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| Author: | thisguy01 [ Mon Mar 07, 2011 3:23 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Telling dates you are or arn't seeing other women |
I have never heard any advice on this and I have a feeling this is as common knowledge to any man but I just don't know... In the book "The Game" Style mentions once or twice on how you must assure the girl you are not just interested for sex and want something more. He advocated lieing to them as it would make them more comfortable when it came to the first time of sex. My close friend, whom also nails a lot of women, tells me he has always been honest with any girl he picks up. He tells them that they are not the only girl, and he is seeing other women and it's up to them if they are okay with that. He takes an honest and bold approach and it works for him. I have had a lot of LMR lately.. The last two girls I took out on dates both backed out of sex at the last minute and nothing ever came after it(this was from different reasons, mainly me fucking up in the social department afterword). But I never really told them before hand if I was or wasn't just in it for a f-buddy, or if I was or wasn't seeing other women.. Those statements always make me worried if I were to say them. But I am not looking for a relationship. I am just looking for a sex partner(as many men unfortunately). And.. I don't know if I should be honest about this.. Any advice on this? |
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| Author: | Maxovic [ Mon Mar 07, 2011 4:00 pm ] |
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My advice, Yes be honest. Why? Because it's true. Just be honest :p That's what gambler does. |
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| Author: | snakeeater1337 [ Mon Mar 07, 2011 4:07 pm ] |
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I would definitely go with the being honest and plain. However, it's not something that you need to bring up. You don't have to be so upfront by saying that she's only a FB but you should tell her that you're not exclusive. If she asks, you should say that you're not looking to be exclusive but I wouldn't recommend telling her you're only in it for sex because it'll obviously make her feel like a whore. Women like the honest approach though because then she won't feel bad about seeing other guys, either. It's interesting that you say "sex partner" rather than short term or long term relationship. Is your only goal to strictly have sex or do you still go out with the girls and do stuff? |
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| Author: | Ryan Black SashaPUA [ Mon Mar 07, 2011 4:39 pm ] |
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Quote: be honest
The only thing I'd add, is that I usually tell her it's non-exclusive AFTER we've had sex a few times and hung out.I feel this isn't really lying because we're just getting to know each other - I'm not sure I WILL actually see her again, therefore explaning the non-exclusive part would be pointless because we're not even IN a "relationship" yet. There aren't any expectations after just one or two times having sex, but any more than that and she will start assuming that you're in a standard monogamous relationship unless you expressly tell her otherwise. |
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| Author: | thisguy01 [ Mon Mar 07, 2011 6:03 pm ] |
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I have to add with the last comment, that I HAVE actually told the girls i'v slept with already that I wasn't looking for something serious at the time being(i'v said it in bed with a smile right after finishing up..) This of course is easier because they have already givin you something and become more attracted to you because of it(usually) One of the LMR girls I had mentioned actually said these words to me as I pulled her into the bedroom after making out, "I don't have sex unless i'm in a relationship". Right there.. I wanted to break it down for her what i'm about. I wanted to be honest.. Or should I say, I wasn't sure if I should be honest.. I actually can't remember what I had said at the time(it wasn't good) but I never mentioned if I was or wasn't interested in a relationship(but I wasn't interested!) So I mean before sex for the most part, as i'v had no problem saying it to the ones i'v already had sex with. Oh and to the question about the sex partner thing.. I actually don't care about dates as much.. As gay as this sounds, i'd go out with my friends over a girl anyday. The only reason I would ever bring them out is to keep them from thinking they're a slut when I call them over for sex.. So yes, I do take them out.. Occasionally.. |
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