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| Author: | kaDak8 [ Sun Mar 13, 2011 2:57 pm ] |
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Hi! I need advice about my ex. Like if I wanted to get her back how should I do that. I'm 25 my ex is 22. The short story is that we spent 4 years together. During those 4 years I read lots of PUA material and I was wondering if I could do better. The funny thing is that I was never a 100% comitted in this relationship, except for now when she dumped me. Now I even feel like I wanna marry her! Total mindfark. She was so into me and totally in love for about 3 years. But than last summer she went abroad to Holland for 6 months to study. We spoke on SPAM every single day. She used to mention having kids together but I always wanted to wait with that. In November she asked me on SPAM if I wanted to move togheter with her once she comes back in December, I hesitated and told her to wait a bit. Than in December she did come back home and I decided to give her a test: I didn't initiate having sex and I wanted to see how long it takes for her to want me. It took her 3 days when we were both drunk. Than after Christmas she said she needed some time alone because I was so cold with her and she wasn't sure about this relationship. She even told me that I could have sex with anyone during this temporary period! I said ok. (it later turned out that she wanted to end this relationship forever but she didn't say, I thought it was only a break for a few weeks). So than I gave her a total feezout for about 3 weeks and than I finally asked her to meet me. We had dinner at a resaurant and than went back to her place, but she didn't let me fark her. Strange. I told her that I picked up and farked 1 girl but she didn't seem to care she said that she was kissing with one guy in a club... BTW she figured out that I wanted to get back together with her even tho I was gonna cover it. I still thought that is was only a temporary break and I might have a chance. Than I didn't contact her for another month again... but now I asked her to spent the weekend together to see if we still wanna be together and how we felt for each other. I picked her up on Friday night from a bar and went to her place to sleep. She was drunk so we had sex 3 times durning that night till the morning. Than once more later that morning, she came like 2-3 times. Than she sobered out and no more cuddling. I told her that I still love her and we might had a chance if we both worked on this relationship. She said that she didn't feel like working on it and wanted to be alone. But let's just be friends she said. She also said that she regreted having sex with me and it will never happen again! Also she wants to move to England at the end of this year. I left on Saturday night, we didn't spend the whole weekend togerher as planned. This happened just yesterday. Additional info: I got her fb and email password now so I just logged into her email and facbook account so I partly know what she did and thinks. Here is what I know from her messages: From October-December she was meeting other guys while being abroad. She probly slept with 1. Than she asked for a " temporary break" on Chsristmas. In January she met a guy and asked him if they could be fark buddies but I don't know weather or not they are actually doing it. In an email she wrote to her best friend that she knows that I wanna get back together with her but she doesn't want that. She wants to be in love with someone and wants a new relationship. However she wrote that I matured a lot and I'm making a lot more money now than before. Her girlfriend replied that I might just be 'showing off' and don't be fooled. What can I do now? How can I get her back? What should I say if she calls me for any reason? How can I make her want me? Any help and advice is really appriciated! |
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| Author: | Muze [ Mon Mar 14, 2011 12:21 am ] |
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It sounds like you didn't show enough interest the first time you dated. The answer lies not necessarily in showing her that you love her and will always be there for her initially but moreso in trying to reestablish a relationship with her. In this case freeze outs and no contact don't help your situation. Try to set up a coffee date and do it more in the "friends" frame. Use some of the basic concepts of pick up to create attraction again. I would suggest not having sex until you are both ready to commit to a relationship. Then you can show her that you have changed are ready to put her first. Best of luck. - Muze |
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| Author: | kaDak8 [ Mon Mar 14, 2011 9:48 am ] |
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I'm fucked now... I went over to her place last night and waited for her for about 3-4 hours in the car. Then she finally came home drunk from a party at 4 am so I met her. She was surprised at first. I told her that I'm totally in love with her and I wanna move togerther with her and live my life with her. I also told her that I'm totally comitted and we can make it work. But then she told me that she got over me, and she was sorry for sending mixed signals. She said that it would be better for both of us if she never contacted me again because she does not want to fuck my emotions. She wants to be alone she said. I checked her mailbox again and it turned out that she has been seeing other guys for 9 months. What now? Please help! |
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| Author: | Txacoli [ Mon Mar 14, 2011 10:30 am ] |
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I think you should just move on. The only reason you feel like you love her so much is because she dumped you. When other boys play with your toy, you suddenly want it back. Besides, you told her how you feel and she said she wanted to be alone. There are other girls, go out and game and just have fun. Stay single for a while and enjoy it! You've had a good run with your ex and you're still so young. It's really really awesome to be 25 and single! So wish your ex the best of luck and tell her to change her passwords, because you'll just be obsessing over her if you keep reading her email. I know this may not be what you wanna hear, but I think many guys here would agree with me on this one and I think you know all of this deep down. Good luck! |
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| Author: | kaDak8 [ Mon Mar 14, 2011 11:20 am ] |
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Quote: The only reason you feel like you love her so much is because she dumped you.
This is true, strange and very sad at the same time. Now her value has increased 1000% in my mind.Do you guys think it would be beneficial if I asked her to change her fb and gmail passwords? Then she would obviously realize that I know how unfaithful she's been. Should I also tell her that I'm deeply disappointed in her? Would that help ever reconnecting with her? |
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