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| Author: | zappo [ Thu Jan 27, 2011 9:05 am ] |
| Post subject: | In need of mature advice before i act to hastily |
Heres the situation I broke up with my ex about 25 days ago I seen one of my mates that was being all buddy with me all over her in this venue, " I aksed a friend what was josh doing with my ex " he replied with " shit thats your ex ? he totally k-closed her 2 weeks ago , he went up and said I totally pulled you and she said prove it and they k-closed" Naturally I would be fine with my ex seeing other people im not that much of a jealous guy , ive already seen her get off with other people I accept it and have k-closed numerous amounts of people infront of her also ( small clubnight we both go to) ,Its just when Its 2 weeks after a break up and your so called friend is pulling the moves on her( which i would of been fine with if he genuinely likes her and asked me about it) Its the fact that he was doing it secretly , Acting all buddy with me in the venue , trying to chat her up again in the venue but secretively . My initial response was Just punch him here right now , but i took a few seconds to calm down and came to the conclusion that I would seek the opinion of others and sleep on it and not let it ruin my night or game . .... which It didn't. This is why im asking for a general opinion on what I should do about this ( apart from man up except it and move on) Theirs just a certain level of shit Im willing to take off someone before I have to respond and this is one of these rare situations. The way I see it as, i can either be an ass whole about it and go down the whole " Im goign to hurt you road" or " overly except their new found relationship in hope that it backfires in his face. My heads a mess on this one I really need a mature answer before I make a mistake |
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| Author: | Adam_Steal [ Thu Jan 27, 2011 12:00 pm ] |
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Here is the thing, your friend is a guy and he is gonna do what guys do. However I think confronting him on it and asking him why he is going after your ex could be valuable. Don't do it in an angry way, but rather a concerned way. Just try and see if he is really interested in her or if he is just looking to get some. If he is just lookin' for some ass I'd say respectfully ask him to not do it with her. A good friend will understand your situation and back off. As for the girl...well there are many reasons she could be doing it too. She may just be trying to get back at you. I know my ex slept with one of my friends to get at me. |
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| Author: | Ryan Black SashaPUA [ Thu Jan 27, 2011 12:30 pm ] |
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Ask him in a calm manner whether getting with this one girl is actually worth losing his friendship with you. There are 3.5 billion women. Does he really have to go for this particular one, when he must know that it would be hurtful to you? It's his decision. |
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| Author: | D.O.S [ Thu Jan 27, 2011 1:58 pm ] |
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i can seriously relate man, got the same situation going on for me, i can accept it though because they're exclusive. about your 2 options do neither! none of them have ever worked very well for me, being an ass gets you in trouble and trying to ignore an obvious problem makes you beat yourself up about it. he is a friend so buy a sixpack (or more) have a sitdown and talk about it, tell him you're not liking the situation in a calm manner and things usually works out. good luck mate. |
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| Author: | LyricalDream [ Thu Jan 27, 2011 2:20 pm ] |
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First off - if he's doing that to your ex that's only like a few weeks ago, he's not a friend. So it actually doesn't matter. A friend doesn't go at an ex instead he goes first for approval and then after the ex. Really simple, really basic. It's the guy code. Anyways - like Blond said: Appraoch him in a calm way and talk to him about it. If he's a friend he'll respect it and come asking for your opinion about it more. However, if he's just a regular douchebag that hits on every girl - he'll problebly act like he doesn't care. If that's the case - distance yourself. Don't get mad. Stay calm & say "You're done for." & walk away ≠ LD |
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| Author: | kasabi [ Thu Jan 27, 2011 3:51 pm ] |
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Coo it Zappo! . . . Just play it reeaaaal cool . . . [youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hMBtrZE9ZBM[/youtube] And if you must confront him, please do it through a musical medium. A song is really the best way to accentuate all the emotions and drama that's tugging your soul. Take a look at these guys: |
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| Author: | zappo [ Thu Jan 27, 2011 5:19 pm ] |
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Cheers guys I realy appreciate the input And I totally agree LD that was the first thing i said when i found out " mother fxcker that's against the bro code !" Ive typed a message up to him and im going to send him it shortly Ive tried to keep my cool in it but i still feel realy immature sending this but as my mate said it makes me look weak if i dont do anything and makes it seem socaily acceptable for people to walk over me for some reason Ive put his name in it alot Quote: Just going to say it as it is Mike. I heard you got off with my ex 2 weeks after we broke up and was trying to do it again last night under my nose, Mike you do realize I would have been cool with it if you came to me and told me about the way you feel or were you too scared to tell me .But going behind my back, acting all buddy with me is making me look like a fxckin mug, Mike you obviously lack respect for me and I don’t have time for fxcktards like you . I hope whatever you gained out of it was worth it . Que alcohol excuse .....
and then a friend of mine added on the end of it town is going to be intresting ...And get some fxckin credit this shit is embarrassing to do on facebook .... cheers for your input |
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