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Author:  virgincard [ Sat Mar 19, 2011 2:57 pm ]
Post subject:  New to pickup... couple of quick questions!
Hey guys

Couple of quick questions on gaming:

1) When you say dont say you LIKE her but continue to flirt and tease... can I flirt by saying things like shes beautiful etc... just not overdoing the compliments and also teasing them a bit... i.e. I teased a girl about wearing too much makeup.. but then said she can pull off looking as beautiful without makeup... is that ok?

2) I had a situation where I let it be known from the begining that I wanted to go out with the girl on a date and she rejected me. Since then I stopped messaging but after a week she messaged me randomly and we had a bit of a chat. I havent said I liked her or asked her out again since rejection. Since then I havent messaged as much and when I dont for a while shell message me. Should I continue answering back her messages normally, or should I be cold on some days and normal on other days and continue to tease her? When can I actually make a move, if she doesnt (its been about 3 months like this and I want to make a move on her already!)
Author:  ryry [ Sat Mar 19, 2011 4:50 pm ]
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1) Dont compliment a girl on her looks
compliment her only when given an IOI(indicator of interest)

2)Dno Text Game isnt my Forte neither is online game
Author:  Ecudes17 [ Sat Mar 19, 2011 6:26 pm ]
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Depends really on the girl that your gaming. If she is a 9 or a 10 and she sees you as having less value than her, complimenting her is only going to hurt your game. If she's a 6, 7, or 8 and she sees you as possessing higher or equal value to her than you can give her a genuine compliment on something other than her looks i.e style, energy, social awareness, taste in music, food, etc. Honestly, the only time I give a girl a compliment about her looks is if A.) she's clearly infatuated with me and I want to give her a little self esteem boost or B.) We are in the "S" stage and I want her to feel comfortable about taking her clothes off.

Also, you should always be a little unpredictable, hot/cold when talking to a girl. If she texts you something that you really dont give a shit about you dont HAVE to text her back. You can sometimes be in a talkative mood and send her long, substantial texts or you can be in a non talkative mood and give her one word answers. Dont let her become acustomed to you being the guy that she can text all the time and have a long "girl talk" with. Nah, fuck that, your a busy man you dont always have time to "chit chat"

hope that helps..........sarge on.
Author:  Kupid [ Sat Mar 19, 2011 6:40 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: New to pickup... couple of quick questions!
1) It really depends on the situation, I can't give you a general rule here on when to flirt with compliments and when not, you have to try that out in field and if it works it does, if it doesn't it doesn't, you calibrate that by time. But I think you'll be alright, that makeup thing is very good.

2)I don't wanna kill your dreams, but after 3 months, I doubt that she is into you, othervise, she would made the move on you. Call her and aks her, where the things with you two are right now, does she wants to go out with you or not, I know it sounds risky, but I think, that after 3 months of waiting, you deserve her honest immediate yes/no answer, that way you know exactly where are you with her and you put an extra pressure at her, when you make her make immediate decission so she needs to react properly fast.

That's MY theory might be right, might be wrong ;)
Author:  virgincard [ Mon Mar 21, 2011 12:48 am ]
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Thanks for the complimenting advice.... shes about a 6.5 id say generally (although in my mind a 8/9 as I am into her lol)... but Ill hold back on the looks complimenting for a while and instead if I have to ill compliment on the other areas.

Very good advice on being hot/cold...you hit the nail on the head with her probably thinking that im the guy she can chat to me all the time (although no girly chats!!). I think the next time she does message Ill play it cold like one word answers and pretend im too busy - my only question from there is when I do that...will I not alienate her? If she doesnt message for quite a while after, do I initiate contact with her first?


Kupid - I agree with your point 2). However I think maybe that I asked her out too quickly before she even knew me at all so Im trying to build more of a rapport with her and show her i am a cool dude lol! So I wanted to build more of a rapport with her then I will do exactly what you say. And if she says no then, then so be it Ill just move on. Also I was a bit stupid in that I asked her out over messenger so she would have had all the time to think about it. Next time I ask her out I will do so in person to put that extra pressure on her and see from there

Thanks both of you!
Author:  Ecudes17 [ Mon Mar 21, 2011 3:41 am ]
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Thanks for the complimenting advice.... shes about a 6.5 id say generally (although in my mind a 8/9 as I am into her lol)... but Ill hold back on the looks complimenting for a while and instead if I have to ill compliment on the other areas.

Very good advice on being hot/cold...you hit the nail on the head with her probably thinking that im the guy she can chat to me all the time (although no girly chats!!). I think the next time she does message Ill play it cold like one word answers and pretend im too busy - my only question from there is when I do that...will I not alienate her? If she doesnt message for quite a while after, do I initiate contact with her first?


Kupid - I agree with your point 2). However I think maybe that I asked her out too quickly before she even knew me at all so Im trying to build more of a rapport with her and show her i am a cool dude lol! So I wanted to build more of a rapport with her then I will do exactly what you say. And if she says no then, then so be it Ill just move on. Also I was a bit stupid in that I asked her out over messenger so she would have had all the time to think about it. Next time I ask her out I will do so in person to put that extra pressure on her and see from there

Thanks both of you!


lmao dude, you shouldnt have to pretend that your busy. You should sometimes actually BE too busy to talk to her. Have you ever had someone that you wherent really interested in texting you? treat this girl the same way you would treat her. Theres really no formula, its all about being non needy and not getting a minor heart attack when you see that she texted you. And to answer your question about whether or not you initiate contact with her first...theres honestly nothing wrong with that, if you think about her or you feel like texting her out of the blue drop her a fucking line. Dont overthink it man, treat her the same way you would treat a bratty little sister.

oh and please w.e you do, do not listen to kupid. If you confront her about not hanging out with you in order to put "pressure" on her that will just make you look like the most needy, pathetic guy she's ever encountered. Remember, its her fucking loss if she doesnt hang out with you. Just continue to run solid game on her and if she decides in the long run that she doesnt want to hang out than you know she just has bad taste ;)
Author:  virgincard [ Tue Apr 19, 2011 7:00 pm ]
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lol thanks both of you for the advice! I think I may avoid Kupids route for now lol... might just need to find some other things to make myself busy with!

Oh and spot on with the minor heart attack when she messages LOL! im ashamed to admit it but i cant help it! I guess being busy with other things will help... also trying it on with more women ;)
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