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Author:  cantshake [ Sun Mar 27, 2011 5:05 am ]
Post subject:  Is she playing the game and how do I get upper hand?
Here it is guys. Im going to give you the story because I need outsider opinions on what's going on.

Picked up this girl out at a bar on a saturday night about 3 weeks ago. She invited me back to hers but because of complications (long story) I couldn't go. So I grabbed her number and we parted. I messaged her the next day in the afternoon.

She is a 9! Stunning!

Im typing out all my texts back and forth. Would really appreciate your insight into how I can play it a bit better and what to do next.

This is how the text game has been working:

Me (Sunday): Sarah, are you still alive or did that crazy old lady chase you down? (making reference to a lady that was shouting at her) I'm taking you out for drinks on Friday.

Her (6 days later, Saturday): Hey sorry i haven't replied, been crazy busy with everything. How have you been snob? Hehe :-P (she makes reference to a decent neighborhood i live in)

Me (Sunday): I've been good, just bought my ticket to (wherever). Heading over there in a couple months for a week. How was your weekend? Stunner of a Sunday!

Her (30 mins later): I know it's a gorgeous day! Im just down the beach fighting some wogs (making reference to the part of neighborhood she lives in). Haha you?

Me (2 hours later): At a family thing about to fall asleep. Hangin out at the pool, reflecting on last night. Got a confession, I'm actually 22 not 24.

she doesn't reply so I sent another text 5 days later...

Me: I had the weirdest week. How was yours shortass?

Her (6 days later): Hey sorry been such a snob! How are you?

Me (next day which is a friday): I'll agree with that haha. Been good, stayed up late to watch the match last night but we went down! No good. How have you been?

That was almost 2 days ago and haven't had a reply yet. So that's where Im at and Im trying to work out how to (1) get the upper hand and (2) move it forward to get to see her face to face.
Author:  HighTide [ Sun Mar 27, 2011 11:50 am ]
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The only way to gain the upper hand is to stop talking to her for a while and game other chicks. You just gotta wait it out until she re-initiates the relationship cause right now she's not that in to you
Author:  Mack 2.0 [ Sun Mar 27, 2011 1:07 pm ]
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i would also suggest that you could have waited until a lot more rapport was established before dropping the "oh by the way, i lied" thing in your text to her.

why not wait until things are going smooth and you've already bagged the chick? lol

you basically gave her a reason to dislike you. you lie. doesn't matter what the lie is. you lie. then you brought it up during a casual conversation (notice that is when she disappeared), what is she supposed to say to that?

timing.....
Author:  AdamThomas [ Sun Mar 27, 2011 2:47 pm ]
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Forget getting the upper hand, and stop texting, just call her and ask her out so she can't just ignore the question.
Author:  Memnoch [ Sun Mar 27, 2011 6:04 pm ]
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I have to agree with all 3 replies here... The timing was bad on admitting to a lie. Defiantly go game other chicks and why not call her and ask her out anyway..what's the harm it's just one chick?
Author:  cantshake [ Sun Mar 27, 2011 11:36 pm ]
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All good replies here, can't really see the whole 'shes not that into you' when she invites me back to her place. Anyway, all points are good and I'll wait it out and if I don't hear anything by end of the week I'll call her and ask her out for drinks. If it bombs out, then I'll ditch it. lol yes, the timing was horrible but gta deal with it now. Definitely learned from it
Author:  cantshake [ Wed Mar 30, 2011 2:36 am ]
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Still no reply. What do you guys think about the plan to buzz her on friday morning (11am or something). Im likely to get a message bank tho as she will be at work so do I leave a message or hang up and text?
If a voicemail, throw some idea out there. Thanks!
Author:  Maikuljay [ Wed Mar 30, 2011 5:02 am ]
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Still no reply. What do you guys think about the plan to buzz her on friday morning (11am or something). Im likely to get a message bank tho as she will be at work so do I leave a message or hang up and text?
If a voicemail, throw some idea out there. Thanks!
It always amazes me how some of you guys hold on for so long.. hahaha I move on weekly.. Just keep gamng new girls as she probably wont reply... ever... It's been a while.. your msg, she either specifically didn't reply OR she missed it and now all the other penis's are pushing it further down her inbox never to be seen again... I say next the bitch, it didn't sound via the msg's that she was all too interested..

if you really are keen on this one, sure, call her.. leave a msg "Hey, it's (NAME).. Call me back"

If she calls you back, you got a chance.. if not ... i'd just move the hell on man.. This at least gives you a chance to "reset" the whole idea in her head that she has of you.. which seems a little uninterested from the interpretation I got. - Then they tend to just "pop" up in your life at the most random moments
Author:  cantshake [ Wed Mar 30, 2011 5:29 am ]
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Still no reply. What do you guys think about the plan to buzz her on friday morning (11am or something). Im likely to get a message bank tho as she will be at work so do I leave a message or hang up and text?
If a voicemail, throw some idea out there. Thanks!
It always amazes me how some of you guys hold on for so long.. hahaha I move on weekly.. Just keep gamng new girls as she probably wont reply... ever... It's been a while.. your msg, she either specifically didn't reply OR she missed it and now all the other penis's are pushing it further down her inbox never to be seen again... I say next the bitch, it didn't sound via the msg's that she was all too interested..

