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| Author: | jrs87 [ Fri Mar 04, 2011 6:57 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Easy ways to be less outcome dependent? Games/mindsets etc. |
I recently read an article by Keychain on Rapid eculation (http://www.theattractionforums.com/keyc ... ation.html). It's about esculating really fast (no, really?) and about how most guys dont esculate as fast as that could because they don't know ehre their limit is. So they kind of guess how fast they should go, which is often too slow. (I know from my experience that I have had girls get bored becuase I am not esculating, or think that I am not interested...but this slow esculation in my case was a lack of confidence.) Anyway, this quote made me excited: "If you haven’t already, have a go at escalating really hard and fast and see what happens. Try this, you may blow a few sets but the finer distinctions are worth it." It sound scary at first to all those people that still feel quite a bit of approach anxiety, but it makes me feel like I care about the outcome less. My purpose isn't to pull that girl, but rather to find the limit to the speed that I can exculate. It reminds me of when I was on a night out and wasn't really feeling like appraoching, making excuses etc and generally being a bit of a girl. Then I said to my mate, "whoever get the most girls tonight wins £10". My game was suddenly tight. I mean probably the best it's ever been. I really didnt care about the outcome of a particular girl because I had another agenda. Individual girls didn't matter, what mattered was the overall number. I know another similar method is setting goals, seen in this article: http://www.braddocksblog.com/2009/11/18 ... women-fast By setting goals (eg. open 3 sets tonight) you are not as outcome dependent because the most important thing is to reach your goal and gain experience. It doesn't matter if they all fuck up..you are reaching the goal. And this drop of pressure on the outcome makes you feel more at ease and actually more likely that you it will go well. Or again, the old money game where your friend gives you BACK your own money every time you appraoch. Perhaps you only allow yourself to go for a cigarette or drink wonce you have approached a girl. Are there any other ways of overcomeing appraoch anxiety and getting used to approaching? |
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