I've never really been horrible with women. I always excelled if I was able to get a girl out for a date. Once on the date, everything always flowed perfectly. I was never nervous, my conversation and story telling was always great, I would naturally kino and tease her, kiss close was inevitable, and f-close would come in a very short time if not that very night.
It was getting to the actual date part that was my problem. I would go out to the clubs/bars and meet women all the time. I would be nervous as hell taking to them at the club. My friends would meet women with no problems. I didn't think of myself as a bad looking person. My smile wasn't the greatest, but I was still somewhat confident. I would go out and fail and fail over and over again. I would be the nice guy asking the same questions that they have heard a million times. Doing stupid crap like buying them drinks and giving them my business card.
While bored at work, I came across a PUA site. I became a member and started downloading every book they had. I would read, and study all the time. Everything that I read didn't seem to come out when I went to the club though. I would revert back to my normal self. Predictable, nice guy.
I was introduced to a girl through a friend, and just like always, I excelled while on a date. It was at this moment EVERYTHING started to click. I was naturally cock and funny, I would naturally kino, I would naturally tell stories, I would naturally play games. Everything at that very moment changed for me.
I decided to go out and do something about my image. I got braces to fix my teeth. They weren't bad. Just had a lot of gaps. Dentist said I had a million dollar smile because fixing it would be simple and they would look perfect after wards.
After getting braces, a friend of mine said he came across a book called The Game and he described it. I went out and bought the book the very next day. I read the entire thing that night. Things really started to click at this point. I had the foundation of a PUA, I just needed a way in.
I started memorizing openers, going out to clubs and trying them out. I became aware that I needed more than an opener to keep her interested. I started following openers up with stories. Still needed more. In flowed the games with cocky and funny sprinkled here and there. Negs along with that. Before I knew it, everything started to flow just as they did when I went on dates. My mental state changed. When I meet these girls, I treat them as if I know them already and I'm on a date with them, even though we just met. My routine really isn't a routine because everything I do now is based off the situation I'm in at that current moment. Yes I still used canned openers sometimes, yes I may have a story in the back of my head ready to go at any moment, but most of my routine is based off the current situation.
You will never be able to build a routine and then have it work out exactly the way you planned it. Do I consider myself a PUA. Not even a little bit. Do I get it and understand the fundamentals behind PUA. Absolutely. Do I have any trouble speaking to women and closing? Not anymore.
It doesn't end there though. After you get the girl, you have to keep her interested. That's where other parts of PUA came into play. You can't pick and choose which part you want to learn. You have to learn it all even if you think you already know it. They all work hand in hand and the methods do work if used correctly.
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