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Author:  Cmon [ Fri May 20, 2011 9:12 pm ]
Post subject:  Im confused, did i ruin it?
So guys, ive hit it off with a girl and made out a couple of times. We texted a lot the following days but one day i got rly drunk and texted her how i felt.. I wanted to tell it in person but she wasnt around. She didnt answer so i followed up with another text, asking if she got the previous one, and a last one two days later. No answer. I also wrote to her on that damn facebook once, and didnt get a answer. Im rly confused..

The signal would have been clear if not for the facts that i dont think she is that much of a coward. In the text i asked her how she felt, and said that i didnt want to work for something if it didnt go anywhere. A "no" would have been pleasing enough.. In addition to this i have a friend who also talks a little with her, he hasnt gotten a text back either. Ok, so she may have lost her phone and internet connection, but she still hasnt made an attempt at getting in contact with me. Should i drop this or confront her? Is there something im not seeing?

Would appreciate some help, thanks
Author:  anthonypham [ Fri May 20, 2011 9:28 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Im confused, did i ruin it?
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So guys, ive hit it off with a girl and made out a couple of times. We texted a lot the following days but one day i got rly drunk and texted her how i felt.. I wanted to tell it in person but she wasnt around. She didnt answer so i followed up with another text, asking if she got the previous one, and a last one two days later. No answer. I also wrote to her on that damn facebook once, and didnt get a answer. Im rly confused..
Too needy/pushy!

Of course she received your first textmessage, but she refused to answer.

Your second textmessage, if she got the previous one, was pathetic. What do you think?!

Then you wrote on her FB??? Come on, why are you so pushy?

You showed some DLV, bro. You were drunk, so you were not leading the game, your drunkness messed up
Author:  P1nkstar [ Fri May 20, 2011 11:28 pm ]
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Game over, mate.

Your drunkness ruined it.

Lesson learned, too needy/pushy/affected.

next!
Author:  H!j!nx [ Fri May 20, 2011 11:55 pm ]
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I agree with the other two guys, mostly. I don't know the particulars of the situation, so I'm not sure if it's 100% game over. But your follow-ups were def DLV.
I think that you should reframe this whole thing in your mind, though. It's not so much that it's "game over." For even a ONS to work, she has to see the VALUE in you. Focus your sights on all of the fun experiences with fun and sexy women that are waiting for you. Then, think about how painful it would be to miss out on them if you continue to worry over what this girl is thinking. Then go out and enjoy the other girls out there. You and your little jimmy will be grateful you did.

-H!j!nx[/i][/b]
Author:  Anarchy99 [ Sat May 21, 2011 10:25 pm ]
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Sorry dude - you blew it! :)

Dont worry though - Theres no such thing as failure. Only feedback.
Author:  Mack 2.0 [ Sat May 21, 2011 10:28 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Im confused, did i ruin it?
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Should i drop this or confront her?
"confront" is a harsh word

words have connotations

be careful with that mindframe

girls don't like to be "confronted" about anything...in any way
Author:  Cmon [ Tue May 24, 2011 7:00 pm ]
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Thanks for the feedback! This was absolutely a valueble lesson, and is never to be repeated. Ive realised that I was both pushy and needy, my behavior was pathetic and I truly hate to see myself like this.

Thanks for setting me straight!
Author:  Blind Watchmaker [ Tue May 24, 2011 8:15 pm ]
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I truly hate to see myself like this.
Never hate yourself. Learn your lesson, but don't hate yourself. It will damage your inner game immensely.
Author:  YouKnowMySteez [ Tue May 24, 2011 8:21 pm ]
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Exactly. Everyone makes mistakes. The best way to learn a lesson is the hard way. If you didn't learn lessons like this you wouldn't grow. Game on and have fun with it!
Author:  Lodewijkp [ Tue May 24, 2011 8:38 pm ]
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i once text messaged a dude , i thought i was text messaging this girl ..... i was messaging all these sexual shit to a dude lol , shit about how im going to take her(him) on a romantic date in brush her (his) teeth with my tongue..... one big reason why i don't drink alcohol anymore.
Author:  Maikuljay [ Tue May 24, 2011 11:54 pm ]
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i once text messaged a dude , i thought i was text messaging this girl ..... i was messaging all these sexual shit to a dude lol , shit about how im going to take her(him) on a romantic date in brush her (his) teeth with my tongue..... one big reason why i don't drink alcohol anymore.
Rock on, did he go for it?
Author:  Mack 2.0 [ Wed May 25, 2011 12:08 am ]
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lol
Author:  PSyKaD4LiC [ Wed May 25, 2011 4:34 am ]
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You blew it
Author:  Lodewijkp [ Wed May 25, 2011 10:35 am ]
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no he didn't go for it .. i got rejected by a dude lol .... fucking dude-shield ! now i know how it feels to be gay and game men lol.
he told me i need to stop snorting lines.
Author:  danvaryguy [ Wed May 25, 2011 7:05 pm ]
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now the important thing is to not let it happen again..

I'm till now doing this every time.every time I become needy and emotional and scared of her leaving and then confront my love to her and
she's gone

I dont know why but I'm still doing it till now.so make sure you learned your lesson..

the reason I think every guy will always try the afc way by telling the girl he loves her is that he wants her to tell him she loves him so he feels validated so its a needy behavior.At least thats what I need and do.
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