Alright this situation happened to me a few months ago and i am just wondering how bad i screwed this up. I go to a junior college and i had music class with this girl last semester. There was a extra credit opportunity if we went to watch a show at the school theater. So i asked her "Are you going to go to the extra credit tonight" She said ya and i said alright cool i will see you there. We were always friendly with each other. We talked a little here and there but nothing to serious. That night i arrived at the theater and i just sat alone because i didn't see anyone from my class. A few minutes later i receive a text message saying 'hey its Michelle are you here?" The thing about all this was that i never gave her my number. My number is on my facebook page and i am assuming she got it from there. We talked a little here and there but nothing serious. I start thinking she might like me. But the semester ended a couple weeks later before i could pull anything on her. About in January when school started up i saw her facebook and noticed she recently got a boyfriend. I personally think i fucked up bad. What do you guys think?

How Bad Did I Screw This Up

In my humble opinion the only screw up you made in this situation is thinking of it terms of the statement above, "How bad did I screw this up." While there are situations where that statement does apply, they are rare and really bad--such as I don't know being in a relationship and sleeping with your girlfriend's best friend.

So number one, you are blowing this whole thing out of proportion. Number two, you are making a whole bunch of assumptions.

For example, suppose you did pull the trigger and made a move. One, you are assuming she would have been receptive. Two even is she was receptive, you are assuming you would liked each other enough to be in a relationship--for all you know, once you got to really knowing she may be the most annoying person on the planet. Three, you are assuming she would not have dropped you for whoever she is dating right now.

There are a helk of a lot more assumptions you are making, but I don't think I really need to go on and point them out.

The better way to look at this whole situation is, "how could I have done things better."

From my perspective, you did everything fine. Two things pop out at me though: one she did something out of the ordinary, two you did not respond.

How she got your number is unknown. The only thing you are certain about is you never gave her your number. To me, her actions are a huge red flag. Again, I'm on the older end of the spectrum but really if I met and talked with a girl at work and she called me on my cell without ever giving her my number, I would definitely ask how she got my number. Would I risk putting her the defensive, sure. But I really could care less, I'm more concerned that my number is getting thrown around out there without my permission.

You did not respond. Given the circumstances, I do not think that was such a bad move. In my opinion, it is highly strange for a girl to just grab my phone number from somewhere based on a few conversations.

So what could you have done better? In my opinion, you could have asked her how she got your number.

Anything else is just speculation.