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Author:  Kosmo0072 [ Thu Mar 17, 2011 12:44 am ]
Post subject:  How to avoid awkward silence & when to show interest
Hello people,

when I open a set a talking for while and ask girl about her opinion on something and also asking her to tell me something about her I come in moment when I don't have anything on my mind to ask her about it.
Can You give me some good tips/tricks to avoid that awkward silence?

Also can you give me some tips when I need to show girl that I'm interested in her if I open with some opinion or indirect opener and start doing neutral conversation so It's not too early or too late?

Sorry for my english.
:D
Author:  thinhman [ Thu Mar 17, 2011 3:25 am ]
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Yo yo.

I'm gonna try to the best of my abilities to understand that first sentence of yours. :D

... Man... It's like a jungle. I can't decipher it. xD

Anyways, let's just focus on the silence.
Silence isn't a bad thing. It can actually turn her on. Awkward silence, however, is never a good thing.
Silence will most likely come up in your interactions. There's really no way to prevent them. I mean, you could ask more open ended questions, and such, but those tactics wont prevent you from having a moment of silence in the interaction. Insttead of trying to avoid it, try to make the silence work for you.

I feel you'll understand better with an example:
Let's say you and the girl, F, are sitting. You've been chatting for a while. You ask F about her opinion about flowers, and which scent she loves the most. SHe tells you and then nothing. There's the dreaded silence. Well, instead of avoiding eye contact and acting nervous, embrase the silence. In this scenario, I would stare into her eyes with a grin on my face. Eventually, she'll ask what I'm looking at. I'll tell her that I'm looking at a girl that has such a cute face that I can't even think of a metaphor for. This is the truth: She's cute, and I was unable to think of a metaphor at the moment.
After you say some witty/cute line like that, she's usually deny it; you just continue the interaction from there.

Do you see in that scenario how the silence would work for you instead of against you?

Tips to avoid the "awkward" silence:
1) Don't act nervous or awkward. Your vibe will affect hers.



As for your second question, why in the world would you go direct?
I find indirect completely unnecessary during daygame. For one, it wastes so much more time than going direct. Also, going indirect gives you a greater chance of getting into the friendzone. Most guys don't show interest fast enough after they go indirect because they wait for IOIs or some nonsense. The result is being friendzoned.
I could write a friggin book on direct game, but I'm going to contain myself. :P

Have fun, bud!
Author:  sheybutter [ Thu Mar 17, 2011 6:57 am ]
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It's only awkward if you make it awkward/think it is awkward.

I don't believe in awkward silences. What others call awkward silence I call opportunity for more intense eye contact.
Author:  0uch [ Thu Mar 17, 2011 7:54 am ]
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Lol, I actually had girls asking me If I wanna make out during the silence.
Author:  Kosmo0072 [ Thu Mar 17, 2011 2:42 pm ]
Post subject: 
Quote:
Yo yo.

I'm gonna try to the best of my abilities to understand that first sentence of yours. :D

... Man... It's like a jungle. I can't decipher it. xD

Anyways, let's just focus on the silence.
Silence isn't a bad thing. It can actually turn her on. Awkward silence, however, is never a good thing.
Silence will most likely come up in your interactions. There's really no way to prevent them. I mean, you could ask more open ended questions, and such, but those tactics wont prevent you from having a moment of silence in the interaction. Insttead of trying to avoid it, try to make the silence work for you.

I feel you'll understand better with an example:
Let's say you and the girl, F, are sitting. You've been chatting for a while. You ask F about her opinion about flowers, and which scent she loves the most. SHe tells you and then nothing. There's the dreaded silence. Well, instead of avoiding eye contact and acting nervous, embrase the silence. In this scenario, I would stare into her eyes with a grin on my face. Eventually, she'll ask what I'm looking at. I'll tell her that I'm looking at a girl that has such a cute face that I can't even think of a metaphor for. This is the truth: She's cute, and I was unable to think of a metaphor at the moment.
After you say some witty/cute line like that, she's usually deny it; you just continue the interaction from there.

Do you see in that scenario how the silence would work for you instead of against you?

Tips to avoid the "awkward" silence:
1) Don't act nervous or awkward. Your vibe will affect hers.



As for your second question, why in the world would you go direct?
I find indirect completely unnecessary during daygame. For one, it wastes so much more time than going direct. Also, going indirect gives you a greater chance of getting into the friendzone. Most guys don't show interest fast enough after they go indirect because they wait for IOIs or some nonsense. The result is being friendzoned.
I could write a friggin book on direct game, but I'm going to contain myself. :P

Have fun, bud!
Thanks bud that's 1 of my subconscious problems and You explained me very well. :D :D
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