I'm gonna keep this as short and sweet as possible. Now I have a big problem with approaching and it's closing down to summer time so I need to get my game on point so I can get some buns. I'm gonna describe my situation in three parts; what I feel I do right and wrong, examples of what I [haven't] done, and what I feel I should be doing.
To be honest I literally never approach girls I don't know with the intentions of sparking a convo to get their number and hook up. I might try to make eye contact and every 1/10 times try to throw a smile at them but I just can't get up and engage them. I don't have approach anxiety as much as I just stay reserved knowing that I'm gonna end up getting no where approaching with no game plan or idea of what to do. Worse still if the girl is sitting next to me I feel like I'll be invading her personal space to try and engage her.
I have seen so many beautiful women on my way back and forth to the city. The most I'll ever do is ask the time or directions because if I open, compliment, and introduce myself I feel like if I even get that far I better get her number straight away before I start getting boring. I sit and watch hoping for the day I feel confident enough to know how to peak these girls attention. My game, if I had the convo part down, probably would be to get eye contact, move next to the girl, and talk her into getting a number.
Today I saw two very lovely, approachable looking girls come on to the bus. Had I had the nerve or knowledge of what to go up to them and say I would have gotten up and moved from where I was at and engaged. I saw another girl walking down the street and as I passed her I wondered what I could say or if it would've even been a good idea to walk up beside her and have a chat. Even in the classroom if I have no excuse to approach I find it a bit hard to even though I never used to be that way before college. Maybe I shouldn't care and just try but I just know I will reach a dry point, crash, and burn.
I need to know what to say and what direction to take that works. Canned openers that are just irrelevant are lame. In my mind I believe a simple hi how are you followed with a compliment and false time constraint can do the job better but after introductions I wouldn't really know what to say. I could pull something from the situation to talk about but I'm trying to be interesting not an observationalist and I feel like I might get boring. It would be nice if someone could provide me with a general idea of what to do knowing what my situation is looking like. How do you guys do it and why can't I?
