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Author:  devi4nt [ Wed Feb 23, 2011 12:06 am ]
Post subject:  How do you know when you are in the friend zone?
Hi

Sorry for posting a very common post on here but how do you know when you are 100% in the friend zone?

I went to a gig tonight with a girl I know. There was no awkard silences. Conversation was good, she was lauging at my jokes and touching her hair (IOI) plus her body language was centered towards me (an open attitude and feet pointing towards me).

I used Kino as much as I could (Im not a natural at kino so what I achieved tonight was a big improvment for me, It felt good).

I just dont know where to take it from here and how would I know if Im in the friend zone or not? I mean she never mentioned any other guys/ex's or crushes infront of me and wasn't treating me like a 'friend' but it was anything more either.

She mentioned at one point that how she hated that everyone in her house (5 girl friends) were all getting boyfriends and spending loads of time with them. Was this a hint I didnt act on or not? I feel like I missed a chance for not asking her to expand on that point.

Any advice much appreciated! 8)
Author:  quickdrawyall [ Wed Feb 23, 2011 12:17 am ]
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It's better to just treat every girl you meet as if she's attracted to you. When you're acting that way, they'll usually believe you and go with it.
Author:  devi4nt [ Wed Feb 23, 2011 12:27 am ]
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Thanks man. I guess this is true. I mean I was reading about Mystery saying to always sound enthusiastice about everything even when its not something that interesting becuase that way she'll perceive it as interesting.

Will deff try and go in with this attitude from now on. Thanks
Author:  Mack 2.0 [ Wed Feb 23, 2011 1:55 am ]
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when she starts to share intimate details about her menstrual cycle it's all downhill
Author:  Armando316 [ Wed Feb 23, 2011 2:36 am ]
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It's better to just treat every girl you meet as if she's attracted to you. When you're acting that way, they'll usually believe you and go with it.
This is interesting. I never really thought of that.


How does it work, though?

How do you play up that?
Author:  quickdrawyall [ Wed Feb 23, 2011 3:24 am ]
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You treat her like you would treat a girl you know is into you?
Author:  Armando316 [ Wed Feb 23, 2011 3:26 am ]
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Well thats hard to think about because if I don't like a girl, I usually just tell her I'm not into her.

This game stuff is really new to me Im trying to learn how to play it.
Author:  quickdrawyall [ Wed Feb 23, 2011 4:48 am ]
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What do you mean? I'm saying treat all of them as if you knew they were interested in you. I don't see the complicated part.
Author:  Drak [ Wed Feb 23, 2011 12:59 pm ]
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Escalate and even go for a kiss, you'll know then for sure, you'll feel better for trying it even if you get rejected, at least then you'll know for sure.
Author:  devi4nt [ Thu Feb 24, 2011 11:01 am ]
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when she starts to share intimate details about her menstrual cycle it's all downhill
Haha :lol: She hasn't yet so I guess thats a good sign lol.

@ Drak, I'm not afraid to go in for a kiss close with woman I'm just not sure about his one how she will react. Plus she is friends with some of my friends (its how we met) so Id deff be seeing her around which would be awkward if she pulled away ha. Kind of want to make sure it's right first, But dont want to wait too long to fall in to the LJBF.

Anyone have some sure fire way to determine if you are in the friend zone or not?

Thanks
Author:  Ryan Black SashaPUA [ Thu Feb 24, 2011 11:30 am ]
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This really epitomises the whole problem with the indirect approach. You're so fucking shit scared you have to be 100% SURE she DEFINITELY is into you before you man up and actually do something about it.

STOP BEING A PUSSY!

If you like her, grow some balls and actually DO something about it.

You can never be sure of anything in life. But, I can tell you one thing - it's those situations where you did nothing and always wondered "what if" that are always worse than those situations where you actually did something about it and it didn't work out. ALWAYS.

If you continue to wait around hoping for some sign from God that proves 100% she's into you, you will wait FOREVER and she WILL friendzone you.

If you just act on the mutual attraction you think might be there, then the worst thing that can happen is she says no. If you don't react negatively, you can even try again a few times. It's ok - she'll see it as a COMPLIMENT that she's HOT and you're expressing an interest in her. There's nothing wrong with that.

If you have her number already, then get her out on a day 2.

If you don't then see her again in a social situation and get it then. You can either choose to isolate and escalate towards the end of that situation, or simply tell her she's cute and you want to see her again sometime later in the week, and exchange numbers.

If she gives you her number, meets you for a day 2, reciprocates anything more than the lightest, friendliest kino, or any combination thereof - SHE WANTS TO FUCK YOU.

Here's your new mindset: ANYTHING a girl says to you is her trying to hit on you. Every girl is attracted to you from the moment they see you. A girl that's never seen you or spoken to you? She totally just checked you out - go say hi! ;-)
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