear, make sure you're telling her how beautiful / sexy she is to you and how she really turns you on.
Anyway, 3rd date is normal to have sex. If she makes you wait past that, then things might be a problem.
