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| Author: | TheKermit [ Thu Apr 14, 2011 9:39 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Need help with cashier girl at supermarket |
I'm new to this forum and to this whole PUA world but I'm not that much into this stuff but just wanted to get some ideas or help from you guys. So there's this cute girl working as a cashier at the supermarket and I've seen her there a few times and everytime I go the cash register she's working at, I get this semi strong eye contact from her and she really smiles at me. I've actually tried holding the eye contact and she just keeps looking at me and smiling. I thought that maybe she just did that to everyone but today I went with my buddy to the supermarket and she happened to be working so I went to her cash register and again got that strong smile and eye contact and so I decided to look if she did it to my buddy as well but she didn't seem to smile at him. So I'm kinda taking this as an IOI but I have no idea how to open this girl while at the cash register and how I could quickly get a date from her since this would have to be a quick open and close... Thanks in advance! Any ideas? |
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| Author: | Hansel McDonald [ Thu Apr 14, 2011 11:25 pm ] |
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It could be an IOI, but I can't say for sure given the information provided. Does she display any other potential IOIs? What are your conversations like? |
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| Author: | TheKermit [ Fri Apr 15, 2011 11:03 pm ] |
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Well like I said I'm new to this stuff and I didn't notice anything else that I would know to label as an IOI, might have been something but I'm not sure. And I haven't had a conversation with her because when I go I basicly just have to pay and move along because of the line, and I don't buy lots of stuff at once so I'm there for like 15 seconds... But setting that aside if it was an IOI or not, let's just ASUME that this girl was putting out some serious IOI's, what would you guys do? |
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| Author: | Hansel McDonald [ Sat Apr 16, 2011 2:30 pm ] |
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Ask for her number. |
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| Author: | PUA Kenny [ Sat Apr 16, 2011 4:57 pm ] |
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Supermarket-gaming is 1 of my areas of expertise. The key here is to banter;I cant type it any clearer that this. The #1 killer to seduction & pick up is seriousness. Have a light mood with her. Whie you're waiting in line,etc.,make funny faces at her,blow kisses at her while she's checcin out a customer ahead of you. Whisper to her from far away so she'd engage you tying to figure out what you're trying to say. Tel her t gve you a free candy or to sneak an item into your bags where no one else can see. Encourage her to do something bad. You:"Hey come on,there's no one looking.Dont let me get on my knees and beg right here right now". This should be your vibe & energy-BANTER,PLAYFUL,BOYISH. The moment you become or remain serious and closed-in,it will kill the attraction. Assume that she's attracted. Stop wondering if she's sending IOI's or AI's(approach invitations). This should be your vibe with everyone,or every cashier. Adopt the playful vibe. Im currently gaming a cashier at a local bakery. My approch is exactly as I detailed above and Im having major success a usual with cashiers. Cashiers seem to be the easiest to seduce(for me). Now,you should do the bantering & playing for the next few meetings. Dont be surprised if she gives you her #. If you have this serious vibe,she will not offer her #. I dont think you should go for a # close next time. Play with her for a week or so. Then # close. |
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| Author: | andd95 [ Sat Apr 16, 2011 6:30 pm ] |
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a couple of things off the top of my head: -every time don't go just to her register, you don't want to appear like that creepy stalker guy she can't escape. -learn to sort IoI's from professional/personal courtesy. Having worked in supermarkets i have known cashiers that put on a smiling face and seem like they are shooting IoI's but in fact thats just the way they were naturally even if they found their customer "weird". - don't ask her to take any "risks" for you she doesn't know you and it doesn't seem as if you had any real verbal communication with her up to this point. Even playfully you have no idea how many customers in a supermarket try and make her "bend" the rules to their advantage. like i've said I used to work in a supermarket for several years so I would hear the comments of cashiers about the guys trying to hit on them. Usually to my advantage as I would say "didn't they know i'm taking you out saturday night?" with a sly smile and playful tone. when gaming out of my store or a new girl that i had to get to know a few things that i've picked up along the way: "hows your day going" "tough day huh?" "at least you are out of here soon right?" "aww well hopefully time will pass by fast, have a nice night =)" if she looks like she is waiting for a ride: "hey there, what are you doing waiting for you boyfriend to pick you up?" -her answer will reveal if she is single or not without directly asking her "if she is single" so she will not notice you are already gaming her. if she answers she doesn't have a bf (hopefully) : "ah huhhs i don't believe you, i'm not going to talk to you anymore if you are going to keep lying to me =)" this is usually followed by a "i'm just kidding, you are KIND of cute, don't let it go to your head". I will add the disclaimer most/all of this is all indirect game because that is what i'm used to especially when I used to work in supermarkets this type of game is invaluable. Since i didn't want to lose my job or make a coworker feel uncomfortable i built up this method and always had some sort of close while avoiding any drama if the girl picked up a bf along the way or I moved onto the next girl. |
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| Author: | PUA Kenny [ Sat Apr 16, 2011 10:36 pm ] |