if you really are keen on this one, sure, call her.. leave a msg "Hey, it's (NAME).. Call me back"

If she calls you back, you got a chance.. if not ... i'd just move the hell on man.. This at least gives you a chance to "reset" the whole idea in her head that she has of you.. which seems a little uninterested from the interpretation I got. - Then they tend to just "pop" up in your life at the most random moments
Yeah it's obviously one-itis. Haha yeh well i think 4 years of moving from chick to chick has filled that 'void'. Looking for something bit deeper now. Don't get me wrong, i'm still gaming chicks left right and centre while i chase this one down. We'll see what happens, cheers for the words mate
Author:  AdamThomas [ Wed Mar 30, 2011 4:19 pm ]
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Why wait it out? She'll just forget about you. Ring her up right away, it's much easier to get a date in the week than it is at the weekend when she;s more likely to have plans with her friends.
Author:  Maikuljay [ Thu Mar 31, 2011 3:32 am ]
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Yeah it's obviously one-itis. Haha yeh well i think 4 years of moving from chick to chick has filled that 'void'. Looking for something bit deeper now. Don't get me wrong, i'm still gaming chicks left right and centre while i chase this one down. We'll see what happens, cheers for the words mate
Yeah, I hear that.. haha it's hard sometimes when reading these threads I always get in my mind the image of a guy pining over 1 girl.. I guess if she's important enough to dedicate a thread to her, and her alone.. the one-itis is probably present.

Good to hear your keeping your options wide open.. Good luck man, you call her yet?
Author:  GKS [ Thu Mar 31, 2011 4:03 am ]
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That's quite bullshit, even if she is the president of USA, she would still have 10 to bust out the phone and text your back. It's not like she's busy 24/7 without a break.
Her level of interest is rather really low, yet she's on of those timewasters which mean she keeps you on the hook to make sure she can still play with you later.

My suggestion, if she text you after a week or so, either ask her who is this or just wait a month or two, then text her back if you still want to hook up with her. Or after couple months start sending her the mass txts that you send to everyone.
Author:  cantshake [ Thu Mar 31, 2011 4:37 am ]
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That's quite bullshit, even if she is the president of USA, she would still have 10 to bust out the phone and text your back. It's not like she's busy 24/7 without a break.
Her level of interest is rather really low, yet she's on of those timewasters which mean she keeps you on the hook to make sure she can still play with you later.

My suggestion, if she text you after a week or so, either ask her who is this or just wait a month or two, then text her back if you still want to hook up with her. Or after couple months start sending her the mass txts that you send to everyone.
Yep agree, nobody is that busy. Shes stringing me along thats why I am going to leave it unless I get a text back. In that event and its a generic how are you message i'm gna blow it off with a who is this. Not gna bother with chicks who dont realise its pretty disrespectful to bs around.
Cheers mate!
Author:  AdamThomas [ Fri Apr 01, 2011 7:59 pm ]
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That's quite bullshit, even if she is the president of USA, she would still have 10 to bust out the phone and text your back. It's not like she's busy 24/7 without a break.
Her level of interest is rather really low, yet she's on of those timewasters which mean she keeps you on the hook to make sure she can still play with you later.

My suggestion, if she text you after a week or so, either ask her who is this or just wait a month or two, then text her back if you still want to hook up with her. Or after couple months start sending her the mass txts that you send to everyone.
Yep agree, nobody is that busy. Shes stringing me along thats why I am going to leave it unless I get a text back. In that event and its a generic how are you message i'm gna blow it off with a who is this. Not gna bother with chicks who dont realise its pretty disrespectful to bs around.
Cheers mate!
With some girls you have to be more persistant. It would be much easier just to call her and get her out soon, you might still be in with a chance. If you carry on with this "I'm too good for girls to not text me back, I'm gonna leave them to show them how alpha I am" mindset you're gonna lose a lot of girls. Are you afraid she'll say no? Seriously, I don't give up on a girl until she tells me "no I'm not interested" or doesn't pick up the phone when I try to call. Call her.

Don't get mad, get laid.
Author:  GKS [ Fri Apr 01, 2011 8:39 pm ]
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With some girls you have to be more persistant. It would be much easier just to call her and get her out soon, you might still be in with a chance. If you carry on with this "I'm too good for girls to not text me back, I'm gonna leave them to show them how alpha I am" mindset you're gonna lose a lot of girls. Are you afraid she'll say no? Seriously, I don't give up on a girl until she tells me "no I'm not interested" or doesn't pick up the phone when I try to call. Call her.

Don't get mad, get laid.
Totally agree with you, that's why I made a rule that I will try at least 3 times before give up. And that wasn't the first time she did that to him, if the girl is interested she would totally offer her schedule or at least reschedule it.
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