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Author:  Fini [ Tue Mar 29, 2011 6:20 am ]
Post subject:  24 and still....
Read this plz...

When I was 17 I was slightly overweight, antisocial, video games addicted kid, never kissed a girl. I decided to change. I'm 24 now, tall, athletic body, into sports, university degree, money, my own appartment, dress with a style, got descent social skills (at least I think so), good looking, take good care of myself. Yes I'm a bit arrogant, maybe not very friendly at first, but could be if I want to. But damn, I still didn't even kiss a girl :roll: .

Of course during this 7 years period I didn't have much time to flirt, had to work hard to get my degree, worked 25-30 hours/week, spent a lot of time in the gym. In addition I do not drink (I mean at all), so no drunk sex was possible.

I started reading pickup forums and books when I was 19, tried to apply what I read here and there, I know what to do theoretically, but it just doesn't get me anywhere. Again, I didn't meet many girls, but in 7 years something should have happened.

I'm not totally depressed by this fact, got probably everything one can dream of in this life, except relationship and I still hope that it will come naturally one day, but I'm 24 now... I don't even understand how can someone with my social status and overall looks and social skills not get any attention from girls whatsoever, or am I completley blind and cannot detect it? I mean my character and arrogance could be the reason for me not to get relationship, but how come no one can even see a potential partner in me.

Where should I start?
Author:  Mack 2.0 [ Tue Mar 29, 2011 8:14 am ]
Post subject:  Re: 24 and still....
Quote:
Read this plz...

When I was 17 I was slightly overweight, antisocial, video games addicted kid, never kissed a girl. I decided to change. I'm 24 now, tall, athletic body, into sports, university degree, money, my own appartment, dress with a style, got descent social skills (at least I think so), good looking, take good care of myself. Yes I'm a bit arrogant, maybe not very friendly at first, but could be if I want to. But damn, I still didn't even kiss a girl :roll: .

Of course during this 7 years period I didn't have much time to flirt, had to work hard to get my degree, worked 25-30 hours/week, spent a lot of time in the gym. In addition I do not drink (I mean at all), so no drunk sex was possible.

I started reading pickup forums and books when I was 19, tried to apply what I read here and there, I know what to do theoretically, but it just doesn't get me anywhere. Again, I didn't meet many girls, but in 7 years something should have happened.

I'm not totally depressed by this fact, got probably everything one can dream of in this life, except relationship and I still hope that it will come naturally one day, but I'm 24 now... I don't even understand how can someone with my social status and overall looks and social skills not get any attention from girls whatsoever, or am I completley blind and cannot detect it? I mean my character and arrogance could be the reason for me not to get relationship, but how come no one can even see a potential partner in me.

Where should I start?
You need to stop being so passive.

"I know what to do theoretically, but it just doesn't get me anywhere. Again, I didn't meet many girls, but in 7 years something should have happened." - These are your own words. How in the hell would "knowing" something and yet not "applying" it at all work? Seriously, this is a big deal, you basically just said "I know what to do, but I don't do it." Well, I'm not a genius, but I think this may have something to do with why you can't pick up chicks, it's because you aren't trying! (I know, I'm a genius)

"I'm not totally depressed by this fact, got probably everything one can dream of in this life, except relationship and I still hope that it will come naturally one day." - Again, these are your own words here. You just admitted that you aren't "totally depressed" by the fact. Well OK? Um...if it doesn't bother you too much, then why try, right? And then you go on to say you "hope" it will happen. You can't "HOPE" for pussy, dude, you've got to actively pursue it. And finally, you finish with "it will happen someday". Um, yep, it may. And it may not. Who knows, if you don't actively try!

So, you asked.

I answered.

You are too passive, wishy-washy, and indecisive. It's almost as if you "say" you want girls, but I'm left wondering just how true that is after reading your own words where you describe you never had time (never made time), you know what to do (yet don't do it), you hope to find a girl (yet take no steps to pick one up), and you believe it will happen some day! (but are doing nothing to make that "day" be today or tomorrow or sometime this decade).

You are too passive.
Author:  GKS [ Tue Mar 29, 2011 8:53 am ]
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It has been 5 years since then you got your hands on the PUAs and you haven't gotten a number close?
If you dont take a step forward with your own feets, nobody can.
You had chances to go it, you just convinced yourself and gave the AFC inside you the excuses to not leave his comfort zone.
Remember, you can practice PUAs anytime anywhere, let it be the gym , walmart , the study grp at your university, the classroom, your classmates, or even in parking lot. If there is a will, there is a way.
If that is too much for you, you could have worked on inner game or start practicing online sarging.
You chose to not doing anything, wasting 5 yrs with your own excuses.
You weren't even desperate enough to go for a drunk sex, or hookers.

I discovered PUAs 5 months ago, and i just started to going to gym, i'm still learning, I dont have MPUA confidence yet. However, I threw myself out there, and learned from mistakes, hence I got significant improvement, still have AA, still freak out sometimes, still faking it til I make it. But that's the difference, I'm doing something about it.
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