PUA Forum :: Not trying to get laid... trying to get a gf, but HOW?

Man , iv been into pua for soo long and i cant help but say it has ruined my social life.

I must be doing this all wrong but i have lost many of my friends because i became to cocky. Many of my friends that were girls and to be honost now i feel like i have so few friends.

I had a girlfriend like 4 years ago man... when i was in grade 10 before all this pua stuff. She was atleast an 8 and she had a good personality , but she was in control. Her being in control lead to the fall of our relationship and it ended in a month. I was not an alpha male back then (neither am I now i guess).

I want a girlfriend but i dont want sex and every book out there is aiming for one night stands... i dont know man but shud i watch double your dating?
give me some advice guys i havnt written here in a while

Start going to raves man. They are life changers. This is where you truly see how beautiful people are (even though they are all drugged out). Their inner self comes out and its so easy to talk to them and be nice

Sober people have a natural wall built up in this. Make some rave friends and party with them on the weekends. Its much easier in california but im sure there are some where you are to man. TRY GOING TO A RAVE. Use a crutch if you are going to solo rave it by taking Ecstasy or some bullshit.

It doesnt ruin your life, it just makes life that much easier. At least it did for me

Author:	[AFC] Socrates [ Wed Mar 23, 2011 1:33 am ]
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Man , iv been into pua for soo long and i cant help but say it has ruined my social life. I must be doing this all wrong but i have lost many of my friends because i became to cocky. Many of my friends that were girls and to be honost now i feel like i have so few friends. I had a girlfriend like 4 years ago man... when i was in grade 10 before all this pua stuff. She was atleast an 8 and she had a good personality , but she was in control. Her being in control lead to the fall of our relationship and it ended in a month. I was not an alpha male back then (neither am I now i guess). I learned about pua after that and went on my journey to find my next girl. Every girl that i know that liked me was pretty ugly in the 5's max. And I have pretty high standards since my ex was an 8. Now this is also a prolbem because i can get a girlfriend but she wud be a 5-6 range. I try for 7's and dont see much attraction/complience from girls. Truth is now im in first year uni and im in engineering. I feel like a total looser and dumb nerd. My marks are bad, im trying hard... yet I dont go to parties and never go out on weekends. My friends are all smart, they are mostly guys (with one gurl iwho imo is a 4 i cant even imaigne dating) so i dont know what to do. They are my friends and i am confortable with them but they are not alpha and they dont go out and have fun like i want to do. I cant just go and find new friends they will think i ditched them... I feel my life is just ruined right now. No girls, no fun friends.. no good marks. So depressed. My facebook used to be filled with girls writings on it but now its just plain and no updates. I dont know why but i just dont feel like talking to girls now for somereason. Its like i want to talk to girls but i dont feel like trying... It just doesnt make sence. I think maybe im scared to talk to girls because now I feel that my confort zone is so fucked that writing to a girl on facebook i never talked to in a while is getting out of my confort zone. My old friends from highschool who were alpha have moved on to other universitys and are partying had... meeting nice girls (making new firends) and possibly still getting good marks. What do you think i should do now? I feel like sucha looser. my confort zone is so messed . I think its because my friends here at school are just like loosers in a pua's point of view. I want a girlfriend but i dont want sex and every book out there is aiming for one night stands... i dont know man but shud i watch double your dating? give me some advice guys i havnt written here in a while

Author:	DEEFORT [ Wed Mar 23, 2011 1:43 am ]
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you are extremely depressed. change that if you can. and i say you should make new friends or get in touch with your old friends from highschool. you're not ditching your lame friends. they dont do shit anyways so they prob wouldnt think twice about your absence

Author:	griff_199 [ Wed Mar 23, 2011 1:59 am ]
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Reading through some of your other posts it seems like once you started looking into PUA material you became cocky/aragont and mistook this as being ALPHA. You need to work on your inner game I suggest making a list of goals and aim towards them... 1-Making new friends - Aim to go out evan on your own and approach people in clubs/parties/on the street and try to expand your social circle -Join a club or a union at ur university 2- Concentrate more on your grades. When your doing nothing and just sitting around then study! This is your ONE shot!! millions of people would KILL to be in your position! dont fuck it up. Learn everything you can about your subject 3- Think about yourself you said the friends on your course are nothing like you they dont go out, have the same personality etc think to yourself "if i wasn't forced to be would i be friends with these guys?" if not then concentrate on getting a new social group 4- Get a new outlook on yourself (Inner Game)- You wont be able to master the game and other girls untill you can master yourself. You need to be able to feel confident in yourself, You need the outlook of "I am the coolest motherfucker on this planet and i dont give a SHIT what ANYONE thinks of me" This will help with your game ALOT i suggest watching RSD-Flawless natural it will really help with your inner game. 5- GET BACK OUT THERE you need to start approaching sets. But i would prioritise this as the least important thing. You need to sort your inner self out then approach women. Once your inner game is sorted then everything else will slowly fall into place mate.

