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| Author: | Cuboidd [ Fri Apr 15, 2011 1:57 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Help! Issue with picking up |
Hello, obviously I have an issue picking up, otherwise I wouldn't be here. Here it is in a nutshell. I just started reading The Game. I'm only a couple of chapters in and decided to start employing some of the techniques, mainly openers. I find it very difficult. Whenever I open with something, the reaction is always the same. What goes through her head seems to be something along the lines of "Yeah OK, I'm happy to answer this guy's question to be polite, but I really just want to keep talking to my friend". What follows is basically the girl turning around to keep chatting to her friend, or she'll discreetly walk off. It's super hard to grab a girl's interest. Trying to pick up is VERY frustrating for me. I'm well-spoken, confident, not too bad looking (I dress well), but still nothing. The reality in the book is not my reality... at all. My impression is that a girl is willing to chat about any crap as long as she's interested in you, and I don't feel as though a girl being interested is within my control. I don't know why this is the case. Girls never look at me for more than a second when they walk by. Good looking or ugly. It's the classic 'look for one second then look away' look, and on the odd occasion when the conversation goes well, is awkward-free, and flows (this usually happens at a bus stop or on the bus, or at a bar sometimes), they decline keeping in contact at the end. Instead, I get "we'll see you around some time" and a little giggle as I'm walking off. Why does the stuff work for Style but not for me? Usually when I'm at a bar and I've been rejected a few times, it's usually when I've done a few laps of the bar and by then I don't want to be there cause it's like.. well.. I've walked around enough - I'll look like an idiot if I keep circling the venue. Anyway, that's it in a nutshell. I need someone to judge my behaviour, as there are things I could be doing that I don't realise. I believe I would be one of the biggest challenges for Mystery and his crew. I need help. |
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| Author: | griff_199 [ Fri Apr 15, 2011 2:25 pm ] |
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Keep reading the game and start to learn the Mystery Method. What you actually say is only 7% of an interaction. Did you know that? Its not about the words that come out of your mouth its about the way you say them! Your body language, Your energy levels, Vocal tonality / volume etc I believe the words that you say are just a tool to help u portray the attraction switches subconsciously. Also yeah just going out and doing openers is great if you want to demolish your AA and well done because approaching is hard for anyone no matter what they say. But it would be useful to learn some routines and to stack some material so that when you go into set if you run out of things to say you always have some canned story or routine or trick to follow it up with so that the set don't lose interest to easily. Also practise practise practise the more sets you open then better you will become |
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