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Author:  recovered [ Wed May 04, 2011 7:56 pm ]
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How bad/good is it when your ex who'm you've broke up with becomes gay after several weeks of trying to get you back, is that a DHV thing or is it so bad to realize that I'm truly a dick? Opinions needed... this definitely isn't bs, it's legit she's fallen for other girls, even her mother is trying to throw me under the bus for this (ex already messing with other girls)
Author:  poet1234 [ Wed May 04, 2011 8:16 pm ]
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How bad/good is it
Irrelevant.
Author:  Mack 2.0 [ Wed May 04, 2011 8:17 pm ]
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lol, i've turned so many women lesbian. virtually all of my exes
Author:  recovered [ Wed May 04, 2011 8:19 pm ]
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Just want to make sure it's not something I should feel guilty about.
Author:  Mack 2.0 [ Wed May 04, 2011 8:32 pm ]
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I wouldn't feel guilty about it.

What I am about to state is just my opinion, and you know what they about opinions...

Anyway, if a girl "goes gay" immediately after suffering a breakup, it is a testament to a few different things.

First, it is a testament to her lack of introspection ability. Chances are that she actually is not "gay" (although in some instances she may be), but that instead of taking a good hard look at what went wrong, it is easier for her to just decide that all men are "evil" or "undesirable". Some people have no ability to look inward. Even after leaving a long term relationship where my ex was a horrible person, I still mustered the courage to look at what I did to contribute to the downfall, or what I could learn from the situation, or how I should proceed in a better fashion the next time around. I did this because I have the ability to be introspective. I didn't run out and look for the first hairy manbutt to cozy up with. You hear what I am saying?

Second, it is a testament to how "affected" she truly was by the breakup. She may be so hurt that she can't possibly even consider the thought of being with another male, so it is easier, again, to just say "Hey, World! I'm gay!" It's a preposterous thing to do, and it ranks right up there with such lifestyle choices as "Art School Lesbian" and "Fashionably Gay". These are trends, which are not to be confused with sexual orientations, lol.

Third, it's a poke in your eye. It screams "Ha! Look at you! I don't want your penis anymore! In fact, I never want a penis again! I'm moving to VaginaLand where it's all unicorns and rainbows all day long, Fucker!" Again, this is an angry and bitter response to a breakup, instead of an introspective and thoughtful growth process which would be the preferred outcome to the end of a relationship. It's unfortunate, but this lack of introspection (which results directly from a lack of being able to take responsibility) is at epidemic levels in our culture. No one is ever to blame for what happens.

Basically, it's all about choosing denial over responsibility.

It's easier to say:
- It never would have worked, I'm gay!

Than it is to say:
- Gee, what did I do to contribute to the downfall of this relationship?

The solid truth is that a breakup doesn't "turn a person gay".

So, no, I wouldn't feel guilty. I would actually feel relieved. Because if you were dating someone who has so little ability to deal with reality and it's harshness and it's sometimes ugliness and learn from it like a mature, grown human being, and instead chooses denial and "turning gay" as a defense mechanism, that you did yourself a favor by getting the fuck away from her. She is a child.
Author:  recovered [ Wed May 04, 2011 8:38 pm ]
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Haha thanks Mack, you couldn't say it any better. You can be my wing man any time. +2.
Author:  Chris2k10 [ Wed May 04, 2011 8:50 pm ]
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I bet $1 million this girl is in high school.
Author:  recovered [ Wed May 04, 2011 9:13 pm ]
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She's in college, and she's 19... and you can be one of the reasons women turn lesbian, especially with your "creeper/stalker" way of picking them up.

Why are you even on this thread? Didn't you mention 90% of the PUA community is a joke, and a waste of time? (Refer to: 3-vt90871.html?postdays=0&postorder=asc&start=30) Read Chris' threads/replies.
Author:  Rethnu [ Thu May 05, 2011 11:46 am ]
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You can't turn someone gay, if she's trying it with girls now then she was bisexual before too and now she's just trying the other side....
Author:  Txacoli [ Thu May 05, 2011 1:06 pm ]
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Send your ex to me, I'll turn her straight again ;) My GFs seem to turn straight when I break up with them hehe:) When a woman has a broken heart, she'll often say fuck men, Ima do women now. But most of them don't. She was probably bisexual even before you. She's in college, experimenting, she may be 100 % straight in a couple of years. I notice with a lot of people, well girls mostly, they sometimes have a flexible sexuality, some of them even do same sex relationships if they fall for a chick hard enough and then go back to being straight like nothing ever happened. So don't worry, it's not your fault, you shouldn't feel guilty whatsoever. Maybe some lez friend was comforting her and got her attached to herself or whatever.
Author:  Chris2k10 [ Thu May 05, 2011 6:54 pm ]
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She's in college, and she's 19... and you can be one of the reasons women turn lesbian, especially with your "creeper/stalker" way of picking them up.

Why are you even on this thread? Didn't you mention 90% of the PUA community is a joke, and a waste of time? (Refer to: 3-vt90871.html?postdays=0&postorder=asc&start=30) Read Chris' threads/replies.
It is a joke. You don't understand that there's good PU and bad PU. Most people coming here are misinformed. You still don't understand the creeper/stalker thing either.
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