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Author:  Xenon556 [ Wed Feb 16, 2011 1:07 am ]
Post subject:  What's the best way to deal with mixed signals
Hey Guys:
I am getting conflicting signals from this girl, and I feel like she is trying to "play" me:

Sometimes I will get stacks of IOI's:
Yesterday she ran up to me randomly gave me a HUGE hug and wanted to hold me. She held eye contact, her hips were facing me, she did several quick hair flicks, and I noticed her sneaking peeks throughout the night.

Other times she will completely ignore me acting as if I do not even exist. I still notice her friends glancing at me, and on one instance her whole group of friends turned and looked at me. She of course was still ignoring me.

Now obviously I don't want to run out and ask her why she does this, or tell her it bothers me, but at the same time I really think that a complete freeze out is uncalled for.

What are some tactics that would help me benefit from this situation? Is there anything that I could say that would tell her that I know "what's up?"
Author:  Nyseto [ Wed Feb 16, 2011 1:17 am ]
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Girls tend to do that a lot when they see you taking no action. If you read your post carefully, you only mentioned her IOI's, but none from you. She's just trying to get your attention man.

And I'd like to add to this. A common BIG mistake most PUAs make is not evolving with the girl. Connecting with a girl is perfectly acceptable when you know she likes you.
Author:  Xenon556 [ Wed Feb 16, 2011 1:23 am ]
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Ok, thanks. Would it be a good idea to set up a day two?

Also, could you elaborate on what you mean by evolving/connecting? I am sure that would help me understand this better.
Author:  Nyseto [ Wed Feb 16, 2011 1:27 am ]
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What I mean by evolving/connecting is that when a girl is giving you signals that she likes you, take the opportunity, don't just ignore it/play hard to get. Most of the time playing hard to get works against you. Think of it like meeting in the "middle". I'm not saying to completely show you're into her. When a girl gives you IOIs, don't hesitate to put some sticks on the fire and give her some IOIs back. The playing hard to get thing is good, but only at the very very beginning.

If a girl got/has the mindset of, "I'm going to play hard to get and ignore this guy." Then the best way to get her back in the zone is through face to face interaction. If you text her, call her, message her or anything while she has that mindset, you're more likely to get rejected.
Author:  Mack 2.0 [ Wed Feb 16, 2011 1:28 am ]
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Quote:
Girls tend to do that a lot when they see you taking no action. If you read your post carefully, you only mentioned her IOI's, but none from you. She's just trying to get your attention man.

And I'd like to add to this. A common BIG mistake most PUAs make is not evolving with the girl. Connecting with a girl is perfectly acceptable when you know she likes you.
i'm also interested in what you mean evolving...
Author:  Nyseto [ Wed Feb 16, 2011 1:38 am ]
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Evolving. I've had many lost opportunities when I let IOIs fly over my head or just acted like I didn't care. When you show 100% apathy, the girl either loses her interest or begins to act like it. The key is to show 50-75% apathy so you can just sit back and let her get closer little by little. People want what they can't have. Demand gets greater as they get closer and closer to what they want..as long as they know they can get it.

And to the OP, don't set up any day two's if you see her daily. Start off small with IOIs, just randomly kino her or something and watch her get back in the zone she was in before.
Author:  Xenon556 [ Wed Feb 16, 2011 4:48 am ]
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Thanks for that input. Lately it seems as if I only focus on being a challenge and being the prize.

I forgot that expressing my own interest is important too.

If I poke her or touch her when she walks by, would that be a good way to IOI?
Author:  MisterHyde [ Wed Feb 16, 2011 7:46 am ]
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Depends on where, bro. Squeezing her tits is no go and poking up her nose is a bad move of course. :wink:
But yeah, a little poke to the side when she walks by could work. Of course don't forget to mirror her. Do what she does when she's giving off IOIs.
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