Hello so I am kind of new to this forum, but I knew about PUA for a little while.
Okay what happen was I grew to like my friend. We been friends for like 2 years, but we just recently been hanging out a lot since I move in up stair of her apartment in a apartment complex. I ONLY starting liking her cause she broke up with her bf, and I just grew fond of her. We would go hang out one on one, chat and enjoy each other's company on a regular bases, and she would always invite me to hang out with her. When ever its just the two of us, i would flirt with her and light kino( grabbing her hand,rubbing back, hands on thigh etc..) and she seem okay with this. And when we talk, I would just stare into her eyes to see that she smiles towards me. With her, I would neg her about how cute it is when she is mad cause she acts like a big kid and so forth.
So I kino, isolate, tease, neg, use cocky & funny to her in hopes of getting me out the friend zone.
So on a Friday night, I went clubbing with her and a few friends. At the club, I was tipsy as hell so i started to dance with her( btw grinding with her is nothin new to me cause she seem ok with this). Bc I was drunk, I was like fck it, and kiss her cheeks, but she wasnt having it. She told me to stop. But i did it again. Then she just turn her cheeks, and i finally stop.
So later I was kick out of the club cause i was drunk, I waited for her and drove her home. In my car, I told her that i didnt regret kissing her. Here is pretty much the dialouge.
Me: I didnt regret what happen at the club. because I knew that if there is one thing that I learn from life is about taking chances. And that move was my chance with you.
Her: Its okay, what you did was fine.
Me: I thought that once you broke up with your boyfriend that your door would be open. So I knew if I want something I would have to go get it.
Her: I just don't see you that way. Your a really really good friend.
Me: So your telling me you don;t have any feelings at all towards me?
Her: I have a little, but its not enough, we are friends. Lets not make this awkward. I want everything to be normal.
Me: Well this is going to change everything, this is already awkward.
Her: Lets be friends.
Me: I can't do this, we can't hang out no more.
Then i forgot the rest LOL i was tired was fuck when I said this too. But in the end, I remember she was upset that I don't want to be friends no more.
Okay so next morning, i invite her out and talk about what happen. I basically ask why she cant accept me( i know so fckin AFC) and she was dont have those feelings. I asked her who she is talking to right now and she said nobody but she is causally messaging some other guy. Later, I told her to stand up, and I tried to kiss her and she turn her cheeks hahahah, I was like I gotta see if there is a spark between us. She was like YOU Should Ask. ( in my mind, i was like fck no, that is Pussy shit to ask a girl if i can kiss her).
In the end, i drove her home and said that we should start a fresh, start new. And I introduce myself all over again. She still want to be friends, but I was like we'll just go with the flow.
So okay, now I am thinking about saying this when she calls me to hang out.
Me: I know what you want, but sorry its not you its me. I just can't be around you anymore because who knows if i do somethin so stupid like forcing myself onto you again. I just cant risk hurting you. Lets give each other some time, and explore our options. Maybe in the future if you realize you do have feelings towards me, then maybe we can try things out and move slowly.
I want to say this bc I know she enjoys hanging out with me. So maybe she'll miss me. I also believe by saying this she will be prepare for me to hit on her when we ever hang out again. And in the fcking mean time, I will next this girl and move on and hit on other chicks.
What do you guys think? How should I approach this? And how badly do you think I fuck up?
Thanks,
Jamesbond
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