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Author:	Goop [ Mon Apr 18, 2011 1:52 pm ]
Post subject:	How to get from a "friend zone"
Firstly let me tell you I don't have any problems with hooking up with girls for one night flings etc. ( girls that I don't feel to emotional for ). So I'll be short and go to the problem : I have hooked up with a girl at the end of the last year at a work party ( we work at the same place ) and I was drunk she was drunk we had a great time ( without sex ) so it was OK for me - had no feelings for her or anything then she got my number and we kind of started texting and getting to know each other ( talking at work etc... ). She told me that from the moment she started to work at the same place as me she was attracted to me and she asked me if I have any serious relationship and what is my view on it. I told her I'm currently not looking for any serious relationship etc.. we texted a lot, but everytime I asked her if she wants to go to drink she found excuse, but one day I finally got her to come and visit me at my house we talked at first and then we kissed a lot etc.., but she wouldn't go further (said I would ignore her the next day) and I didn't push it (at that time she probably though I was long-term material). But now things have turned I kind of fallen in love with her and told her this like 1 month ago and now everytime I try something she pulls back and tells me she wants to be friends for now. Now I don't know what to do, I have probably fallen in a "friend zone" and NOW she wants to go to cinema, drinks, ... what have I done wrong (telling her my feelings for her, maybe coming on her to strong and maybe I'm to nice and sweet (I am once you get to know me ), I complimented her a lot and was totally open about everything probably to much). I want her to chase me again not vice versa. Should I ignore her at work, talk less to her, ignore messages, calls and those drinks she wants to have? Should I tell her I'll come for a drink and then just find an excuse or it's over for me with this girl? I'm not so strong to be just friends I want something more. I have great sense of humor and I'm very easy person don't get upset or anything and still here and there tell her some sexy things about her in a funny way. BTW she is very hot and a lot of guys chase her . Thanks in advance for taking time and reading through this and maybe helping me find a solution.

Author:	Goop [ Tue Apr 19, 2011 7:41 pm ]
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Anyone willing to help please?

Author:	Chris2k10 [ Tue Apr 19, 2011 8:15 pm ]
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I didn't even read your post. Your problem is already stated in your question. Why do you want to get out of the friend zone? This is how your logic looks like to me: I want to get out of the friend zone so I can be more than a friend for her. Being more of a friend means being a boyfriend and being a boyfriend means liking each other and having feelings for one another. Now let me help you out because you got it backwards. What you really want from this girl is to "love" you back. In essence, that means you want her affection. Well let me tell you something. If you want her affection, you cannot go about wanting her to love you. Instead, focus on giving her pleasure and by that I mean things that are physical and physical compliments, NOT gifts and dinners. You're sort of stuck in the middle with her now, you've only given SOME pleasure which is kissing her. You have to go all out with being seductive and selling the sex before you sell your feelings to her. When she gave you resistance, you backed off, you chickened out. You were afraid she won't want you anymore if you persisted, you wanted to play it safe in hopes of her having affection for you. Well my man, it does not work like that. You have to forget about yourself and focus on HER. Give her the PLEASURE, not YOU. She will want YOU after you give her the pleasure. You're being selfish because you're more concerned with her liking you and that's why you're taking it so personally. Her liking you will come after you give her the pleasure. Seducing her, having sex, THEN snuggling and having feelings for each other. That's the way it goes.

Author:	thumper858 [ Wed Apr 20, 2011 4:22 pm ]
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DUDE! I think a lot of guys have the wrong view towards the friend zone. I personally LOVE IT. I have even gotten to the point where I am telling girls that I think we should just be friends after I've banged them. If a girl puts you in the friend zone, EMBRACE it! Seriously! With this particular situation, STOP CHASING! You confessed your love for this chick, after you told her that you weren't looking for anything serious. BUZZER Wrong answer. I can totally understand wanting to be with a chick. Not being able to think of anything else but this girl and willing to do anything to get her. I'm sure everyone on this site has been there and it's called ONEITIS! They go through all the motions, bending over backwards to get the girl they want and when they get her, bang her, and date her, they find that she's just as nutty as all the other girls they've dated before her. Best way to get over it and also the best way for you to get the girl that you are so in love with.... FIND ANOTHER GIRL! Simple as that. She just wants to be friends right? Cool. Next time she invites you out, make sure you have a date with you. Introduce them. If it's just the three of you, even better. Use what you should have learned from this site to help you with this game. If the girl you're in love with is your target, give attention to your date. Slowly throughout the night, give gradual attention to your target. At the end of the night you're leaving with your date and she's going home alone, yet her interests have been recharged. Can't find a date?? Make her your wing without her even knowing. Other girls seeing you with a pretty girl is social proof through the roof! Make sure your game is on though cause if you crash and burn in front of her, it lowers your value with her. Either way, get the girl and/or get over the girl by getting another girl(s).

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