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| Author: | arandomdude6 [ Mon Mar 14, 2011 4:33 am ] |
| Post subject: | Girlfriend is crushing on a new guy! |
Hey guys, so I've had a nice strong relationship with my girlfriend for over 4 months now. She has told me she's fallen in love with me (and I have with her), and she even went so far as to suggest wanting to marry me someday and have my children lol. The weird thing is that all of this happened without me even trying to game her. It was all just natural. In addition, I also satisfy all her sexual desires. That's an important part: she's very sexually addicted to me... because I can do things to her that nobody else ever has (at least that's what she has told me). But we've got a problem. I have her Facebook password (she doesn't know about this). And today she was at a family gathering, and a family friend was there. This is like the 3rd time she's hung around this guy, and she told me she considered him a "friend." Actually she even told me that she thought he was an annoying douche bag last time she saw him. But she sent a message to the guy on Facebook earlier, telling him how much fun she had seeing him today. She also said "I'm like majorly crushing on you lolz." So that's our problem guys... and I feel helpless cuz I've never even been around while she's hung with the dude. So what do you guys suggest? Cuz I've pretty much gotten in the habit of not thinking of "gaming" her anymore. I've still been confident and somewhat dominant (especially sexually), but I'd admit that I probably still portray some AFC qualities (jealousy, getting in arguments, being too available). But anyway, back to the point... How do I deal with this "major crush" problem? And is it really possible for her to have a crush if she thinks I'm her "true love?" |
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| Author: | Asmodai [ Mon Mar 14, 2011 5:47 am ] |
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You answered your own question at "I have her facebook password." If you feel that you have to spy on your gf, then either something is seriously wrong with you or something is seriously wrong with your relationship. Whatever the case is, what you do about it is your call. Choose wisely. |
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| Author: | koolkid [ Mon Mar 14, 2011 5:57 am ] |
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dude i understand completely im in a similar situation i totally love this girl and she loves me to or she says she hasent lately done it but she would flirt with other guys and she wasnt my gf but we completely acted like we were so it was the same. we are together now and i told her to stop she says she will and she wouldnt do that she is very beautiful and i know guys try to hit on her a lot my advice to you is just tell her how you feel if she really loves you shell understand and she will stop contact with the kid if she knows it bothers you on the other hand you could try freezing her out a little not completely but dont be on her so much go out clear your head and know that everyone flirts theres just a fine line and you have to learn to trust her without trust there is no relationship just my opinion good luck my friend hope all goes well with the situation... |
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| Author: | arandomdude6 [ Mon Mar 14, 2011 6:02 am ] |
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Quote: You answered your own question at "I have her facebook password."
Ugh yes, saw that one coming. But the bigger point here is... she's been dishonest with me right? But I can't reveal that to her without telling her that I have her password. But that's beside the point. Let's just pretend that a friend acting as a "spy" told me the information instead. How would you personally handle the situation, while still keeping a happy relationship? In other words, I want to make an action that increases her attraction for me, and simultaneously make her forget about this new guy.
If you feel that you have to spy on your gf, then either something is seriously wrong with you or something is seriously wrong with your relationship. Whatever the case is, what you do about it is your call. Choose wisely. |
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| Author: | Mack 2.0 [ Mon Mar 14, 2011 10:40 am ] |
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dude. don't listen to the critics. your instincts guided you to check on her behavior, and it turned out that you were right. dump her. read this now > -img-src-http-cdn2pick-up-artist-forumc ... tml#449414 |
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| Author: | Txacoli [ Mon Mar 14, 2011 11:06 am ] |
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Well, would you really want to know that she might have a little crush on another dude? Girls and boys sometimes have crushes on other people while they are in a relationship, and it's better not to know these things because they're often just temporary. I won't go into the trust issue, I'm sure you already know all of that. I think you should do a little push-pull with her. You're really available to her now. Don't totally freeze her out or anything like that. Be really into her one day, have sex with her, make it really good for her, satisfy her, be creative and then be busy the other day, catch up with your friends, make other plans and do a mini freeze-out, don't immediately respond to her sms, do it with delay and say how much fun you had etc., just live an interesting lifestyle. She'll begin to miss your attention and wonder what's up. Whatever you do, don't act jealous! Read up on how you can amog this guy. You must not show you're insecure about him. If you ever get into the situation that this guy is around you and your gf, mark your territory properly, be the alpha and show she's yours (don't be a jerk though), read on how to do it right. And try to lose her fb password. Really. You might lose your frame if you know more about this thing than you ought to. But ok, I said I wouldn't go into the trust issue. Hope this helps, good luck! |
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| Author: | Ariki [ Mon Mar 14, 2011 7:39 pm ] |
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Next time you're out with her, make a point of flirting with other girls. Make her remember that you do have other options. |
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| Author: | chupa.chuppps [ Fri Mar 18, 2011 10:54 am ] |
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Quote: But I can't reveal that to her without telling her that I have her password. But that's beside the point. Let's just pretend that a friend acting as a "spy" told me the information instead.
You could tell her she forgot to disconnect her fb account ? If you tell her a friend acted as a spy, you'll probably get massive denial. With the message she sent, you have a proof she won't be able to deni. Anyway, she will probably be really pissed off that you spyed on her especially as she will feel guilty and trapped so be very carefull on the way to talk about this point (no direct acusations, you are surprised and you would like to talk about it, ...) |
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| Author: | ZeroValley [ Fri Mar 18, 2011 11:27 am ] |
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Bro.. "nice strong relationship". "I have her Facebook password". There's not a lot of things in the world of pick-up that annoy me these days, but this shit still knows how to get me. You come across very insecure and absolutely not congruent with the characteristics of a good PUA, I'd say you're not ready for a serious relationship yet because having your girlfriends facebook password is a strong sign of an insecure boy not knowing how to be in an adult's world. Anyway, to calm you down: There are girls that say shit like this to guys, while not being serious. They're just playing their strange version of social game, where this is how they create somewhat high value satellites. Is this what she's doing? Then don't be alarmed. Of course it could also be she's seriously falling for this other guy. (And I mean, you're spying on her personal affairs, can you blame her?) -ZeroValley |
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