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Author:  Spike007 [ Fri Mar 04, 2011 2:14 pm ]
Post subject:  She wants attention, when I give her that, she ignores me...
Ok so that's the deal. I k-closed this HB about 3 weeks ago. We had a really good time, we saw each other after that night (with other friends), we had a kind of "connection" but nothing serious. We do A LOT of kino, always touching hands ect. Anyway about 1 week ago, I started to get bored about her so I didn't txt her or talked to her on FB. Sometimes she sends some txt/FB message but I only answered half of them. Yesterday, she txt me something like : "Now you are ignoring me..".

I didn't answer because I saw her this same day. I didn't even talk about that txt, we talked about what are we doing that night. We went out. We were about 15 friends including me and her.

Here's the deal. I went to dance with her, and she started a kind of drama about me ignoring her...I was like ok there is the attention you want, let's go dance. She tells me "Fuck you" and went to the bar to get a drink with another guy...Btw, while we were talking, I said hi about to 4 friends passing by, including 1 ex. When I said hi to my ex and gave her a hug, she was pointing at her and acting like I did something wrong.

I was like ok, she's always rude but I didn't get that part where she didn't want to dance. I went to the dancefloor anyway. I started to dance with a random chick. The HB saw me and she started to dance with guys that we came with. I clearly saw that she wanted my attention. Anyway I didn't talk to her after that. That same night, we saw each other on a restaurent after the bar. I was with some friends while they were eating all together. I went to there table to say hi and they started to talk about one of the HB I met that night. I was like nice, they are DHV me. :P I didn't say anything to her (only hi when I said hi to everyone).

When they were leaving, she came to see WITH one of the guy she danced with. They were holding hands. I told her "I don't want drama, I just to have fun girl." She didn't answer to that. She only asked me if I want a sip of her drink. I said No, then she told me once again that I Fucked up.

Someone please explain to me what happened? Did I really fucked up things with her? This already happened once. We didn't talk to each other for about a week, then when we saw each other on a café it was a lot of fun.
Author:  Drak [ Fri Mar 04, 2011 3:06 pm ]
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From the sounds of things she's extremely jealous and insecure, and is just playing stupid games with you.

I would personally either freeze her out for a bit or simply tell her to stop playing these games, and then move on if she continues, you're alot better off without
Author:  Spike007 [ Fri Mar 04, 2011 3:57 pm ]
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Yes it's what I thought. The thing is I just checked my phone and I txted her when I went home..

It was something like :

Me : Wtf you are weird

Her : Why dude you are weird?

I didn't answer, I guess I passed out. :P

So I should freeze her out until I see her or she txt me?
Author:  Spike007 [ Fri Mar 04, 2011 6:35 pm ]
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Ok so that's what just happened (txt) :

Her : Why you were telling me I'm weird?

Me : I just read the txt, I was really drunk. Sorry I didn't mean it sexy :P

Her : You were f**** mean to me yesterday lol (I this point, I already excused myself once so I didn't want to say sorry again)

Me : No way.. You didn't stop saying I was ignoring you. Drama queen :)

Her : No it was actually true you were ignoring me and yesterday you didn't stop saying I am weird and I changed lol

Me : I didn't know I was that drunk. But you know you are one of my favorite redhead anyway stop it. :P (She's don't have red head actually :P)

Her : :P

I think I did good. Any feedback on the situation? I wanted to say "I will make it up to you" but I didn't want to sound too needy.
Author:  AdamThomas [ Fri Mar 04, 2011 9:21 pm ]
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She's ignoring and giving you shit because you started ignoring her texts/Facebook first, that's where you fucked up.
Author:  Spike007 [ Fri Mar 04, 2011 10:14 pm ]
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I still got a shot no? I mean she is "punishing" me but she can still be interested.
Author:  ltommy [ Fri Mar 04, 2011 11:42 pm ]
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I would say yes you probably still have a shot, but would you rather have someone who acts like this or someone who would have fun? Just keep doing your thing by going out and meeting other people who would enjoy having fun. Don't deal with the shit she is throwing at you. 8)
Author:  Mack 2.0 [ Sat Mar 05, 2011 1:07 am ]
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i'd tell her i loved her, shoot it in her eye, then dump her

no, i'm not being sarcastic
Author:  First-Rate [ Sat Mar 05, 2011 7:08 am ]
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I still got a shot no? I mean she is "punishing" me but she can still be interested.
interesting.

i mean, she wouldnt have put on a show at the bar like that (dancing with the other guy, etc)....if she wasnt trying to direct it AT you. and since YOU were still on her mind enough to make such a move...clearly that would suggest that you may have a shot.

But i dont think its a direction you want to go. She was upset that you ignored her texts to start with....then you ignored her as your friends (and another girl) passed by when you could have been focused only on her....and lastly, you told her that, "you were giving her the attention she wanted" -- while its not true, you didnt, cause you were saying hi and hugging other people....its ALSO not a great idea to tell a girl you are doing something "for" them as if its a favor -- when its something you could have given her without having to point it out.


that said---she sounds as if its not a good person you want to get involved with anyway....she sounds as though she will constantly be sending you messages and asking where you are and what you are doing and trying to make plans with you 8 nights a week and then if you break one plan in the future shes going to be asking why there is a problem and if you are mad at her ...etc......shes gonna ask why you dont reply to her text messages within 30 sec and all that --- from the story you told (unless you left out parts)...it sounds like she is far too much work to deal with.

personally....it sounds to me as if you only want her cause you cant have her. you had her to start and you didnt want her (which is why you didnt text her back and why you were giving hugs to other girls)....but the moment she turned the tables and she acted like she was the one who didnt want you --- now you are here asking how you can have a chance with her. Think back a few weeks when you didnt reply to her texts....remember how she wasnt 'so special' back then....and know she is the same girl now (if not worse) and how you still dont need her or want her. i think you will find that shes not worth your time and that you really, deep down, arent all that interested in her anyway.
Cheers.
Author:  recon10 [ Sat Mar 05, 2011 9:00 am ]
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Id say you shouldnt have ignored her texts but i think she would still have wigged out on you at some point. Shes obviously a bit psycho

My opinion: you have to read this post and then dont think about her. Its over. Be polite and nice but with utter indifference. Invest no emotion in her, but do be civil. From my experience, girls like that - like wild animals- need boundaries and discipline. Its trench warfare and you cant flinch. doing so will prove you dont give a fuck and can get any girl you want, and she'll want you more because of it. DO NOT suck up to her

Thats my opinion but im certainly no pua. Good luck
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