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| Author: | Snake Doctor [ Sun Mar 20, 2011 6:35 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Problem on social dynamics on college! |
When I go out I dont have problem meeting new ppl im the cool guy, ppl love hanging around me and talking to me , funny guy crazy, ppl ussualy want me around asking my attention. So im sociable person have lots of storys . but ofc some minority doesnt like my style but who cares. But I have a big problem in my college, its small college 300 persons maybe, I go very few to college. many of my ppl in the group hang out with the ones that are considered the cool ones. But ppl probably perceive as the quiet guy and not very sociable ppl dont like me, ppl that im proabbly trade two or three words when my friends are near , can pass right next to me and dont say anthing, I see more this atitude on guys. But the truth is like MY GAME DISSAPEARS ENTIRELY IN THAT COLLEGE I BECOME SHY AND NERVOUS, dont know why. when I tried to talk I go blank, dont think its normal. Afraid to talk to girls and all that shit, this is kinda stupid. The other day I went out with my friends from college and we found some girls some Hbs that are in the same college they knew two friends of mine and we start talking, the most amazing thing that the girls knew who I was, saying It was impossible not to notice and one friend of mine who is kinda popular they didnt knew who was him was bit shocked. So any tips and explain why the fck I go blank when im very sociable with everyone but when I enter that college i Become the most afc person ever. |
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| Author: | Jits138 [ Sun Mar 20, 2011 9:08 pm ] |
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You don't feel like King in your new castle. You need to deeply internalize your awesomeness and recognize that "cool" is not a location. |
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| Author: | Coldman [ Sun Mar 20, 2011 11:13 pm ] |
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I have lots of friends like that, it's called alcohol. |
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| Author: | Snake Doctor [ Mon Mar 21, 2011 2:21 am ] |
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Nop, without alchool I dont ussualy drink btw. |
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| Author: | Coldman [ Mon Mar 21, 2011 5:15 am ] |
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Quote: Nop, without alchool I dont ussualy drink btw.
Well alright... I don't have to tell you that it's all in your head, you probably already know this... but then it's either what Jits138 said......or the fact that in clubs you can build positive social momentum (e.g. warm-up approaches) to get lose and into social mode (and out of your head, and just be spontaneous), and when you're in college you're not doing that, you're thinking/worrying too much. And maybe even judging yourself harshly which puts you in a negative state ("Oh man, she looked at me and I didn't approach I'm such an idiot", or "I said this and that, that was stupid, I'm such a fool", etc). Whereas in nightgame you don't really think about it. See for yourself what the different thought patterns are between when you're in the club and in college, this will help you figure it out. |
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