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Author:  jay2011 [ Mon Apr 04, 2011 8:50 pm ]
Post subject:  shes lost interest?

Ok m et this girl new years eve, she helped me take my mind of a girl i really i wanted, so it was all good..
after some flirting, she kept saying she loves me, and i miss u and all this
then a couple of weeks later we go out, went back had amazing sex, she really happy saying u can do all these things to me the next day

after that she used to come on fbook at like 12 oclock and say come over and i was like na cant tnite im in bed..
this happend alot and she' say i miss u, love u all the time, ring me at night and say night e.t.c
then a sat night after i stayed at hers she said she was tied, nothing happend, she went to work and she said i could borrow her car, so i took it home and cleaned it as a nice gesturte...she loved me when i picked her up in and said i was amzing

so the following week i meet her out, shes with all her mates and i say hi and meet her, then she was like ignoring and pretended i wasnt there, anyway at the end of the night she said she was coming home with me..but she dissapeared with all these other blokes..

i then get a message saying lets just leave it on fbook, so i was like ok why?
sisnt get a reply she didnt txt me till sunday and said are we still friends? i was like what the fuck? so didnt reply, then she txtxs and says u wanna speak to me i can explain why ive been weird...

so i said ok and she tells me she thinks she pregnant..bearing in mind its only been 2 weeks since i slept with her..so i didnt really believe it but went with, anyway i constantly called her to do another test and she didnt seem bothered about it, in the end i brought 1 and a week later and it was negative!! so im sure it was all lies!! then she blew me out on valentines day, so i went round the next day and said forget it!! 2 days later she says can we be freinds, i said ok, but wheres the good bye sex, she says that dont have to stop..so i was like jackpot..but sinse then shes been distant, i went round hers a couple of weeks ago when she was ill and had dinner with her and her sister which was weird!! i say lets go aout and she says yeah, but then flakes..she constantly comments on my fbook stuff saying i love u and miss u, but nothing ever happens...

How do i resolve this? she seems to go out at the wknds with various other guys and has the "best times" so her status's says, another attention seeker i think, but she is a great girl and i dont know what happend? she keeps saying come see me i miss your face..then she flakes..

on Friday i said lets go out, she said can't tnite, next week? so i said cool...
so i just txt her and said pick a number between 5-10, she replied 8, so i said i will pick u up at 8 on thursday night then...so far no response!! i need to get her interest back some how!! please help??

Author:  Byzantine [ Mon Apr 04, 2011 9:21 pm ]
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I often forget to add a disclaimer to my posts but I can truly speak for the stuff I've actually dealt with, whether the results are what you're looking for or not you should decide.

I think she needs an ultimatum, but ultimatum's are a double edged sword and are hard to calibrate so think it thoroughly, this is why:

-She has a boy toy on demand (HER demand) so why work harder than she needs to keep him around?

-We all have ups and downs, sometimes she has tons of attention and things to go out to do on the weekends etc. It doesn't sound like you're trying to get her every weekend but it seems she's not considering your feelings when she has her happy little schedule filled up only when her ego needs that companion she knows she has on a short leash (don't take offense, I know it sucks and I've been there).

-Does she enjoy your company? Very most likely
Does she deserve it or do you give it to her freely? Exactly!

If I can recommend some material at this point, it seems like you just need to start exuding an Alpha frame, the beauty of being Alpha is that you could be wearing skinny girl jeans and still get the psychological results you seek because you settle for nothing less!

You should be balanced before you speak to her so she will not face you or convince you that she loves you before you finish speaking to her. Get your points across in a firm but positive way, express that you want more respect for your time etc, think of all the points you need to get across.

The part of the ultimatum is where you communicate that if this is not addressed it will be easier for the both of you to not see each other again. Please note its all about calibration and only you know at what level you are involved with this girl.

BTW Cheers fot not being a father lol I've been there plenty of scary times!

Best luck!

Author:  jay2011 [ Mon Apr 04, 2011 9:38 pm ]
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Thanks again dude, yeah all makes sense...does it seem to u that because i got pissed off, she used the baby stunt to get my attention back!! but then she fucked it cause she got me being clingy in the fact i wanted to get the baby thing sorted?
and all the atraction and fun was killed..

i find it hard in my head now to go about trying to flirt again when i do rarely speak to her, i dont know what it is?
plus she seems like another girl that hides behind facebook to talk now!
do u reckon her sexual interest is gone? which would be annoying cause the sex was great!! and can i get it back?

cheers bud

Author:  Byzantine [ Tue Apr 05, 2011 12:32 am ]
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Its hard to say whether its possible or not but I'll tell you your best chances are to find other nice (or bad ;)) girls to hang out with, although it seems counter intuitive, if you forget about her your chances are higher. If by next time you guys physically see each other again, you can display some strong alpha changes, she might pick up on them and rethink the way she is treating you.

Frame yourself in this context:
If you were in a tribe thousands of years ago and a neighboring tribe comes to take your women, your food and your xbox360, would you have the INSTINCT (notice I didn't say the physical ability) to grab a stick and beat them to the ground? Apply this to your behavior in modern society, you don't go around beating people with a stick UNLESS they truly and purposely fuck with you, does that make sense?

If you have a beautiful woman next to you, do you stand your ground? or do you let anything else claim her in hopes that she loves you more? Its not a matter of being possessive or controlling, that is uneducated and socially unaware behavior. By stating to the world what you want from life, people think twice before stepping out from under your wing, knowingly losing your friendship is no longer an attractive choice, the problem is she currently doesn't know about this consequence.

Hope that made sense, my favorite thing about the alpha frame is that you must only apply tension in small doses to hold the frame together in times of stress, most of the other time things go very smoothly because people see you as bringing value and protection to their lives. Thats important, an Alpha isnt a Predator he is a Protector of the people and things he loves.

I read something funny the other day about being an Alpha Buddha, thats fucking genius lol!

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