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| Author: | mastvin [ Sat Mar 12, 2011 2:31 am ] |
| Post subject: | ladder theory common ex problem. |
Well I broke up with my gf because I started being indecisive and undominant so she was losing attraction. I froze her out for a good month and we just started talking again. We hung out a couple times and about a week ago we were at a party and she was really drunk and started making out with me but wouldnt let me f-close. I made the enormous mistake of admitting that I still had feelings and wanted her back when she wouldn't fuck and she said she wasn't down. I got kind of emotional, big mistake number 2, and threatened to cut her out of my life and deleted her off of facebook and her number and stuff then readded her a day or two ago. Now I'm hardcore friendzoned I think. She texts me like 4/5 times a day and I try and keep conversations short and just treat her like a girl I just started dating but I feel like I'm setting myself up to be an emotional tampon. Ladder Theory would dictate that I'm on a friends ladder but I've been here once before a few years ago with a LTR and I started fucking her again by telling her I couldn't talk to her anymore then she flipped and begged for me back. But that didn't seem to work a week ago. Right now I feel like I have 3 options: make myself less availabe then use sex as a means to let her back in, freeze her out, or maybe incite jealously by subtely letting her find out about all the girls I've fucked in the past month? Suggestions? I just want to F-close, nothing more. |
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| Author: | Hakuna [ Sat Mar 12, 2011 5:17 am ] |
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lol I think you answered your own question. Freeze out / use jealousy. Build attraction the same way you would with any girl. Push/pull, Alpha allure, make yourself wanted by other women. On a side note, I don't think you should be so adamant about f-closing her. When you ego-invest yourself into a girl (work really hard to get her, and then rationalize working that hard), your mind subconsciously puts her on a pedestal. Breeding grounds for Oneitis. |
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| Author: | mastvin [ Sat Mar 12, 2011 7:07 pm ] |
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but i mean are you supposed to game ex-gfs like any other girl? I feel like in objective theory it should be 10X easier but it just gets 10X harder because lingering emotions get in the way. |
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