Author:	Don Suave [ Wed Mar 23, 2011 2:05 am ]
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Quote: Man , iv been into pua for soo long and i cant help but say it has ruined my social life. You're not the 1rst guy this happens too. It happened to me, not to your extent but all that pua stuff would ruin my interactions with girls and denaturalize the communication process Quote: I must be doing this all wrong but i have lost many of my friends because i became to cocky. Many of my friends that were girls and to be honost now i feel like i have so few friends. Ask yourself why you need to ' play a game' or ' act cocky' or learn all those routines. Is it that extra stuff that makes you interesting? Like without it you're an empty shell? Quote: I had a girlfriend like 4 years ago man... when i was in grade 10 before all this pua stuff. She was atleast an 8 and she had a good personality , but she was in control. Her being in control lead to the fall of our relationship and it ended in a month. I was not an alpha male back then (neither am I now i guess). I want a girlfriend but i dont want sex and every book out there is aiming for one night stands... i dont know man but shud i watch double your dating? give me some advice guys i havnt written here in a while Well you need to do some soul searching/introspection/ personal growth. I recommand re-assessing your choices. Are you really passionate about engineering? Why don't you get into a team sports where you can meet buddies or into martial arts where you learn to focus better? If you're looking for a girlfriend that's fine. You need to learn to be yourself around people and not some lame actor that's trying to blabber some funky lines he made up to try to look cool. Girls like guys who are real, not posers, or manipulative weird looking guys pulling lines and tactics to try to get into their pants...

Author:	Zachpwnsu [ Wed Mar 23, 2011 4:32 am ]
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Start going to raves man. They are life changers. This is where you truly see how beautiful people are (even though they are all drugged out). Their inner self comes out and its so easy to talk to them and be nice Sober people have a natural wall built up in this. Make some rave friends and party with them on the weekends. Its much easier in california but im sure there are some where you are to man. TRY GOING TO A RAVE. Use a crutch if you are going to solo rave it by taking Ecstasy or some bullshit. It doesnt ruin your life, it just makes life that much easier. At least it did for me

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Author:	Don Suave [ Wed Mar 23, 2011 6:40 am ]
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Quote: Start going to raves man. They are life changers. This is where you truly see how beautiful people are (even though they are all drugged out). Their inner self comes out and its so easy to talk to them and be nice Sober people have a natural wall built up in this. Make some rave friends and party with them on the weekends. Its much easier in california but im sure there are some where you are to man. TRY GOING TO A RAVE. Use a crutch if you are going to solo rave it by taking Ecstasy or some bullshit. It doesnt ruin your life, it just makes life that much easier. At least it did for me What type of advice is this? ' Go to raves and your life will change'LOOL

Author:	afc.vio [ Wed Mar 23, 2011 7:38 am ]
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i understand your problem, and maybe its going to sound weird but at least 40% of all the couples i know started to care and form a relationship after they had sex, sex is often not described as a relationship starter in the sense of if we had sex before we talk about our feelings nothing will happen and thats just wrong, im not saying that you should go and try to get laid and hope it happens but try to find the fun going out and approaching sets, if you approach 10 sets that day , think about the one in wich the girls smiled and laughed and called you fun. Work on your innergame, its been said so many times that confidence means the world. I for one am always impressed about a girl who dont fake when meeting a guy, the one who doesnt act all cute and cuddly and just is herself makes a huge impression on me and its the same way with guys, shes gonna notice the one who will disagree with her not the one whos gonna offer to wipe her ass. Personally im having the same problem regarding finding a GF, i just dont have that much time anymore , with all the work and stuff. Anyway hope you get back on track soon. Good luck. Vio.

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