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@Add95-I strongly disagree with your approach. Your insight is correct on cashiers & hired guns(bartenders,etc.)being cordial and courteous because it's their job. It's up to the seducer to distinguish between the target being nice or sending genuine IOI's. The Kermit(the original poster)isnt at the point in game to distinguish the difference. I just cant believe you dont believe that banter is the way to go here. I totally agree with you also about goin to different cashiers. That is a must in order to kill the potential stalker vibe. |
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| Author: | andd95 [ Sun Apr 17, 2011 1:41 am ] |
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In that case yes it would be dependent all on the OP, coming into the game he may know the distinction between ioi's and professional courtesy. From his post it seems that he is just learning how to game now so may not know how to read accurately (OP feel free to correct me). As far as talking to cashier of course you would want to have a friendly chat with them getting to know the target better in order to build some sort of comfort. But I believe unless the OP is going direct (or rather even IF he is going direct) these interactions will be limited to 30 seconds to 1 minute (of course all dependent on how much he is buying). With that said regardless of approach he has to distinguish himself in a short amount of time while not appearing creepy or too demanding. I suggested information that worked quite well for me, in most cases I had enough time to establish comfort either instantly or through time using indirect game. |
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| Author: | TheKermit [ Sun Apr 17, 2011 4:08 am ] |
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Thanks for the tips guys and you are correct, I'm really new to the gaming world so I'm not very good at identifying IOI's from proffessional courtesy, but I'm trying to figure that out. Also what you said about not going to her register all the time, I actually don't always go to her register. Even today I had to just run in and buy one item and she was working so I went to the register next to her (only 2 registers open) and so she was turning her back to me. I kind of had one eye on her and saw that she was not really smiling at anyone and then when she turned to grap a reciept she noticed me and looked away and smiled, then looked at me again for about 1 second and quickly looked away again. So I'm getting more confidend that she is interested. The playful banter thing is a good idea but I don't think I'll be able to pull it off right, it doesn't really fit my personality so I'd most likely not do it right and come off as creepy. So I think I'll just start some simple banter like asking stuff like "tough day huh?" like andd95 mentioned and see how she responds to me. I won't be expecting to number close the next time though, I think I'll try and build up a little connection first with this kind of stuff. And I'm not really a direct kinda guy I just find that it comes off as really creepy, especially if I'm direct with a girl I just met. |
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| Author: | PUA Kenny [ Sun Apr 17, 2011 1:53 pm ] |
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thing is,Im an advocate of indirect gaming.I only go indirect. Banter & being playful with her is the essence of indirect. For you to just be there and ay,"tough day huh",does not separate you from the other 100 guys who say this to her. Only think which would separate you is to be playful. Let your f'ing guard down. Playful gets you laid.And it lighten the girl's mood. If that's not your personality-change it!!! Being playful is taking risk,being the bad boy which women like. Saying to her,''touh day huh'',she will automatically know where this is heading and that you're hitting on here but too pussy to be direct. Being at her register and saying,"Hey how about a dicount?I've been shopping here for the last 5 years.It has to be a crime to not give me a dicount.Come on,dont make me get on my knees and beg". Obviously you would be doing the above with a slight smile on your face so she knows you're just kidding. This will essentially lighten her mood. Doing things like this for the next few meets,you would be surprised if she offers her # out of the blue. But she's definitely not gonna offer her # to guy who's saying,"tough day huh"? Last note:always assume it's on! Assume everything is an IOI. Dont wait and wait to see if she's giving you IOI's. Being playful translates that you dont really care how the interaction goes. That is sexy to a woman.Risk takers are sexy. So,take more risk by busting on her. Stop playing it so safe. |
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| Author: | andd95 [ Sun Apr 17, 2011 6:31 pm ] |
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k-loc i'm not disagreeing with you and yes it is good to get out of your comfort zone especially when gaming girls. But i feel when you are first starting to get the hang of gaming that you should take it in steps. Of course I do not know the OP so I have no ideas what kind of game he has or his personal experiences but i'm just throwing out ideas and possible outcomes. Like I have said having worked in a supermarket most of my teenage years (6 or so) I can see behind the scenes of how most interactions went. I was able to see guys flounder while attempting to game, guys being TOO direct and creeping out the girl, the typical customers and everything in between. In particular your example of "oh come on discount..." a cashier would feel that you are ONLY trying to be nice TO get the discount and will disqualify you. Well i do agree with your sentiment that he must show her he is a head above just a regular customer possibly a different line would work. He must be able to at least have some rapport building before he shows a flicker of his intentions and see if she takes the bait. When he sees positive results he must immediately capitalize as I have said before most interactions tend to be rather brief. I am actually interested how this works out regardless of approach. Best of luck to the OP keep us updated. |
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