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Author:  Grindhouse [ Mon Feb 07, 2011 4:26 pm ]
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So I've been going on dates and hooking up with this girl and we met up at a party, we both said we wanted to see each other cause I had been sick for a week.

I get there and she acts kinda distant and avoidant, goes to the dance floor without me, but with some dude she's friends with and this girl she knows. So I follow and end up dancing with her after she acts weird and dances with her girl friend for a bit in the "maybe I can scare him off" dance. While we're dancing we make-out a bit and she drops this "you definitely like me more than I like you." Forget that she was drunk, forget that she was probably just testing me all night, and realize that coming from a girl who has told you she has feelings for you, that kinda stings regardless of if it's a test, drunk stupidity, or even what she believes to be the truth.

It got me thinking "how many other girls thought this?" and now the only thing I can think to do (cause I'm really into this girl and can see an LTR coming from it in the near future) is to be like, the next time I go out with her, "so I know it's kind of silly, but you seemed to really want to throw me off on Friday." or something along those lines. Any better suggestions of how to handle this would be great. Cause she mentioned her list of other guys (obvious test) but this didn't seem so much like a test as it did something she was actually thinking that she just drunkenly let slip...and it bothered me...obviously.

and yes, I still text her everyday cause Friday and Saturday she initiated, I just texted her first yesterday and we had our usual flirty conversation and she was throwing text IOIs, but also mentioning how some things I said, her and her roommate were laughing about, like I called her high maintenance and she goes "me and my roommate just laughed at that you really just don't know me, do you? :p" I mean I took it as an IOI that, hmm she's mentioning our conversation to her roommate, but it could also be a "hmm she's mentioning our conversation to her roommate and laughing about me....but she's telling me so she may or may not be making fun of me..."
Author:  Mack 2.0 [ Mon Feb 07, 2011 4:38 pm ]
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sounds like she is just having fun and she is picking up that you really like her. which is likely the truth as evidence by the fact that you were bothered by her mentioning other guys. this girl is just having fun, either you are down or you aren't. that's my two cents. maybe try telling her you like things how they are now, casual, no strings, and let her come to you? idk.
Author:  Grindhouse [ Mon Feb 07, 2011 4:44 pm ]
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sounds like she is just having fun and she is picking up that you really like her. which is likely the truth as evidence by the fact that you were bothered by her mentioning other guys. this girl is just having fun, either you are down or you aren't. that's my two cents. maybe try telling her you like things how they are now, casual, no strings, and let her come to you? idk.
the mentioning other guys isn't so much what bothered me, I just made fun of her for that and told her I have a list of girls, all rich models of course (not obnoxiously to seem AFC or like a douche, I was smiling and laughing) and then I go "and for some reason I'm in bed with you...(yeah I ended up at her place so I suppose she is just playing with me...

here's a link to that entire night, if that helps.

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Author:  bvanevery [ Mon Feb 07, 2011 7:21 pm ]
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Mack gave you good advice in the other thread. I'm gonna give the same advice in my own way. She's not an emotionally healthy person. She can't just give in a straightforward manner, she has to do it in a fucked up way to protect herself. Nothin' wrong with hittin' that, but if you wanna ride that merry-go-round, be prepared to jump off. When you talk about LTR stuff, my instinct is you're probably barking up the wrong tree. If you go for LTR anyways and find yourself 'doing drama' then you need to have the strength to walk away.

Short course on emotional health:
  • Be honest with yourself about your own baggage. Don't lie to yourself about it. Understand your problems. Work through them. Find solutions.
  • Do not allow emotionally unhealthy people into your life. Get them OUT. Keep them out.
There, that's it. Know yourself, and have standards. Problems solved.
Author:  Grindhouse [ Mon Feb 07, 2011 7:43 pm ]
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Mack gave you good advice in the other thread. I'm gonna give the same advice in my own way. She's not an emotionally healthy person. She can't just give in a straightforward manner, she has to do it in a fucked up way to protect herself. Nothin' wrong with hittin' that, but if you wanna ride that merry-go-round, be prepared to jump off. When you talk about LTR stuff, my instinct is you're probably barking up the wrong tree. If you go for LTR anyways and find yourself 'doing drama' then you need to have the strength to walk away.

Short course on emotional health:
  • Be honest with yourself about your own baggage. Don't lie to yourself about it. Understand your problems. Work through them. Find solutions.
  • Do not allow emotionally unhealthy people into your life. Get them OUT. Keep them out.
There, that's it. Know yourself, and have standards. Problems solved.
Man, I feel that entirely, and I realized she's just gonna continue this shit cause someone, somewhere along the line hurt her and made her insecure. The thing is, I've worked through most of my own baggage, and have my problems, for the most part under control. All I know is, she makes me happy, I make her happy, and I'm very into her for more than just sex. And for me...that's pretty rare as of late. But, of course, if necessary, I will GTFO out of there, but even with the great advice you just gave, I'm going to be a stubborn kid in this case and let this run it's course, if it develops into something and she's capable of opening herself up, then awesome, if it develops and she stays hot-and-cold to the point I can't deal with it, I end it immediately. If nothing happens, she wants to stay casual, I decide I want to stay casual, or either of us meet someone else, then so be it, that's how it worked it. I'm keeping it realistic, but I still like her enough that I want to try.
Author:  bvanevery [ Mon Feb 07, 2011 9:23 pm ]
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Yep you've got the right attitude.
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